be happy be happier be increasingly happy

China
December 14, 2009 6:18pm CST
when my friend or my family feel upset ..i will persuade them be a optimism.. i will say , come on forget it ,it's nothing ,let it go. However everybody will feel upset how can you persuade yourself when you feel unhappy . i'm sure that not everybody is a optimism.when bad things happened to us ,we cannot change our feelings soon , we need time to digest it .and at this time i don't need any talks i need a quiety surrounding to let me calm down so when people around me feel upset neither unhappy i will not say anything ..i will try to stay with them if they need somebody to talk i will be a good listener am i right? what will you do when your friend or family feel unhappy?
5 responses
@mkings (289)
• Germany
15 Dec 09
Its will depend the on the event which that person is unhappy,In case of deayth you will be by that person and try to cheer them up,in the case of a separation or a broken relationship you could do something else.So in this cas each even or unhappy situation will surely have its way of handing it and each individual will know how to do since that person is so close and he will sure know what the like or dislike.
• China
15 Dec 09
thank you for you writing .. good luck..
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@dpk262006 (51571)
• Delhi, India
16 Dec 09
Hi pe! Welcome to mylot family as you appear to be a newbie here. It is true that optimism does help us boost our moral. Thinking negatively on any issue could make us feel depressing. I also believe that 'Hope for the best and be prepared for the worst'. Even when I land in odd situations, I try to maintain my cool and keep encouraging others. We need to cheer up, even if it is seemingly an adverse situation, else we will be doomed.
• China
16 Dec 09
hi i'm really a newbie and so amateur i need your people's help and i will take your attitude to bad things thank you again and i hope you will enjoy your everyday
@dpk262006 (51571)
• Delhi, India
17 Dec 09
We all were new, when we joined here on mylot, it is with passage of time, we became older here and gained some useful experience and I hope so would you. Best of Luck!
@Hatley (145916)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Dec 09
peiciangshu hi I am a believer in that we hold our happiness in our own hands. we can decide to be miserable as we have problems or we c an decide to be happy inspite of our problems, the latter is more apt to help you fix your problems if you can, or go around them if you cannot. so lets be happy and smile a nd confound our enemies. lol lol lol.
• China
15 Dec 09
hatley ,thanks for your response,it touches me a lot . i hate my daddy so much that i didn't call him dad from high school.. maybe i need to forgive him if i want to be happy.. thanks again enjoy your everyday
• United States
15 Dec 09
If my friend or family is unhappy I will probably talk to them. But I really don't feel emotions so it will be no problem to talk with them. I have been through very tragic moments and lived through them, and I am still living. Living is like avoiding wrong things and when you see a problem you just realize it's there and have faith in God that it will go away, because it will. Because problems happen, that is the way of this world.
• China
15 Dec 09
thanks ..i will face the problems what happened and i will try my best to get over it .. good luck
@ToughTate (143)
• United States
15 Dec 09
I choose to act instead of speak. Show the person how much they mean to you in any way possible. Whether it be fixing something for them, taking them out, or simply listening to them. When they see that you truly care about how they feel, they will feel happiness swell up within them. People aren't always this simple but I would recommend just being there and letting the person know you will be there.
• China
15 Dec 09
thanks for your kind advice .. hope you have a good time everyday.