Would You Support Your Child If...

United States
December 15, 2009 4:44pm CST
When they were grown, they said they wanted to adopt a child??? I know they talk about how the parents feel in regards to adoption and how will they feel if they know it's not their blood. To me, personally, the feeling that you saved a life is wonderful.My daughter wants to adopt and I will support her, but I just wanted to know what you guys felt??With so much talk about how the adoptive parents feel, how do adoptive grandparents feel?
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@PastorP (1174)
• United States
20 Dec 09
Extremely supportive. My son and his wife have adopted a little boy and the ceremony will be held Dec. 22 at a courthouse in Delaware, USA. I think it is absolutely wonderful. An added blessing is this--before this year my son's wife could not get pregnant. Then Delaware Family Services got them in contact with a needy child whom they decided to adopt. Soon after they got the child, my son's wife became pregnant, and she recently had that child!
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• United States
20 Dec 09
Aw, that is so cute!!Congrats on the additions :)))
@PastorP (1174)
• United States
21 Dec 09
Thanks jahernandezrivas. I intend to make a special post under "Life" about tomorrow's adoption ceremony. And thank you for selecting my previous post as the best response.
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• United States
22 Dec 09
Aw, I will check it out :) You're welcome!
• India
16 Dec 09
I personally feel as a father parenthood is a grat feeling.If for some reason my son wishes to adopt I for one would definitely encourage him because in that way not only will he be taking care of a life but also learn the joys of fatherhood.
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@xJaiiDK (164)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
Yes I agree with you, though im not yet a father.(LOL) Knowing how to care to your child is a good sign that your child have learned a lot of good things from their parents.
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• United States
15 Dec 09
I think this depends on ones religion as well as personal beliefs. Personally, I think that it is wonderful! Any person would love to have their own child but some people can't or they simply want to help children in need! If my son or daughter grew up and wanted to adopt a child I would accept the idea. Think about it this way, when you have a friend who has a child and you hold it and love it in your arms, you are already attached. All it would take to get attached to your adoptive grandchild is to hold it in your arms and all your worries would disappear. Also, there are adoptions where the birth parents cannot be involved in the child life. If that's a concern then looking into a private adoption would be worth it!
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@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
O yes you are right and i agree with you, it depends on ones religion and culture, people have different points of views in life because of beliefs, religion and culture. But of course no matter what differences we may have, the idea of adopting still is good. Have a great day!
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@bhawanee (174)
• India
16 Dec 09
Dear jahernandezrivas, your views for adopting a child are very good. I tell you please encourage your daughter to adopt a child and treat that child as your own grand child.
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• China
16 Dec 09
that's their choice and we have different lives so if they think that's needed then why not support them and love the adopted child like your owns?even oursevlves also want to adopt one baby girl when we have settle the economy better and can provide the baby the best to growing up.
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@xJaiiDK (164)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
If I were to ask if I would support whatever my child wants. I will support whatever they want as long as it is legal, and they would benefit from it. And adoption, I think this will make them be responsible, will be a good thing for them to do. Adoption isnt a joke. It takes responsibility with it.
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@livewyre (2455)
16 Dec 09
Absolutely, I think it is an incredible thing to adopt a child and would support my child if they wished to take this route. I know that adopted children are loved exactly like blood-related children and would not hesitate to embrace a grand-child that arrived in this way exactly the same as a 'natural' grandchild. From what I have seen, it's all about the love and nothing to do with the blood or DNA - that's what family is all about.
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@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
16 Dec 09
Well I tried to adopt a son a few years ago I was so excited as were my hubby an kids an then at the last minute the mother changed her mind which even though it broke my heart I understood an if my children wanted to adopt I would stand behind them an yes love the like myown grandbabies
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• Philippines
16 Dec 09
Oh when it is other way around... I think it is up to my child, I will give the entire decision to her and support her. There is nothing wrong in sharing home and family to the orphans. It is good that your child is thinking about that, she has a good heart. She will give hope to the hopeless child.
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@vandana7 (58711)
• India
16 Dec 09
Hi jahernandezrivas, I have always appreciated some relationships in the west. I had Maggipie appreciating her step father, and I came across somebody talking good about their step mother. In India, stepfathers are a rare breed. :( And good step mothers are unheard of. In general people believe that it is not possible to like another woman's child. But this is cultivated belief. Possibly to keep all those monies (LOL) within the family. So they are open to giving their children to their relatives, and likewise accepting a child of a relative. But for any adoption, the essential criteria is not having children. :( May be it is cost of living. I'd like to believe it is cost of living that forces people not to go for adoption. But my head says, it is the inability to love. :( I think all kids are beautiful as long as they are babies. :) I can also love them when they are slightly older. :) But I'd have difficulty in accepting a child who's started thinking, and has experienced love elsewhere. I'd feel, he or she would constantly compare me, and I might fall short somewhere, and at times, I might want something for him or her, which is right but the child resents it because the other lady didnt do that. So I would avoid such tightrope walk at all costs. Because of this fear, I think though this is a good decision, age of the child would matter. As to blood, we dont really know do we? I mean, our ancestors, were all the same, so we do share the same blood. It is not cross continent, or something for feeling so concerned. :) Maddox will always be aware of his parentage without being informed by his adoptive parents. But this child need need not know. Even if he or she knows, it can always be softened. I think children just love based on the love they receive.
• United States
16 Dec 09
My kids are far from the ages of having children although I know it all seems to happen a lot earlier that when I was growing up but I think I am still pretty safe but yes if my kids were to come to me and tell me that they were wanting to adopt I would absolutely support them although I would much rather them try and have children of their own but if there was a reason that they couldn't or didn't want them I would support them and also love my grandchild all the same whether it was mine by blood or by adoption because that is what family is about.
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@bingchen (1126)
• China
16 Dec 09
i find that a few people could accept child who was adopted,i know it only lost blood relation,so they could not be willing to take care of them.i have speak this quetion with my husband,i hope that i can adopt a child because i would be willing to have my owned child,although he agreed with mine at that moment,he hope that we have our owned child actually and flow his blood relation from child.so if i decide to adopt a child,i can think about my family mind,this is important that my family would be together to live better.
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@cobradene (1171)
• India
16 Dec 09
I have always felt good about adoption, but I haven't had the financial strength to support a child myself yet. But it hasn't been a great concept in my country, but surely I have seen some celebrities here adopt children. But mostly, I've seen adoptions happening within the family, like the sister giving away one of her daughters or sons to her brother etc.... But surely yes, in a country like India, if every one in three or four family adopts a kid, surely, it would solve the poverty and also reduce the population. I am not a grandparent, but surely tomorrow after I get married and have children, and when they grow up and decide to adopt a child, it would be their independent decision and I will have to respect it. :)
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@cripfemme (7719)
• United States
16 Dec 09
I plan to adopt kids myself, so it'd be very hypocritical of me to disapprove of them doing the same thing. I think it's a good idea to adopt kids who need parents, shelter, and what not. There are enough unwanted children in the world, do we need to create more children? I don't think so!
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• United States
16 Dec 09
Well, I don't have children...but I myself would like to adopt a child some day. But in the future...I'm going to just be starting school in January, and I probably have a long time before I can afford to adopt a child...but that is something I may want to do some day. If I had my own kids and they wanted to adopt I would definitely support them in that decision. Blood or not, it is a sweet little child and it deserves love. It is such a selfless act, it's wonderful! Like you said. I can't imagine anyone saying that they would not support a child in this decision. That would be a selfish act in my opinion.
@hoodwinks (158)
• United States
16 Dec 09
this can be quite tough, you have to give your daughter some props. to want to help a child who did not ask to be here, a new life to have someone to love them. I wouldn't recommend adopting a child that has parents and a family. more of a child who really doesn't have anyone just makes things easier but then again makes you feel wrong, like well whats wrong with that one sort of deal. I guess all kids deserve a fair try. I would love to adopt a child I have three of my own. just to see a child joy in their face with no worries in the world puts a smile on my face to see my kids so happy. encourage her for what she wants to do giving life is one thing offering a life joy is a good feeling.
@dodo19 (29197)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
15 Dec 09
If my children came up and told me that they wanted to adopt a child, I would fully support their decision. I think that it would difficult for me not to support their decision. Not just because they are my kids and I will always love them, but also because I have thought about adopting a child, and I find that it is a really great idea. No matter what they do in life, it will be their decision and I will be there for them, to support them in any way that I possibly can.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
30 Dec 09
If any of my girls wanted to adopt a child, they would have my 100% support. That child would be a part of our family and loved every bit as much as if it were blood. The same would go for if she married a man who already had children. There doesn't have to be a blood connection to love a child.
@rjvb26 (2518)
• Philippines
16 Dec 09
Adopting is really good, it makes you being a real good person, imagine! Taking care of a life that did not even came from your own? There are many reasons why do people adopts a child, maybe they cannot have their own, maybe they feel of helping and some times they feel adopting a child for the sake of spreading their richness. What ever the reason maybe, still the point and the purpose of adopting is good. All purpose and all reason of adopting is really good. I admire you and your daughter for that, you both have a golden heart. I hope luck will come to you and for sure it will. Have a great day!