My BF is spending the weekend with his daughter and family.

@Loverbear (4928)
United States
December 18, 2009 11:53pm CST
My BF got called last week by his daughter, inviting HIM, to vist her and the rest of the family this weekend. They have been on the outs for the past 5 years, because of me. I am not acceptable to his daughter for various stupid reasons on her part. She has even claimed that my coming to her home cast the bad mojo over her place so that her horse wouldn't get pregnant, that her favorite horse died, the one she bought to replace her favorite horse died, and another of the horses died. (Honest people I had NOTHING to do with it!!! The most I did when I stayed at their house was clean up horse poop out of the stalls and corrals. I didn't feed them or anything else!!!) Any how she gave my BF the ultimatum of her or me, and he chose me. So this is a major breakthrough for them. Anyhow, he really didn't want to go, but I insisted. I told him when we got together that I didn't want to come between him and his family. It happened anyway...and I hurt so badly for being the cause of the split. She won't even allow my name to be mentioned in her home by ANYONE. Today he left to go to her home (she lives about three and a half hours from here), and he called wanting to come home. I told him that he really had to go see her and start patching things up...no matter how stupid and hurtful she is being. I just hope the weekend goes good for him. I love him dearly and the hurt his daughter inflicted in unforgivable and beyond stupid and hateful. I just hope the weekend goes well and the fences are mended and that they can start being father and daughter again.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
19 Dec 09
Hi there Loverbear I to hope they can sort it out, his Daughter has no right to treat him like that he is old enough to lead his own Life and he deserves to be happy with who he wants, his Daughter has no right to stipulate to him It is good that you are so good about it, I hope that his Daughter will take her chance here and grow up about it all but if she ruins this then I will not blame your B/F if he does not want to go there again, she has put him in another Situation that is not fair, as she only invited him and not you which is why he is so torn and wants to come home to you, she is trying again to make him choose but will not have counted on the fact that you would make him go to try and patch things up I really hope that it will all work out
@Loverbear (4928)
• United States
19 Dec 09
Thank you! I talked to my BF last night and he is walking on eggs. He can't mention what we have done together or anything that involves me. He can with his grandson (who takes great delight in torturing his mom with talking about me in front of her. She goes nuts and the fight begins. Then the grandson leaves the room with a big grin on his face. The grandson has enough intelligence to know that it was the best thing that could have happened for his grandfather to have someone who is as crazy in love with him as I am). I just hope that there can be some reconciliation between them. As my BF has said, things will NEVER be the same between them, but at least there could be less tension. I realized that the whole situation isn't my fault, that I treated the woman with respect and love. If she can't accept the situation, the problem is hers. I just hope that my bf can enjoy his time there and come home to me on Monday with some good news about the situation.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
19 Dec 09
Well I hope so to but if not then it is the Daughters fault as she has obviously not grown up and being very childish about this but I am glad that your B/f has the Grandson there to support him I wish you all the best in this and I am so glad that your Love is so strong
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@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
Sometimes Love really have to move mountains to know if it is real love and I guess that the kind of relationship you got was a sincere, true love. You never showed hatred to his daughter but instead you tried to patch things up for them even in your most simplest way. His daughter will soon be enlightened so do not worry maybe as of this time, she is in complete hatred in you for reasons we cannot really know between her families excluding you. THe most important is that you have showed your BF how is it to be selfless and how you care for him. That will remain in his heart and one of the factors why he wished to chose you above them. Just be strong in your relationship,as long you have a respect, good communication and patience and trust, then all things will come in proper places, just have to be very patient for the right time to come. As long you never intended harm to any then it is presumed your innocence. You are loving the person in your way and they should give respect for you because if maybe, you did not across with your BF, probably he will look also for somebody as his partner.
@jndlponti (2413)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
Hi there... I really appreciate your patience to her. You really did a great job. Whatever she did just let your BF be a father to her. No matter how mean she is to you, later when she gets more mature she would understand it better. And maybe your BF should be frank to her that you are his life now. He is a father for her forever but he also have a life and that is with you. And hope someday his daoughter would accept that and understand you and her dad. Good luck!
• United States
20 Dec 09
Yeah, even though you really arent doing anything wrong or bad, I can understand why they dont like you. You are considered maybe an intruder? or homewrecker? And even though you may not be any of those things, you need to remain patient with this other family. Just do the best you can not to piss anyone off, and always respect what comes before. Its not easy when your father starts dating a different girl other than your mother, you need to understand that. If you have ever been in that situation, then you would understand. Its by no means right how rude she is being to you, but the best thing you can do is to remain patient and calm. Because this is a very typical scenario
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
19 Dec 09
hi loverbear! Let your bf to be a father to his daughter,.just allow a little more time,maybe she is not yet ready to accept you as her new mom. As long as your bf loves you...that's what matters. try to be more patience. Goodluck and merry christmas!