Why do people acquire expensive things and then get too scared to use them?

@hvedra (1623)
December 17, 2009 8:35am CST
My parents were given a dinner service when they married and it only ever came out on Christmas Day up until about 1980 and then it was never used at all. I can appreciate that when something costs a lot you don't want to use it every day - especially when you have kids - but my parents NEVER entertained and the thing is still sat in the cupboard in my dads house. Do people still buy stuff like expensive dinner services and then never use them or has the proliferation of good quality less expensive sets in recent years put an end to this nonsense?
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• United States
17 Dec 09
When one of my sisters got married she went and choose a china pattern, for years we have bought it for her one piece at a time. Last year her husband bought her crystal classes to use with it. She has friends over often and uses the dishes atleast 6 times a year. It is her husband that threw the fit this Thanksgiving when she insisted that we use the crystal also. Her argument was the same as yours: Why have it if you are not going to use it. I have a beautiful set of crystal stemware that I do not often use, but every chance I get I will serve desert in it just so I can have an excuse to use them. I will continue to buy my sister the china she wants until she has everything in that pattern, and if something breaks we will just replace it. At least if it breaks it will be while it is being used. A happy dish is one that is dropped while on duty.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
18 Dec 09
happy dish on duty - Happy dish on duty.
A happy dish is one that is dropped while on duty. Funny saying. I've never heard it before, but it seems true. Mind if I steal it from time to time okkidokitokki?
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• United States
19 Dec 09
you are welcome to it any time. :) To me, if you drop a dish you can either get upset about it or find a reason to smile. I would rather smile
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
18 Dec 09
These Days no People are not that careful any more but like with your Mum, it was done thing that the expensive stuff will only be used for special times, my Grandmother used to do this to and my Mum, but my Mum does not any more I think because the way things then where made and the expense of it and People not having much to them it was a Treasure which is for keeps and not to be broken and only for special occasions, but these Days everything is an every Day thing now
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
18 Dec 09
Haha! I grew up in a house which had the same thing. My mother had expensive china on a display cabinet. As I was growing up, I never remembered it being used. As I am the eldest, I figure they must have used it before I was born. Naturally, I went the opposite way in my own house. We don't have any expensive dishes displayed anywhere. They are all in kitchen cabinets, and we try to use them as often as we could. Even without company.
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@yinmm007 (605)
• China
18 Dec 09
Expensive things always are precious.If we use them everyday ,they would be quickly broken. The price is so high that we can buy them freely,so we usually acquire expensive things but get too scared to use them.
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@bingchen (1126)
• China
18 Dec 09
actually everybody have his cherished thing in his owned mind,because of expensive things,they would be collection as important thing,i think that it is very meaning ful to remember that moment.so the views of someone is different,so their expression to treat expensive things is different.
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@ankush19 (156)
• India
18 Dec 09
hi.. ppl acquire expensive things just for the purpose of showing off.dats wat i personally feel..
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@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
18 Dec 09
Most individuals are scared to use those expensive things they have and used them only for special occasion because it has a sentimental or special value in them that they wanted to keep it preserved. They consider it valuable for them and the memories it got too. Other people divert their attentions and affections by having expensive things but they almost collect many items that almost filled their house. but, that is their desire choice to release whatever they wanted to feel and express that satisfy them.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
17 Dec 09
Usually when you get something expensive, it is for special occasions, such as dinner sets. We have a good set of china and we just use it for Christmas, Easter, etc. Now that applies just for dinner and cutlery sets, but when it comes to kitchen appliances such as Cuisinart, etc. most of the time is that they are afraid to use it because they are afraid of breaking it. It took me a year before I got off enough nerve to use my KitchenAid, but once I did it, I used it anytime I did baking and it was so much easier then beating the mix by hand.
@calai618 (1781)
• Philippines
17 Dec 09
Yeah this does happen all the time. Personally, i would just want to not ruin or destroy those things especially when they are given to me. Also, I have a "collector" side of me so I love acquiring stuff and just let them wherever they are. I want to have them for the longest possible time so I try hard not to ruin them. They are too important for me or too hard to acquire that i cant afford to lose them. I also have this idea that my stuff would surely be more expensive when time comes so I want to preserve theem for the future. lol :D
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• United States
17 Dec 09
I feel people will always buy things that really they will never used. To me this is one reason why the site ebay exisits. People buy to make themselfs feel better about something and when they realize the item they bought did nothing they sell it and than they are onto something else new to buy. Nice topic to discuss and happy mylotting to you.
@surfette (674)
• United States
17 Dec 09
When I married in 1970, you always picked out a good set of china and an every day set. In those days, people were a little more formal and when you entertained, you always wanted to put out the "best" china. It was a form of respect for the guests. As our society became less formal over the last 40 years, blue jeans and paper plates were all you needed to have people over. The good china sat in the cupboard and is only used for holidays, if at all. I know that in my family, we don't even dress up at the holidays. When I was a child, we had to have our best dress on for the holiday. Now it is a new Christmas sweater or sweatshirt and jeans. So naturally, you don't pull out the best dinnerware for a buffet. There is an emotional attachment to the china too. It represented getting married and becoming the woman of the house. I don't use my china very often, but I see passing it down to my granddaughter some day. It can become part of family history of a time gone by. It really isn't nonsense, it's more of a tradition of times past. I think probably only wealthy young women purchase a "good set" of china now because they will actually be entertaining at dinner parties. I don't think celebrities serve on "Chinet".