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@sulsisels (1685)
United States
December 27, 2009 9:20pm CST
One thing that really irates me about this site is when people don't respond to your comment on their discussion. It makes you feel like what you said wasn't important enough for them to bother to respond. Your left feeling, "Did they even read it?" I thought that this was a place to have a discussion and to start one and then never go back and answer the people that took the time to read and respond to you is not my idea of a discussion. I just had to say something cause its happening alot to me and I just dont think it is fair or right..Does it annoy you?
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@minx267 (11162)
• Hartford, Connecticut
28 Dec 09
I agree. I usually take the time to respond to all responders on my discussions. I think- that's what mylot is paying us for, right? and it isn't a DISCUSSION is there isn't a response to the response.. then it is just a question and answer session.. That is pretty much -unfulfilling. I know exactly what you are talking about.. I get a little annoyed too.
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Hi minx...Yeah!!! Someone agrees with me!! I guess you and I went to the same school and were taught the same meaning of the word discussion..Thanks and happy New Year!!
@mysdianait (64068)
• Italy
28 Dec 09
I am a chatterbox and if I talk to someone then I hope they will answer me just like they would do offline. When I start a discussion I get to comment on every single one of the responses that it receives and I then comment back if I get a response to my comments too. Isn't that what a discussion is about? Some of the best fun I have had on here is when I stay in one response box chatting backwards and forth with the user that gets back to comment. If I respond and that doesn't happen then I usually end up not responding to that particular user in future. Of course everyone may do as they wish but they should not then complain when theydo get the results thatthey hope for either
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@mysdianait (64068)
• Italy
28 Dec 09
*not get
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
29 Dec 09
I, too, love a good discussion,,,especially when the people have conflicting opinions..You obviously know what the word discussion is and I wish there were more like you. With 12258 posts here, you've probably had some great discussons..any one in particular come to mind that I could go back and read? Also, howcome you didn't send a kiss to me????
@mysdianait (64068)
• Italy
5 Jan 10
I promise I will next time I bump into you elsewhere. It will come as a surprise then I have not started very many discussions but several are my favourites. You can take a look whenever you like
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
28 Dec 09
I think it's not only bad manners not to comment on at least some responses, it's also bad discussion management. It's the discussion starter's responsibility to develop and extend the discussion, and the only way to do this is to go back in and comment. After all, without a comment, you're talking to yourself, arent you, and who wants to do that when there are so many good discussions on here where you can interact with such interesting people? If I go into a discussion started by someone I'm unfamiliar with, I look through the responses before I respond. I do that anyway, but in this case, I'm looking for clues. If the discussion has been up for, say a week, and their are no comments from the discussion leader, I go to the next discussion. I'm not saying you should respond to every single comment, but certainly if someone has taken the trouble to respond with a quality post, you should do them the courtesy of reading and replying to it.
@thea09 (18326)
• Greece
28 Dec 09
Hi Sandra, are we being spookey again?
• Spain
28 Dec 09
Yup!
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Great answer Sandra..I could not have said it better myself..I too think its bad manners to not respond and it is just common courtesy..I'm finding out through this discussion that not everyone shares my feelings and thats ok too. At least now I'll have a better understanding of why people do not respond...Thans for taking the time to post this..Happy New Year...J
@uath13 (8227)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Sounds like your suffering from answering discussions from people that post only for the credit. Those people usually don't even bother continuing the discussion, they just start a few dozen more. Find yourself a few good friend & interests & you should be able to find more meaningful discussions to get into. They annoy just about all the real posters on here.
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@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Hi uath..And thats another thing that really bugs me. People who post one meaningless discussion after the other. I recently, especially on the day that MyLot paid double credit, saw the same person post,,What color is your toothbrush, What time did you get up today?, What did you eat for breakfast, and so on and so on, you get the idea..To post, just for the sake of posting to me, junks up the site. I laugh at some of the discussions people start, and expect to get responses. The scary thing is that they do..Post a discussion on Global Warming as I recently did, and receive one response..Something is wrong with this picture...Happy New Year..J
@uath13 (8227)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Well since you mention it I'll have to track down that discussion. See you there soon probably.
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@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Thanks,,I thought it was a good discussion, even covered a critical issue in this country about saving the polar bears. But nobody was interested...sigh...Hope you read it..Thanks
• United States
28 Dec 09
I think it's nice if they reply with something, ya know? Just like you said, did they feel it wasn't important or even interesting, or am I that boring?, haha. I try to respond to everyone, even if it's just a little thank you for your response. I know how you feel though and it's much more fun when you get a response and yes, I wish everyone would. It just makes for more interesting conversation.
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@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Hi Kashmere..It makes for conversation period..which is the whole point of the site. By the way, on a different subject, I love your cat..She's soooooo pretty. I love black and white cats, in fact there is a little baby stray, black and white cat that is hanging out in my back yard. I want to feed her so badly but I know what happens when you do that and I have two dogs that are not cat friendly. The kitten is about 2 months old and on her own...it breaks my heart. I'm sure the humane society could find her a home its just trying to catch her..Her Mom obviously taught them to be afraid of people because when I try to approach her, she takes off like a bat out of hell..I don't think catching her is an option. I cant stand it that she is hungry but if I feed her eventually the dogs are going to get her and I wont allow that..I kind of stumped for ideas..got any?
@lorelai (1559)
• Italy
28 Dec 09
Well, I like when people respond to my responses but if they don't I don't mind it much, I mean, I prefer if they do but still...The fact is that some people, specially new ones, and I consider new ones all those who never got paid, don't understand the way all this functions here, not only the part about money, but about friendship and relations, efforts and time people invest here. I must say that I mind if a person replies to some responses and to some they skip. That kind a affects me more than if a person doesn't respond to anyone. I always try to respond to everyone who was nice enough to respond to something I wrote, first of all because it means much to me that someone chose my discussion among a bunch of discussions here, and second of all because at the end of the day it counts how much you wrote. I am grateful to all the people who ever responded to any of my discussions.
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@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Hi lorelai...on a different subject for a minute,,The Lorelai is an unbelievable restaurant in Islamorada which is one of the Keys on the way to Keywest. It is about the half way mark and I think its like isle marker 84.5 while Key west is Islemarker 0..In any case the restaurant is one of the most beautiful places you could ever go. They feature dinner at sunset and have an unbelievable view of the Florida sunset from the Gulf side..It is really worth seeing if you ever come to Florida and the food at the Lorelai is fantastic, featuring fresh fish like dolphin or mahimahi, and fresh caught Tuna etc..Just had to mention this cause its one of my most favorite places to go and we try to get there a couple of times a year. Back to the subject at hand, I have had that happen to me too where the discussion starter responds to some but not mine..It makes you feel like."Hello...is my response invisible?" I make a mental note to do the same to them if I have the chance, but of course never have. I, too, like you, am thrilled when people choose my discussion to read and respond to and am very grateful to them. New people need to read the rules..I know there are alot of them, but if you skip that process, you wont get out of the site what is ment for you to get. (does that make sense) Anyway, I also find it funny what kind of discussions get the most responses. I have written a couple regarding important issues this country is facing and either got 0 responses or 1..I find that interesting..Thanks lorelai for taking the time to respond to this and if your ever in Florida, go to the Lorelai...you wont be disappointed..trust me.
• Malaysia
28 Dec 09
Hi, Sulsisels! At first, it did annoy me , but not anymore. I get used to it already as some members will take a long time to comment back and others would never comment back on our responses. So, as long as I have participated by responding to some discussions or commenting back on the responses I receive, I am fine with it as I earn from what I do and if the discussion's starter does not want to respond to my comments, I have nothing to lose. Of course, there is no point in starting a discussion if there is no interaction, but like I said, I have done my part and if there is no comment on my response, I just don't bother anymore.
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Hi corry,,I'm so glad I started this discussion because I now have a better understanding and from now on am not going to let it bother me because I have learned of other peoples pratices and why they dont respond..Like you, I'm just going to worry about myself and what I do here..
• India
28 Dec 09
I had been talking about this for a long time. Some members, after starting a discussion, never even bother to visit their own discussion.The point is they are the ones who are loosing money, and if they do not come and respond, they will not be making any money. In the beginning it used to annoy me a lot when somebody does not even bother to respond to your responses. As days passed by, I became used to it, and I never even bother to go to the discussions which are started by these people.
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@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Ya know what..I'm going to do the same thing and not even go to the discussions of these people..Whats good for the goose is also good for the gander,,right?? I just cant get over people that obsess about the money...What money?? If they are only for the very little money they make than perhaps they should look into getting a job..
@xuara1 (82)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Yes and no. It depends on the discussion, but usually I don't think it's that big a deal. I try to respond to the people who respond to my discussions, but I only check ones I have responded to for responses back if I think it warranted further discussion. Sometimes, the discussion starter is just looking to gather opinions on a certain subject, and unless asked a question or something, it doesn't warrant a response to your response. Still, it is nice when they do it and I try to do it as much as I can. However, for them to respond to you and just say thanks or whatever is against myLot rules, so they should only respond to you if your comment has provoked them to saying something. There are some people who start a discussion and then never look at it again, but those kind are few and far between.
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Hi xuaral..When I post a response, I try to write it so that the discussion can keep going. You are absolutely right that some responses dont warrant my response and I think thats a shame. Why post if you just want to say something that dosen't keep discussion going..Like I said before, some peoples understanding of what a discussion is, is differnt from mine. I appreciate your post..thanks
• United States
28 Dec 09
For me I don't always response to my responses if I don't have anything else to say. I'm not the type of person to waste my time saying Good Luck! or Thanks For Responding! because mylot doesn't like those type of responses and they aren't going to count towards my earnings. I still read all my responses especially since I have email notifications on, but I'm not going to respond to all. Plus after awhile you start getting the same response over and over again and repetitiveness annoys me.
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@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Hi anotherx...I understand completely what you are saying and not to be repetitive, but I thought that the point of this site was to have discussions..Maybe what I view as a discussion is different that what others view it as..I realize that mylot dosent pay for responses like thanks for posting and good luck, but then I dont they should pay for discussions like What color is your toothbrush either..Happy New Year...J
@sonusd (1548)
• India
28 Dec 09
I also have faced this type of experience so many time .people started a discussion and when we reply then they did not respond it. I think some people are here just to earn some money so they did not understand the concept of this site they think that they just have to answer other or they have to start discussion for which they will get paid but I have got some good response about my problem and solution so I thankful to this site
@atebuds (187)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
I thought you only get paid when you comment on a discussion. I didn't know that you had to reply to every comment made on your discussion. You see, sometimes, it's quite enough that people comment on what you posted. You pick up some tips and advices. It's just natural that sometimes you don't have anything to reply about. When I really feel the content of the comment, then I reply with a simple "thank you".
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
28 Dec 09
hi sonusd,,I too have got lots of help on different issues, especially when it comes to fixing my computer, and truly appreciate that help. You do get paid for responses however, so I dont understand why anyone does not want to do just that. Posting a discussion is not the only way to earn here..Maybe people should read the rules every now and then..Happy New Year to you..J
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Hi atebuds...Love to know what that means, (your user name)..anyway, you do not have to respond to every discussion, thats not what I said. You dont have to do anything you dont want to do for that matter. I was just trying to make a point that its nice to have a discussion which is what the site is about. You can't have a discussion when only one person does the posting..Sorry if I was unclear..J
@thea09 (18326)
• Greece
28 Dec 09
Hi sulsisels, if I remember who it was who wasn't polite enough to respond then I simply don't respond to them again as it shows a lack of manners on their part. All my friends comment back on their discussions as I do on mine, otherwise we wouldn't have any discussions, just a sorry line of ignored responses with zero interaction.
@mysdianait (64068)
• Italy
28 Dec 09
Sending a kiss X
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@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Hi thea,,I agre with your policy..If they arnt polite enough to respond than the heck with their discussons in the future..I guess that sounds kind of harsh but its the truth..I have little time for ignorance..thanks J
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
I seldom respond to the comments of other people on the discussions which I started. Some responses are almost of the same thoughts and ideas and if there are a lot of respondents, then it means I also have to make comments of the same thoughts. It will only appear redundant. I understand what you were trying to say but on my own opinion, I think it's not really necessary to respond back to others' comments especially if I have nothing to say about it. I hope you understand our side too. Thanks
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Pentagan..and now I do..thanks J
@nocturn98 (956)
• Venezuela
28 Dec 09
It doesn't really bother me. Sometimes I'm just glad that I was able to give my opinion on something. I myself dont really respond to comments on my discussion. Just keep on responding, eventually someone will respond back.
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Like I've already said..If thats what works for you than by all means thats the way you should handle the site..I'm not trying to condem anyone, just voicing what bothers me..J
@titan_90 (539)
• India
28 Dec 09
I won't say that it does't annoy me at all, but it's understood that it is not possible to comment to all the responses. Sometimes, the responses are the same, said in a different way.For that, there's no use of commenting the same thing to all the responses.
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Hi titan,,Yes your right and with that I have no comment!! Happy New Year
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
28 Dec 09
I try to comment back to everyone, but I don't always get back to everyone in a timely fashion. To be honest I need to clean out my inbox by commenting and responding, then go to my "unresolved" and go through the discussions, reading everything, commenting when need be and giving best responses. That would take a bit but would definitely be worth it I'm sure. Sorry your getting annoyed. I think a lot of people are like me and think of so many discussions or respond to so much we get ahead of ourselves so to speak sometimes.
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
28 Dec 09
Hi somecowgirl..I dont mind if people get back months later,,at least you know that they read your response..I try to go to the unresolved every couple of days and clean it up..I dont post that many discussions however, I respond more than I post..J
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
30 Dec 09
hello sulsisels! well come to think of it, its really quite annoying specially if the poster is one of your 'friends' here...but anyway, for me, there's no problem at all, we are not obliged to comment back in every response we get, but as a sign of appreciation i think, commenting back is the right thing to do, and yes like what you have said, a real discussion is about exchanging of our thoughts & idea in a certain matter... i think, you should not let yourself feel irritated on this matter coz it will just spoil the fun here...just go on with your ork and if they don't comment back, just let them be...maybe they are just busy or maybe they have nothing more to say... good day & happy new year in advance...
@DOLLYBABY (2536)
• United States
29 Dec 09
to be honest am not annoyed by it all,cause sometimes when u left a comment on another person discussion and then they reply to you comment,it usually goes and on and on and doesn't seems like its gonna stop,and doing that constantly like everyday on the same old post you ain't earning money for it.secondly some members may tried to get back to your comment but when they look at all the comments other members left it's just too much to replied to and it's unfair to reply to one person comment and ignore the other members comments,well that's just how i think.
@maezee (29563)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Sometimes I don't respond to my responses.. but that's just because I run out of time or can't find the time to comment on certain things. So you don't necessarily know that they aren't reading the responses..Maybe they just don't have time or motivation to comment back on your responses?
@rj4pau (216)
• Malaysia
29 Dec 09
I guess the number of responses also depend on the timing of your post as that is when everybody were at their computers mylotting waiting to share their ideas and opinion. Sometimes some posts got extremely many responses for topic you didn't really expect would attract people. Good luck to you. Now you were getting a lot and lots of responses isn't it? Happy new year to you!