Do you think religion will affect relationship?

Philippines
December 14, 2009 3:44am CST
Do you mind marrying someone who has different belief from you? Do you think marrying someone with different religion will affect childrens upbringing towards religions and belief? Or you don't care marrying someone with different religion as long as you are both in love with each other.
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@bellis716 (4805)
• United States
15 Dec 09
Religion or the lack thereof will affect a relationship. Even one who think their religion is unimportant when they are young is likely to change later.
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@aerous (13465)
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
For me I have different view with this matter. Because I prefer to marry a woman that we are in the same religion. This is one of my principles in life...my belief is that if you are in the same religion you know each other and you sure he/she is trusted because he/she have good relationship with God...
@jambi462 (4597)
• United States
15 Dec 09
That's a hard one to answer because on one side if you truly love someone enough then you should be willing to do anything to be with them but on the other side you need to stand up for what you believe in. So I guess it would all depend on what religion you were in and how faithful you were to it. But despite your religion I think that we should all really analyze how much we love and care for each other before we rush into breaking each other's hearts and end up regretting it.
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@jdyrj777 (6549)
• United States
15 Dec 09
Why do people always make divisions??? All these denomanations are man made. The family should seek out the teachings of the Bible. Not of the churches. Study the scriptures. Seek the truth.
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@suesan35 (479)
• Sri Lanka
15 Dec 09
It depends on the two people concerned. How understanding are they of their different religeons and the right to worship the diety you believe in. If even before marriage the two concerned are arguing about religion, then you have to be careful, becoz you can be sure they will definitely be arguing about it after marriage. As for children, the parents should come to an understanding before the children are born. I know of couples who decide and agree that the children should follow either the mothers' or fathers religion; mostly the mothers' since its the mother who's mostly with the children when they are very young. I also know of parents who have decided that if its a boy, he should follow the fathers religion and if its a girl, she will follow the mothers religion. One should not be blind just because you are in love.
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@robertx (150)
• Romania
14 Dec 09
There are times when one of the parteners converts to the other's belief, there are times when both plan from the start to wich religion will the kid embrace, even when each keeps their own religion, and there are times when such couples become outcasts and rejected by the society... So I think such marriages require more plans and thought then normal ones, but are more and more common these days, and most seem to work out.
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
Well there are some people who are not concern with their belief and religion. They don't take it as important in their life. It could be hard for a relationship to work without a strong foundation of faith. Well it depends on the person anyway. Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@robertx (150)
• Romania
15 Dec 09
That is true, there are those who don't care about their religion. But they should care if the society around them cares about it. I know couples wich had lots of trouble in similar cases, like they were prevented to attend each to their own church, after was known they picked someone with different beliefs. Now, some don't care much about visiting the church either, but others do. There could be lots of trouble when society around such couples is not open to these things. And many will fight a lot when deciding wich God should their kid follow.
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
14 Dec 09
It all depends on yourself. Do you want o live by your faith ? If yes, then maybe there shall be different norms between you and your partner. For instance, Christian believe in 1 partner but moslems allow 4 wives. And then what about both of your big families ? If they leave you alone with your choice, it's ok, but if not, there maybe trouble later in life. In Indonesia, this problem is non-stop. Even if the couple didn't mind, sometimes it's their aunts and uncles who create the problems.
@agv0419 (3028)
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
In a way I think it can affect the relationship and children upbringing. It can cause confusion to the children because their parents have different beliefs and faith. Love conquers all so religion would not be a problem if you really love each other. I haven't experience this so I don't know if this kind or relationship going to work.
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
Yeah, most often the parents, brothers, sisters, aunts and uncles are the one who creates problem, and make the situations more complicated. Especially when the person is very close with her/his family, so it really affect with the relationship. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@jenzai (390)
• Philippines
17 Dec 09
It's a complicated marriage to have two conflicting religion. It would take maturity and great love to reconcile or compromise the issue of religion. If love is that strong I would probably go for it. I believe love conquers all.
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
Yeah, it's really complicated with couple have different religions especially when both were devoted on each belief. It takes time for each other to learn to accept,adopt and understand their respective religion and there would always come a time when children also affected on this issues. But yeah, you're right true love conquers everything. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• China
15 Dec 09
that's would be problem on your later together life with the different religion if you can't get a common idea about something. i'd like to live with someone who have the same religion and belief with me so we can do almost everthing togher without any argurement.
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
Yeah, I prefer to have the same. I would likely want to live someone with the same religion. As I believe that religion and faith will build a strong foundation in a relationship and aside from that I don't want to bring confusion to my children. ANyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@coolcoder (2019)
• United States
15 Dec 09
I wouldn't marry someone who wasn't of the same religion. There would be too many contradictory beliefs, and I wouldn't want any children I might have to be confused as to what they should and shouldn't believe. Mixed marriage is a big no-no for me.
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
Yeah, I don't want either to marry someone who has different religion. Since I prioritize my belief and marrying someone with different belief only create confusion and misunderstanding. Although there's love, but we all know that love is not enough for a relationship to work out, there are so many other factors to consider and one of it is religion. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@MimiRemo (420)
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
I think so. Marrying someone of different religion is okay since you have somehow dealt with it before you decide to get married. But sharing these religious beliefs with your children wouldn't be easy, they will be confused of the opposing practices and of which is better to be followed. Some are really strict to their faith, even to the kind of food they should not eat. Some couples sacrifice, one converts to the other religion out of love for his or her partner.
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
Yeah, you're right, religion will greatly affects childrens understanding towards religions and belief. Like you said there are some religions who strictly imposed certain rules in their religions, such as right foods to eat, proper clothes to wear and anything. While others don't have any rules, they were free.It's much better when partner will convert her/his religion for the best of everyone. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• Philippines
14 Dec 09
Hi. I'm glad that I've never been into this situation. I could not imagine my family going their separate ways at church service time because the mother and father of the family have different religion. I believe this would cause confusion to the children as well. Personally, I believe that religion would significantly affect any love and family relationships.
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
Yeah, I agree with you. A couple with different religion will bring confusion to their childrens belief. Especially when they are both devoted to their religion. It will create conflict and misunderstanding. Especially ones belief plays a major role in understanding of life and its meaning. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• Romania
14 Dec 09
I don't mind to married with someone wich is other religion that mine.... If i love her is no problem for me...But in the world are som religions that are stricted...adn they alow marriage only with person of the same religion
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
yeah, there are some religion that prohibit their member to get married with someone who doesn't belong to them. Or you have to convert your religion in order to be allowed to get married. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@enieweiz (98)
25 Jan 10
in my opinion, i think i wouldn't care if i would like to marry someone from another religion. the problem would be that the culture and beliefs in the relationship and of course the in-laws. that would be the problem. people would not approve of your relationship. if you are meant for each other then you two would come two would come to terms.
• Philippines
24 Dec 09
I don't know but well maybe it depends on the both person. But for me I am very loyal with my religion and no plan in shifting another religion. And for instance I am still single and fell in love in a guy with different religion we should have to discuss about our situation and have to deal something so that in a long run it wont create a problem.
@MsTickle (25058)
• Australia
19 Dec 09
If two people have decided to marry, isn't it a given that they will have discussed issues like this and others? Would they not tell each other where they stand with their religion and how each other of them fit into the scheme of things? In fact, would they not have made plans regarding children and when to have them and how they will be raised. Certainly it's a wonderful thing to be in love and to want to marry but I think couples don't discuss issues and make plans before marriage and when their expectations are not being met problems arise. I think if either both or one persons in the relationship are religious then of course there must be some understanding reached. Taking things for granted only leads to problems down the road.
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
17 Dec 09
I am not sure it really depends on the people involved. I know sometimes its said to never do that. Marry people who are unequally yolked. Or that carry a different belief than you. I think things work better if you do have the same religion. Or at least if the beliefs are very similar so that they don't collide with what each persons goals and aspirations are.
@hagirl (1296)
• United States
16 Dec 09
I think if you love someone that should not be a issue. I know about this situation. I could not even get married in my own church because I was saved and my husband was not. I do respect my church though for standing up for what they believe in withour changing their views because my dad is a long time friend of the church and even taught a class that my pastor had in college. My husband got more upset then me but that is because he does not understand the scripture in this essence. It all went down beautifully though. I got married in another church in which alot of members from my church attended and even the pastor. So it was all good. I was even strict on a few things myself at the time I went forward in church I was living with my current husband. The pastor asked me about joining the church to become a member. I told him I did not want to join and get baptized until I was married to my now husband. He really respected me for that and told me so. Again I did not want to put anyone in a awkward position. I went before the church in January and got baptized in march after my wedding in February.
@bingchen (1126)
• China
16 Dec 09
i dont think that differnt religion will affect relationship.even we have same religon,but i still talk about it with them.i think that everybody have his owned mind,so their way of expression is differnt.it is not regard with love.if i love someone who have different religion with me.i pay attention to his character and his moral,not religion quetion.
• Canada
16 Dec 09
I think that it shouldn't matter if you love each other. I don't mind different beliefs but it is easier for me to say that because I don't subscribe to any particular denomination. Religion is very complicated so if you are both religious but differently so, you have to find a comprimise before you decide before marriage.