How do you handle this?
December 15, 2009 8:39pm CST
I am a very secretive person. I had dark days that I keep to myself. The problem is I also had the tendency to attract other people's secrets. My friend always turn to me to tell their secret. Its hard to say no to them since my workplace is very small and I don't want to create a scene with them. How do you handle this situation? I'd love to hear from my fellow mylotters.
16 Dec 09
hmmm.. you are secretive, and people like to share their secrets with you... isnt that a 'perfect' combination ?? well.. it may be good for the other people - i mean, they probably know that their secret is safe with you.. but i understand how 'tiring' it could be for you.. sharing people's secret is not an easy task.. and it is hard to turn away friends when they want to share their problems/secrets with you.. sorry,.. i dont think i am helping much, am i.. ??
16 Dec 09
Hi, zalilame. We all have our own little secrets. It is us personally who can gauge which ones need to be kept or to be shared. It all depends on the person's level of comfort to the other he intends to share it with. It also depends on the level of your trust on the other person. If they come to you to share their secrets, they consider you someone to be trusted. Don't fail them, listen to them and keep that trust they have on you. Keep the secrets as if they are your own.
16 Dec 09
hey zalilame.. im kind of like you.. sort of.. i tend to keep it all for myself since i know im the only one who can solve my own problem.. and of course everyone has a dark day.. you cant expect sunshine all the time.. you need to have a little bit of rain once in a while.. i suggest that you listen.. theres nothing wrong with listening to a friend.. its alright and i think it wont bother you much just to listen to your friend.. just try to be as good a listener as possible so that he will just keep on talking.. and maybe your friend knows that you can be trusted with his secrets thats why he tells you.. and also some people unlike us they cant do well with problems alone they usually want shoulders to cry on.. and also some problems are not as easy to fix so maybe they try to find for comfort.. i know i did that when i had my problems.. its ok to listen and i think its also ok to share.. just be sure that you wont tell what your friend has told you have a nice day