Would you send your old-aged relatives to the home for the aged?

Philippines
December 15, 2009 3:22am CST
If you have old-aged relatives who have no children to take care of them, would you send them to the home for the aged instead of taking good care of them? It is a common practice for other people in other countries to better send old people in the care of institutions for the old. How would you decide on this?
7 responses
@sagnik42 (3595)
• India
15 Dec 09
In our country we respect the elders and do as much as we can to help the old age relatives. I have never seen any old age relative being put to institutions to take care of them. So, I will never do such a thing. But practically speaking, I cannot take care of everybody. I can take care of 3-4 persons at the most. I think institutions are good for those who have no relatives at all. If they have someone, I think they should be taken care of. It is so sad to watch them live without any relatives in old age homes. It is so depressing.
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
It is really very depressing not only for us who see their plight much more to them who stay there. I would not also bring any old-aged relative of mine to the home for the aged.
@sagnik42 (3595)
• India
15 Dec 09
A nice goal to have in life. I feel it is a insult to them, who have cared for us when we were young and have us the person we are. Let's just hope we can keep our promises.
@Hazelrose (2182)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
Hi dorisday1971,Yes that is true,some countries were doing like that.But here in the Philippines it is one of our filipino culture to care for our olds,Besides,it is written in the Bible to take care of our olds in their last days.Either parents or relatives.Never to bring them in the institution for the aged.Thanks,God Bless!
• Philippines
20 Dec 09
You are right. it is part of the Filipino culture to take care of the oldies instead of putting them in insitutions and have otehr people take care for them. That's how we show our respect to our elders. Happy mylotting Hazelrose.
• India
15 Dec 09
There are both pros and cons to this.I would hate to see my relatives end up in an Old Age Home.I would like to take care of them. But my resources are limited and I can only take care of my parents,not others.But on the other hand, good Old Age Homes have come up where if enough money is paid, good care is take of old people.It is better for older people to reside here if resources are not a problem,than be with their relatives who treat them as useless junk and barely tolerate them.
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
There are only a few Home for the Aged institutions in our country and it is a pity to see them live there. No matter how nice the building is, I think being in such kind of institution per se is something which will give an old person an impression that he is a useless junk.
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
I wouldn't do it. I ask myself, what if it would happen to me? What would I feel? Well, I would be much happier spending the rest of my life (what's left of it), with the people I know, people that I'm close to and those who I care for. I don't want to grow older with strangers, it's like a very lonely experience. So I wouldn't do it at all.
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
it will really be a very lonely experience to stay away from teh people you are close to and familiar too. I wouldn't also do that for I also don't want to stay in a home for the aged.
@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
21 Dec 09
My mother is 80 and still going strong. She drives everywhere, even on long trips, and takes many bus trips. She would hate living in a nursing facility, and I can't see that she'll ever be willing to go there. Besides, her best friend was in an assisted care facility for awhile, and she moved out. She's 86, and she said she just couldn't stand living with all those old people any more. She gets around just as much as my mother does. My grandmother was in a home for a couple of years when no one could care for her any longer, and she was miserable. I'd never send anyone to one of those places if I could help it.
@savypat (20245)
• United States
15 Dec 09
I am going to look at this from a different point of view since I am one of the old age relatives. My feeling is that I don't want to be a burden on my family. As long as the home I go to is a good one, I'll go.
@carolbee (16233)
• United States
15 Dec 09
In my situation, we had to send both my parents to a nursing home once they began to forget where they lived or how to do simple tasks any longer. Both had dimentia and eventually they couldn't live on their own any longer. Both my brother and I just couldn't take care of them since it was dangerous for either to live in our homes. Non-violent, caring parents can change into unpredictable parents who want to rebel. I didn't want to do this to both parents, at different times, but had to in order to keep them safe and secure. It haunted me for years since I wasn't positive it was the right thing to do. Felt at times like I trashed both my parents. Then I realized it was the best thing to do at the time for their safety. If I had to make a decision for another relative who had no children, it would depend on the current status of the relative. Would need to make sure the relative was safe, warm, feed and comfy.