why love is painful sometimes?

Philippines
December 20, 2009 10:45pm CST
loves become painful when your not meant to be with your partner in life,you need to sacrifice everything with the one you love so that your relationship will grow. and you need to understand each other. they say if love is painful you need to let go and save yourself, but keep this in mind if love is true, pain is never a reason to let go.
19 responses
@vijayanths (7878)
• India
22 Dec 09
Love is the most enjoyable thing in the world and similarly it could become the most painful too. If you are madly in love with someone and that person is not having similar interest on you, how much painful it will be? You are in love but you are away from your partner, how painful will it be? You picked a misunderstanding and currently not speaking with your love then how painful will it be? But all the pain will vanish with a gentle hug of your man/woman and that is love, the power of love.
• India
22 Dec 09
Its truely a wonderful explanation my friend.
@srganesh (6350)
• India
21 Dec 09
Welcome vpvillarico!Love is painful only when you expect a lot from your partner in the name of love.Then it is a total bargain and loss is inevitable.Love is purely unconditional and if you are in true love,there is no pain and the love itself will make you fly higher.
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
Nice posts. I think I'm learning a lot from here. I am still single at age 30 and I am planning to enter "love" soon (I was too busy with my business that I forgot to enter a serious relationship with a woman) ... I think this forum can give me some helpful ideas.. Thanks!
• India
23 Dec 09
Love can be painful when it can't be true love from both side & also the other person play with your heart feeling
@eddify (413)
• Pakistan
22 Dec 09
True but how do u know which is which? I was totally head over heels in love with my ex and he left me for another girl. I was totally runied and there is no way it can be repaied ever. On top of this he keeps telling stories to my friends and family. Since past 3 days he is writing on facebook against me and telling me friends how bad i am etc.
@EARLZHAN (934)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
It is really good to be inlove but it really hurts when the one we loved left us because of some reasons. It hurts because we already learn to live our life with our partners and it seems that we're not complete without them. We will be empty like the sky without the stars or like the ocean without the waves if we lose the one we love. However, if this things happen we must admit and accept that it happens for a reason and we just have to wait. Who knows he/she will still come back to continue or start the relationship that you have before.
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
I believe my mother was not meant for my father because of the hardship he has been doing to her. But the marriage happen because we their children where meant to be born. Love is painful, because love is not just about happiness. YOu cannot appreciate the happiness if you will not feel the pain. Sacrifice is the tough job inside it and everyone who is loving must experience it. I believe in what you said, if love is true, pain is never a reason to let go. My mother experience pain eversince with my father, but she never let go and I know the reason, it is because us. And she believe that family should be always be together eventhough the world are against.
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
Loves become painfull if you are selfish of your feelings. If you love someone you must be open minded and we must know how to handle the consequences when the problem come in relationships.
@hoodwinks (158)
• United States
22 Dec 09
yeah I can see what you mean, love can hurt. with all the relationships I have had and what I am involved now have had some hurt in my love. I have usually been with the girls that I did date with for at least a year, now been with my wife for nine years, yeah we fight but we still love each other but we try not to fight all the time. plus we don't want to be doing it in front of the kids. whenever I broke up with my ex's I do remember the little aches I would have to deal with. I try my best to make sure my marriage works.
@lilgold (89)
• United States
22 Dec 09
cause it's part of life, you know life isn't easy, and it will never be
@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
22 Dec 09
It is painful because you love. When you don't love the person, you would not care and it would not hurt no matter what the other person does. Like what you have said, you need to save yourself. The love that should not go away is your love for yourself.
• Philippines
21 Dec 09
love is meant to make you happy and make you grow emotionally. but love is not permanent, and it becomes painful if we can't let go and keep holding on when it decides to leave. all we can do is accept and cherish it while it is still with us and let go when when its over.
@cobradene (1171)
• India
21 Dec 09
Well, love is painful for sure. But it's sweet at times also. The reason why love is painful, is because it's filled with attachment and we can't stay away from the person we love for a single moment. We can't stand them not give us attention even for a single moment. And finally, if they betray us, or leave us for someone else it becomes more unbearable. That's because we want to possess the person we love completely only for ourselves. But if love is non-attached, then it won't be painful, because we won't be possessive about the one whom we love. Attachment always brings pain. We all are mistaking attachment for love. Love is always unconditional, but we fill it with various conditions and these conditions are nothing but our own attachments to certain ideas and prejudices of our minds. That's why love is painful.
• India
21 Dec 09
Hello Rico I believe you wont mistake me calling you like that. I like the name Rico very much. K comming to the discussion. Love isn't a painfull feeling ever. Its an awasome feeling. When a person loves other, the emotions that've never came out of the person are expressed. No other feeling in this world can express such feeling. The feel of waiting for the beloved forever even if knowing can never get. The true love will wait for ever and ever. This is never a pain. Each emotion has its own value and effect. It can and should never be said as pain.
• India
21 Dec 09
i think you are right but love is not always painful. sometimes we never understand each other,whatever the situation never leave them because gaps are good but too much of anything is not.
• Philippines
21 Dec 09
Love is a decision and not an ordinary feeling or emotion. There are a lot of circumstances that challenges us on the relationships we have at present. However, lets keep in mind that these are just challenges! we may say that its pain but its never. Lets just say its a pepper in a relationship that gives its meaning. Pain may be too much to describe a sacrifice for the relationship to grow and to be strong.
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
21 Dec 09
Yes, it can badly hurt. It really hurts so much because when we are in love we want to be with the person we love unfortunately most of the time the person we love choose somebody that leaves our heart super disgruntled.
@magic9 (981)
• China
21 Dec 09
I guess it's painful because we take love so seriously. We have input too much of our energy, emotion in it. And once we are disappointed by the partner, we feel our efforts wasted. Then like gambling, we try to do better, work hard to win it back but finally find that it is gone. Therefore we get hurt.
@DOLLYBABY (2536)
• United States
21 Dec 09
i really don't think truly love suppose to be painful,i think it should be one of your happiest moment in life/in love.well i guess it can be painful for other reasons.well all relationship does make a sacrifices here and there f you really love and wanna be with that person,we only made sacrifices if that person mean't to be and we are sure of it.
@advokatku (4037)
• Indonesia
21 Dec 09
To be hurt that whipping does not interfere with the love you both, consider the following tips : 1. Observed Thorough, whether anger, feeling offended, or hurt you when it grew bigger. How long do you keep the feelings that interfere with this? If you are angry with the couple because he was out the night with friends, maybe it is not really a problem. However, the problem is about how the attention he gives to you. 2. DARE Learn to be brave. If you feel so easily intimidated, write down your feelings and show it to the couple. 3. DO NOT BLAME Don't make a statement that blamed! Conflict resolution begins with the understanding that truth is relative. Most people always start with the most damaging questions like, "Who is right and who's wrong?" Two people spend time trying to convince her partner, who's right and who is wrong. In fact, most of the disagreement is based on interpretations that come directly from personal experiences in life, not because the truth that was already proven.