Did you have a nice childhood?

@dloveli (4369)
United States
December 15, 2009 6:47am CST
When I was growing up we had a good life. We went on some great vacations. I had birthday parties. I remember my dad would wake me up in the morning singing a song he made for me. We did family things. Then it began to change. One day I woke up and my dad wasnt there. THey had gotten separated. I was devastated. I hated my dad picking me up on weekends. Overall my parents made sure we had all we needed. My parents ended up getting back together which I honestly think they did it for us. Eventually when I was in high school they ended it. At this point me and my sisters were glad. My parents were strict though. I had to be in the house up until the day I graduated High school at 8:30 pm. They were strict. looking back now I can see why. I have children that I worry about now. My parents didnt want me walking around the streets with no place to go. I dont want my kids to do that either. Overall I would say I had a good childhood. I understand what my parents wanted for me and why they made the decisions they did. Did you have a good child hood? What would you do different? dl
18 responses
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
No, I didn't have a good childhood life but still it made a better and a stronger person. My stepfather sexually harassed me without my mother's knowledge that time. Our maid were being sexually harassed and worst being rape by him in an old mansion we used to live in. My mom was not always around because she's too busy chattering with our neighbors and friends. My half sister that time is a daddy's girl so she would do anything that would please my stepfather (her biological dad) ranging from making embarassing jokes around me, making me look like a fool, pulling my hair and knocking me out just for fun especially when mom is not around. Of course we change our maids every year because mom refused to believe that they were harassed by her "great father figure husband" (my stepfather). That leave me not wanting more to exposed what he is doing to me aside from his threat that he would kill me and my mother and as a child, I was greaty affected by that so I keep pretending to be dumb and silent. Growing up with him is a pain that I want to forget. Though the more I tried to forget it the more I remember it and hurts me a lot but then that hurt drive me to be strong and be good in what I do. Until it eventually paid off - I graduate from highschool with flying colors and I'm a licensed medical professional right now. And oh, during my highschool years mom and him had already ended their relationship because of his unending habbit of womanizing. Thanks to him for being a part of my life though. The hurt and joys I felt throughout my life made me appreciate "life" more. Be strong and courageous enough to embrace the imperfections of life has to offer for we will never know how challenging and wonderful it could be at the end. sweetsacrifice
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
18 Dec 09
Hey Sweet, I just want to let you know how thankful I am that you have shared such a terrible experience. I am proud that you became a better person for this. Its clear that you are a role model for other victims. Its sad that your mother wouldnt believe you. After all parents are supposed to protect their children not prey on them. Your stepfather is, was , and always will be an animal. Im sorry if I have offended you. You should confront him when you feel stronger. Let him know you know what he did to you. Why should he sleep soundly everynight. Thinking he got away with something. I can tell you this my friend, you are not the only victim. You are a remarkable person. You didnt let him get you down. You are a SURVIVOR girl! DONT let anyone tell you different. I am glad you are here on MyLot. Let me be the first to say YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I am here if you need to talk or vent. I never want you to let your past affect your future. You dont even know me but I want you to know I am here for you. Please dont be sad. You survived and became a success. Thats something to be proud of. Happy Holidays. I hope you get all the peace and happiness you deserve. Your expression of good will is outstanding. Happy MyLotting friend. DL
• United States
22 Dec 09
It was okay. I was sort of a dressed, negative child. But it wasn't all that bad looking back at it.
• United States
22 Dec 09
depressed* not dressed, lol
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
16 Dec 09
That was awesome. You seem to have a pretty good childhood. I did too and if I have the chance to relive it once more, I would. But I wouldn't change anything at all about it.
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
I had sad experiences in my childhood life...theres a teacher in my elementary that still now I can't forget because she shouted and hurt me infront of my classmates..i was so embarrassed that time given that I 'am a person who's silent and aloner then she do that to me,, now im 24 still now can't forget that..:(
• Singapore
16 Dec 09
Hi. I am happy that you have a great memories of your childhood. I consider myself to be a lucky one to also have a great childhood experience and memories. My loving parents will bring us (5 of us) to the theme park, watch movies and one of my favourite to stay out late at night just to have supper at our favourite eating house by the river. Sadly, that eating house which hold very dear and memorable family moments for me, had been demolished. I now have 3 children of my own. I want them to have great moments growing up as I had mine. My parents were not very strict, they let us decide and chose our own path. Sometimes I wish they will be more persistant in my education back then. Anyway, that is the only different I will do for my children. I can be lenient but most of the time I am stricter, especially when it comes to education. Overall my childhood experiences had been really great and fun!
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
16 Dec 09
I had a fairly nice childhood all the way up until my dad passed away. I had to grow up quick when that happened. My mom was very strict also but I know she meant well. I wish I could go back and change things so my dad would still be around.
@bingchen (1126)
• China
16 Dec 09
i dont like to recall my childhood.i find that it is very sad for me.in my momery,conflict from my parents it couldnot let me quite,especially my mother's revenge to my father appear with me,i dont know why i have many tears can appear on my face.i hope that i can leave my family and live alone,but it is impossible for me to live alone as child to earn money.so i always hate unhappy family why it happend my family?this mind would be accompanied with me for several years and effect my mind and attitude to family.
• Singapore
16 Dec 09
I have enjoyed alot in my childhood. As we are 3 and im the eldest but I used to flight with my brothers and used to play games with them. We had a gud experience as there were alot of children at our CC. I really miss those days when we used to play cricket and shettle.
16 Dec 09
Mine was OK! I moved around a lot, though, and experienced a few heartbreaking moments from that, and I wish my dad had been more involved in my upbringing, but I really don't have a right to complain. I've always had plenty of clothes, food, heat, clean water, an education, I can walk, both of my eyes and ears work, I have all four of my limbs and all twenty digits (fingers and toes), so I'm doing pretty good. Never even broken a bone in my life.
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
I have a very happy and lonely childhood too. When I was a child my family is complete, my parents have fights but they did not decided to be separate from each other. There was a terrible domestic violence while me and my sibs growing up. We decided to be strong rather than go away with it, fortunately until now we are sticking with each other even though there are still fights. My father is strict when I was young because he have both girls and my brother before was just a baby. But when we want something they allow us to do it. I haven't experience sleep over when I was that young, my father don't want it. He wants everyone to be inside at home every night. He chooses my friends too, he don't want friends that will influence me bad, that is why when he sees me with my peers he will tell me instantly if that is the type of person I should be friend with and he did. All in all I have a very happy and very sad childhood but I will not feel regrets because it all have to happen for my future now.
@ToniTsui (39)
16 Dec 09
yes my childhood is nice . I can remember my parents took me to the farm to play ,took me to the shop to buy toy ,also took me for travelling ,that's my best memory .but the most important is ,we have little knowledge in our childhood ,which make it simple to achieve happiness .Instead there is always struggle and worries in adult's world ~
• Sweden
15 Dec 09
Yes, i have! I always smile and feel happy remembering my childhood... my old friends and my neighbors... my schools and classmates... what we did... the games we played... everything about it is amazing! I cant wait to share my childhood memory to my son. He is now 14months old so i will still wait a few more years before i can share to him...
@snafushe (795)
• Canada
15 Dec 09
It sounds like you had a lovely child, other then the divorce. I was lucky enough to have parents that were so in love and stayed so in love even after having kids. We were all very close to each other. We did everything together from all of our meals to chores. We would watch movies together, and play board games. We went on a road trip every summer to places all over B.C. We had our problems here and there like every family, but for the most part we all got along pretty good. We're all still pretty close. I really enjoyed my childhood, and I hated growing up. Everything gets so much harder when your an adult. I wish I was still crying over skinned knees and losing my favorite Barbie rather then crying over broken hearts and worrying about making enough money to pay rent. Growing up is tough, but I am grateful I had such a happy childhood.
• Southend-On-Sea, England
15 Dec 09
Though there were some good bits in my early childhood, it became difficult when my parents split up. Prior to the split, they frequently argued and quite severely, but for me it was a happier environment than the one I was left in after their split. School was difficult as though academically I did OK, I was a very shy, nervous child and was easily teased. My parents after they'd split did try to deal with it properly with me in mind, but neither of them could resist criticising the other to me. I felt like piggy in the middle and had very confused loyalties. There's a lot more to what was going on than what I've said here, but that's the general outline of it.
@derek_a (10902)
15 Dec 09
Although I may not have thought it at the time, I had a very happy and secure childhood where my parents and family cared for each other. Sometimes I think that I wish I could go back there, but other times, that would be too much like starting all over again.. - Derek
@savypat (20247)
• United States
15 Dec 09
Mine was not a good one, I was an unwanted child and often felt betrayed by parents to busy with their own interests to want to be parents. But now when I look back I see that this made me a strong person with a very strong goal. My goal was to have a family that stayed together and supported the children in all they wish to do. It was important to me that my children make their own lives and not be just an extension of their parents. I think they have done well, not always what I would have chosen but it was their choice.
• United States
15 Dec 09
No I had a horrible childhood brought upon me by our housekeeper who hated me. I came from a pretty well off family but ended up in the hospital for malnutrition. I was "rescued" by my maternal grandmother when I was 14 years old. From then on it was great!
@syankee525 (6295)
• United States
15 Dec 09
i would have to say not really there was always fighting going on in our house with my one brother and everyone else. but there was a every few good times in our house growing up. even now there is always someone starting something