Would you forgive the one you loved if he/she cheated on you?

India
December 17, 2009 4:54am CST
If you ever found out that the person you loved cheated on you would that make you mad? Would you forgive them easily if they told you that they would never do it again? Would you stay with them or leave them. I think personally I could never trust them again. What are your views?
22 responses
@xJaiiDK (164)
• Philippines
17 Dec 09
It will be normal that at first you will get mad and feel that your partner is the most bad-as$ person that ever lived, but as time pass by, you'll learn to forgive him/her especially when you do really love your partner. Time heals everything. Even the deepest of the wounds caused by loving someone.
• India
17 Dec 09
Yes, I agree with you that we get mad at once but I think it will be very difficult to accept the person as someone you love. I think once trust is broken all is lost
@chriszh22 (433)
• China
17 Dec 09
If I really love her, I would forgive her for one time just to give her a chance. If she cheated me again I would shut my door to her for ever. People will make mistakes as human being, but some thing like roylty is a principle that can not be broken. Everybody has his bottom lines.
• India
17 Dec 09
I think I could not forgive the person because we all have the strength to exercise self restraint. If we cant do that much for the one we love then what future do we have
@bhav27 (443)
• India
17 Dec 09
I completely understand what you want to say and i completely agree with you at that after he/she cheated we won't be able to trust them again as they cheated on us , no matter after the mistake they have done they will be changed and will always go on right track but still there will be a doubt in our mind as this is natural who soever break our trust is always tagged as a cheater in our mind. this is just my opinion ,and yeah it won't be easy to forgive the partner who cheated.
• India
17 Dec 09
Yes, bhav27, it takes a long time to heal if someone cheats on you. So, no matter what people may say that they will forgive and will move on. It just isn't easy. Trust is difficult to earn and once its lost, its lost forever.
@nautilus33 (1831)
17 Dec 09
Well, that's a tough question. I think I will, but my heart will be on pieces, because cheating is something very hard to forgive, and you must love this person very much to can forgive him/her.
• India
17 Dec 09
I agree too. Its so hard to forgive and the suffering goes on for really long. Even if we forgive it will always be there in our hearts. Its an indelible wound.
• India
17 Dec 09
so nice question dear thanks for asking such question here. i can't forget. she didn't cheat me but she got cheated by her own self. she might think that she cheated me but ultimately she will find that she got cheated. could you understand my point dear no. ok i am explaining you here. i had also such relation and i used to love a lot even more than myself. she cheated me she married some another person. i got mad during that time i had to take sleeping pills. but now i am ok with what had happened. but would you like to listen her current situation. she often calls me and says please forgive me i have cheated you. but could not i got cheated. the guy with whom she married is cheating her day per day. and her whole life is going in tears and tears. but dear even now i pray that she could live happily in her life. happy mylotting
• India
17 Dec 09
Hello shambhukumar, I am sorry to hear that you had to go through such trauma. I am happy to note that you have such a forgiving nature. Its true that what goes around comes around. So maybe she will have to suffer because of what she did to you. I hope you never have to go through something like that again.
• Australia
17 Dec 09
I've never had this happen to me before,but once my boyfriend cheats on me I will NEVER EVER trust him again.Once he's betrayed my trust, whats to stop him from doing it agian?I mean I'm not exactly a stunner and there are plenty of other attractive girls out there so if he strays then I will never want him back again!
• India
17 Dec 09
I think a relationship survives after we have moved beyond physical looks. If appearances mattered so much then we can never be together beyond a few days. I totally agree with you, if he strays then wats the proof it wont happen again.
@Hazelrose (2185)
• Philippines
17 Dec 09
Hi ChocoMocha,Although it is very painful even to think that my loveone cheated at me.It's hard to say but,if its happened to me,just for the sake of my children ,i will give him another chance.Huh,I do hope that it will not happen. It is so painful to both part.Good Luck!
• India
17 Dec 09
Hello Hazelrose (might I say I quite like your username :) ) It is painful to even think of such a scenario I totally agree. If you have children its the hardest. I hope you never have to face such a situation in your life.
@kaylachan (4776)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Dec 09
I highly doubt something like that would even shock me. I don't really trust anyone, I barely trust myself. It would hurt, but to be quite honest I'm suprised it hasn't. Listening to my man complain the way he does I wonder. In the end he hasn't, at least to my knoledge. And, I would know if he was as he is home everyday and he sleeps in that bed. So of course it is proof that he's still with me.
• India
17 Dec 09
Ya I totally agree in today's times you really never know whom to trust. The person you trust the most often times hurts you the most as well.
@gauraw (22)
• India
18 Dec 09
if i m in deep love with da person i mite forgve for the first time aftr all we are humans an humnans tend to make mistake but then again if the mistake is repeted den i would not forgive and never trust the person i loved
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
18 Dec 09
I think that I would be able to forgive. The level of trust I would have would fall. I don't know that I would be able to forget the betrayal in my heart. That feeling of disappointment would always linger somewhere.
@liuzhi (265)
• China
18 Dec 09
I haven't met such dilemma.I guess i would not forgive her easily.The moment she betrayed you,she has been the shoulder that you can't cry on.
@Savedeath (255)
• China
18 Dec 09
I have experienced this before,when i was in high shchool,i have a girl friend,i thoult she is very lovely and i loved her very much,so did she,but she had a very close contact with another guy,and she never told me till my friend told me about that,when i heard the news i was mad,not just mad and my heart was almost broke up. at first i thought i we are over,but the next day i found that i can't do that,so i try to forgive her,but at last,i told her that we'd better break up,and she cried,but i knew that's what i must do,the wound wouldn't recovery again
• Malaysia
18 Dec 09
i think i will never forgive her..because trust is very important in some relationsip... she/he already destroy that.
@yinmm007 (605)
• China
18 Dec 09
Wether i forgive she or not is decided by the reason why she cheated me.If it's a white lie i would forgive her.But if she have been against my principle i would not forgive her.
• India
18 Dec 09
yes chocomocha i agree with u .I cannot live with aperson who betrays me .once trust is gone how is is possible to be on the same terms.It is better to move away from them.
@warvial (1154)
• Singapore
18 Dec 09
Yes, I will be mad. I will spend time thinking if I really wants to take him back. If I do (cos I really love him), I still won't forgive him easily. I might forgive him over time but even if the wound heals, scar will remains. So if the scar is too much to bear, I might just leave him in the future because it will become a breaking point sooner or later.
• United States
18 Dec 09
depends on the situation but mostly i would say no because 1 is already enough =)
• Indonesia
18 Dec 09
If I ever find out that my beloved cheated on me, I'll burst out for sometime before finally calming down I guess. It'll be really hurt but in the end he stays with me and I still love him then it's all that matters for me. People has various reasons as to why they're cheating and I myself won't completely understand it because I won't know what the cheater really feels about it.
• United States
18 Dec 09
When it happened to be i was praying so hard for us to stay together and that our marriage would continue. But not after years have past i think if i had to relive that moment i shoulda been praying for him to leave. I did stay and we did work out our marriage sorta but i have been totally misirrable for over 5 years. I have lost that time in my life and dont think i can ever be happy with someone i cant trust and honestly have fallen out of love with. I do continue to live in the situation just because my children need a father and i feel i owe that to them.
@snafushe (795)
• Canada
17 Dec 09
I remember responding to a discussion like this not too long ago. I will reply again however. I have in the past taken back a cheater. It was one of the biggest mistakes of my life. He continued to cheat on me even after I took him back. Like they say, once a cheater, always a cheater. I shouldn't have even been dating the guy in the first place as when we first got together he was still in a relationship with another girl! If they are willing to cheat with you, they will probably cheat on you. Some people how ever do change, they cheat once and feel so guilty they vow to never do so again. Some people can not handle temptation as easily as others.