Are you afraid to be alone in life? Can you be happy if you are single?

@icesmile (7160)
Romania
December 15, 2009 11:55am CST
People like to live toghether, for sure, all want to be with somebody, but life sometimes is so strange, and don t offer for all what they want; are you one who are afraid to be alone? to be his own master, to take decisions alone, to live alone; Are you afraid of lonliness?or maybe you like to be alone.
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51 responses
• Indonesia
18 Dec 09
Hi icesmile Hm, I don't afraid to be alone or have partner. I can feel happy if I'm single, byt I can feel happy too if I'm married, I can happy in both situation If I don't meet/find my partner, I won't push myself to life with someone who don't love me, better I stay single. If I find him, the one who love me and be loved by me too, then I can married, that's simple. And who say I'll life alone if I don't have partner? I still have many friends, family, activities, and the most important, I still have God No problem single or married, I can feel happy, because the one who can control my feeling, including happiness, is myself, not the situation!
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• United States
17 Dec 09
I don't mind not being in a relationship. I am happeir single. I have friends to talk to. I don't need a relationship to make me feel good. I have fun doing things that I like and being around my family and friends.
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• Philippines
17 Dec 09
hi, icesmile. It really depends on your state of mind. Even if you're single you can be happy if you allow yourself to be. I think the reason why people are afraid to be alone in life is because society dictates that we should live with someone. But it depends on the person. There are people who live with a partner, yet they are not happy. So if you're alone and unhappy, then you're probably destined to be with someone. If you're alone and fine with it, it's not going to be an issue to you.
• China
17 Dec 09
i'm alone, but i like it. i know i'll get married in the future. so now i'm enjoying the days alone. but i live with workmate in the flat in the seperate room, work with them too, seems i'm not alone.
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• United States
15 Dec 09
I don't want to be alone. I know that I would rather be miserable with someone than to be alone. I like going to sleep at night with someone by my side. I have been married for 10 years. The last 2 years we both just put on a happy face for the kids. But at night there is still always someone to curl up to. I know that is really stupid.
• Mexico
16 Dec 09
Hi Amber Rain: I understand your fear because it's a fear that natural to all human beings. We are social and we need to share with others so there is nothing stupid in what you feel but we can not control all the situations, so in those cases where you don't have anyone, you can be happy too, at least you have yourself, at least you have GOD, your protector and your salvation. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. I send you all my blessings to you and your family. -Alvaro.
• Romania
15 Dec 09
I am not afraid to live alone.But i don't want to live alone for life. I like the company of others.I have many friends, and i do not think i will ever by alone.But nobody knows what awaits me so...........
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@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
18 Dec 09
I have been alone much of my adult life and I have even said that I am afraid of living my life alone, but I don't think that there is a fear there. I think that it is not something that I WANT to happen in my life, but I know that it is something that I could do if I have to. I would not be totally happy, but I do have large family and that would help me to realize that I really don't NEED someone else to be happy, but it would be nice to have someone to be with. Given the choice, yes, I would want to be with someone else.
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
18 Dec 09
I am not afraid to be alone, but i think I'd be happier if i were married and have someone to share life with, as i now do. sometimes I feel that I'd like to be alone, because it gives me more freedom and less responsibilities. but overall, i'd still prefer to have a spouse, even one who irks me sometimes. :)
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
i need a balance - being with someone and being alone just by myself. if destiny offers me a life of being single forever, i'm fine with that. it's good for me to have had already experience relationships and stuff in life. i won't have any regrets if i grow old by myself. besides i already have 1 child. otherwise if i happen to meet someone who's suitable, who's imperfections are perfect for me, i'd definitely embrace the life of being "stuck" in a relationshp. i'm pretty much open to whatever life brings...it's always up to us how make happy days out of ordinary ones.
@bingchen (1119)
• China
17 Dec 09
in fact,i am afraid to be alone in life,i find that i could not communicate with someone,especially staying alonly in my room and watching TV,i feel bored,although i have life alone for several year,somebody said that i should be adapted to this lifing,but i find that i could not intolerate this way to live,i hope that someone's care and comfort for my life,not alone in life.
• Philippines
24 Dec 09
I am a married woman and if I have to answer now I guess I am afraid. But if I have to put myself back in my single life I would answer no I am not afraid to be alone. For all the challenges I've been through before I am not afraid of anything.
@dong88 (795)
• China
17 Dec 09
Hello! I am not afraid of living along,I sometimes like to be alone, and sometimes likes a little excitement.I feel alone,and lively are not antagonistic to the full to look at their feelings and the environment is.Whether alone or lively,all we need.See you soon!
@acer5540 (354)
• China
17 Dec 09
when i was happy, i'd like to be with somebody, but when i was in blue, i want to with myself alone. I think there is no person like single or dislike single, we need friends sometimes, and we shall leave a space just for ourselves.
• Philippines
15 Dec 09
well, as of now i am single and i don't feel afraid. I'm happy with my life now and contented. But of course i know this is not forever, i know somebody would come and be my partner in life. I think being afraid to be alone in life is somewhat just a feeling of not having anyone to be with, to depend with if he / she is already old. In their mind, when they are old already, they will live in a house alone, nobody cares, nobody will help them. In that way they wont be happy. The disadvantage of thinking is, it would affect in their decision making about marriage. That's why lots of couples now get divorced even in just months or few years of marriage because they enter in that lifetime relationship even they don't feel like it, or they are not sure what they feel.
@mindrich (183)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
Guys nothing to worry about getting a partner in life. One is to ten still holds. We have lot of choices that's why sometimes we're put into confusion, who will be the right one. I just adhere from the advice of the Bible. Ask the help of God and he won't forsake us.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
16 Dec 09
I would not say that I am afraid to be alone. I was in my first serious relationship for 5 years and it was not the greatest at all. But I tried to make things go well because I loved him, not because I was afraid to be alone. I would get a dog to help out with the fear part. I am now in my marriage and have been for 9 years. I would never want to live a day without him, but thats because we chose to spend our lives together. Prior to marring him I was living alone for 3 years and I was not afraid.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
16 Dec 09
I lived alone for 3 years after I finished school. Then, I married a career military man and was frequently alone when he was sent on an assignment that had to be unaccompanied. With those experiences, I'm sure I would manage quite well by myself should the need arise.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
16 Dec 09
Yes I think that we are all afraid to be alone in life or at least we all should be or else we would be cold heartless people. I think you can be happy if you were single but you would have to have a lot of friends to hang out with or something to keep you busy. I'm in a relationship and I spend so much time with my girlfriend. If I wasn't in that relationship I would have so much time to kill and I would get frustrated with how bored I was. Company is something that we all need.
@mkings (289)
• Germany
16 Dec 09
Sometimes it is good to be alone so that you can have time and space to think clearly.Actually we were not created to live alone so there is alway that one person who will be there for you when you need them its life and that is how its supposed to be.
• Canada
16 Dec 09
I have been single for 10 years, for different reasons. It can be lonely but I love the independance. At the same time sometimes I feel like it's too much to take on and I would like a partner to take on some of the burden.
• India
16 Dec 09
Cant imagine being alone i would hate it .I surely hope life doesnt offer me such choices.