do u really want to get married?

@novelcai (603)
Philippines
December 17, 2009 10:14am CST
i have nothing against about marriage, just happen that sometimes well most of the times i don't believe in marriage. I'm still single, some of my friends got married already. but most of my friends i met has their own family already. I'm a good listener. if our topic is about their kids it was really fun,, but sometimes they share their problems from their partner,, and most of them i already heard the phrase "if i only knew that i could get a life like this i would never marry a man like my husband" some says " gosh i want to returned my husband to his mom" or " i hope that marriage has expiration or renewable":) make sense? how bout your own views?
6 responses
• Philippines
4 Jan 10
The bond of marriage should really be strong in order to keep your family happy. Well, marriage for me is sacred. I am a Christian and I believe that marriage should be practiced by people wanting to have their own family. Well, in contrary to that, I am living with my boyfriend now. We've been together for many years now but we still didn't get married. We are still very young. I am 21 and he is 20. Of course as a woman, I am wishing that we'll soon get married. We are already talking about that thing sometimes but we have decided to get married when both of us are already stable. We are now beginning to work and earn money for our future so that when we finally decide when to get married, everything will be all right. I hope so...
@novelcai (603)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
hello pentagan. im sorry for the late response( still having the holiday seasons mode:) well i can say that you and your boyfriend are still too young to get married but living in together for so many years must be an edge for both of you to know each other very well. some people say that you will know a person well the time you live together. because you can see all the bad and good of him. im hoping that time will come you will be blessed and have a good life together. God Bless
@magtibaygom (4863)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
I understand your fears about getting married. Honestly, I also have some fears that are similar to yours. But in my point of view, getting married is the healthy thing to do especially if you are in the right age already. Just make sure to find the right relationship, and real true love. Honestly, me, I'm turning 30 this New Years Eve and I'm still single. My family is worried about me that I will grow old single. I always calm them not to worry about me. I assure them that I will do so in the right time. In this time of writing, I am contemplating why I reached this age single and not married? Maybe the primary reason why is, I find it hard to find a right relationship that is prerequisite to getting married. I am very selective. Religion is one of the factor. I am a Seventh-Day Adventist. Until now, I am still in search of a girl who share the same core values and beliefs (similar to mine). Another thing is, I am an entrepreneur. I have a masterplan for my life. I want to succeed financially in order to be more significant to my church and my community. I need someone who will understand for who I am. I am very understanding person. They said I'm intelligent, and I am confident I can work out a relationship in the future by exercising my Christian attributes and intelligence. But the question that always hunt me is, how long will I wait? Other than that, I have so many questions that I keep secret, keeping them only to myself and not telling anyone. One of them is, am I on the right track? Is this normal? I look around and see people not living life like this. They are getting married young and living the life of ordinary. With question "Am I on the right track", I am sure it is a sign of doubting, but because I read a lot of personality development books, I have learned to compensate. To alleviate my loneliness. To encourage myself that soon I will live a life that looks like those normal people. Good thing I was educated in network marketing about how to boost myself when I'm down. But from to time, when I think of my age, when I think of my single status, the question "am i on the right track" keeps coming back...
@novelcai (603)
• Philippines
23 Dec 09
advance happy bday to you. well at ur age for a guy is not that scary compare to a woman.. and maybe because you reach that age for sure you are very selective person. i hope that you can find your ms.right. and i hope you fall in love with someone who has all the qualities you are looking for. but we all know that lots of things happen in our life which is not part of our plan. merry xmas and happy new year
@qamarep (4448)
• Pakistan
20 Dec 09
its not that those women hate their husbands that much its just that its anger that they have in their minds and they are shooting that out.
@novelcai (603)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
oh yeah your right,, maybe they said those words because of their moods or anger. but what if their husbands have an attitude to repeat same mistakes? and the wifes become tired to understand the situation and fall out of love? mmmmmmmm too bad
@skipper9 (51)
17 Dec 09
This is a very good question. I have been with my girlfriend for 4 years but we have not really discussed marriage. I do not want to get married. I am not ready to settle down in that way yet. There are so many things that I want to do with my life and I just want the extra bit of flexibility.
@novelcai (603)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
hello skipper9. 4 years? and not really discussed marriage? have you ever think why your girlfriend didn't you ask about this to? do u still believe in a long term relationship before you guys settle down? Normally many guys still dont want to get married even if they have serious relationship because they afraid that they cant do anymore such things that they enjoy while they are still single. hehehe dont get me wrong im not mad with you guys,, merry xmas,,:))
@Tushavi (2078)
• Karachi, Pakistan
17 Dec 09
lol i am a Male 19 from Pakistan. I am Muslim so we only do marriage but the fact is if you wanna marriage You have more than $10,000 here its the traditions The elder Family Members first check the guy if he have enough Money to support a Wife & our children. i do my best & i think i reach the goal in my 27th birthday.lol i am not really want to get married at this time but i feeling shy if i attracted to any girl like in College & another place. have a nice day.
@novelcai (603)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
hi there.. your still young and you still have lots of situation you will encounter in life. hope that before you reach your 27th birthday you already have enough money for you to get married the someone you love. But if i'm not mistakenmuslim can get married t many woman as long they can provide them, right?
@jasmeena (850)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 09
Of course, i want to get married.but now i haven`t found the right one..i have been single 4 2 years..i want to get married with someone who loves and i love him too,who can understand each other and support each other.i am not traumatic with marriage,eventhough some of my friends are already divorced and one of them will file for divorce after they have 2 children.The most important thing in marriage besides love is COMMITMENT