If your child is seventeen,need you control him/her?

@zhouxi (1756)
China
December 26, 2009 1:29am CST
I'm not sure.I need your suggestion.if your child is seventeen years old,whether need your control?could we control him/her?how to control?if we always give suggestion to them.they would feel boring.
4 responses
@Ravenladyj (22940)
• United States
26 Dec 09
The age of your/our children is irrelivent IMO, they should NEVER be "controled"..that said though, yes even at 17 yrs old we should be the ones who make the final decisions and so on...My son is 16 and though he is capable of choosing things for himself etc and has been for yrs I still have final say when it comes to somethings because #1 I'm his mother and its my responsibility to keep him safe and #2 he still lives in my house
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@zhouxi (1756)
• China
27 Dec 09
yes, they want to decide everything by themselves,in fact they cann't.
@Ravenladyj (22940)
• United States
2 Jan 10
yes, they want to decide everything by themselves,in fact they cann't but in fact SOME teens CAN....Like I said my son is 16 and is very capable of making sound decisions - though granted there are times when he doesnt BUT thats part of growing up, learning, maturing etc....Mind you I'm very close to both my kids who are both teens so they more often than not come to me for advice and suggestions which is beneficial THEN they decide from there...
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@zhouxi (1756)
• China
2 Jan 10
My son would like to know my suggestion when he is sixteen.he is seventeen now.he doesn't like my regulation.
@cripfemme (7718)
• United States
4 Jan 10
If you child is 17. He will soon be an adult. When he's 18 he doesn't need to tell you anything. The more control he gets now, the more likely you will have a son who tells you stuff even when he's an adult. I'll you can do is help him make the decisions that are the right ones. But you have to sllow him to make some bad ones,too. Just so he can know what will happen if he makes decisions like that in the future. I know it might be hard for you to let him make poor decisions, but he's get to learn.
@zhouxi (1756)
• China
4 Jan 10
thanks!.my son seems backward if i compare his seventeen's practice to his sixteen years old's one.i wish he could grow up fast.
@bhav27 (443)
• India
2 Jan 10
i think it depends upon the kid , if the teenager is stable one then no control and restriction are to be putten on the child but if the teenager is not then some restrictions are to be putten , i understand that if we give suggestion to them they feel bore so better be practicle to them and share the experiences and all and be frank with them , they are now no morw kids and understand each and everything so be frank with them and share the experiences with them directly or indirectly.
@zhouxi (1756)
• China
3 Jan 10
thanks.some times it's hard for us to understand them.
@coolcat123 (4392)
• India
26 Dec 09
I think the controlling age is gone and this is the age in which the teens have a special world around them in which they cant tolerate anyones interruption especially of the parents. The best way is to leave hij like he is and after afew years every thing would be fine. he would understand his mistakes and come back to the parents way.
@zhouxi (1756)
• China
26 Dec 09
i cann't help losing my temper when he did wrong thing and wish to control him.i'm afraid if he makes big mistakes ,i would regret that i couldn't regulate him.