Is he your son-in-law or your son?

@kevchua (1004)
Malaysia
December 27, 2009 9:52pm CST
When we're married, the "in-laws" come into the picture. There have been many stories about being with the in-laws. Parents-in-law dislike their daughters-in-law; sons-in-law dislike living anywhere near their parents-in-law and so on. Apparently there's a big difference between being a daughter or a son, and being an in-law and the way they are treated. Recently, my parents-in-law told me that they have been treating me like their son. To me, I take that as a great compliment. What do you think of this? Have your in-laws ever treated you as a son? Is there really a difference in the way they treat you as a son, or as a son-in-law? Or is the difference merely lexical difference?
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@farazkh1 (1157)
• Pakistan
28 Dec 09
In-laws cannot be considered as your Own Parents.however the relation is "beautiful & fragile" at the same time...There is a only condition they would love you,generally when they find there Daughter to be Happy with you.Otherwise they are not as loving as we need them to be.. But i feel that,we must treat them as our own parents and win there confidence every time to reduce there worries and loneliness......!
• United States
28 Dec 09
I agree with meluan and say to change that word "must". It is not a necessity to win their confidence, some in-laws will be prejudice no matter what you do to or with them.
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@farazkh1 (1157)
• Pakistan
29 Dec 09
But i have seen some in-laws more loving then the real parents.it all depends on your understanding with them and the confidence you develop.I am also not very Happy with mines but i have to maintain relation as an relative not as a real Son,because my Mother-in-Law is kind of biased person,therefor I am sure i will not be able to cope with her "Expectations" unless she takes me equally as her real Son....!
• United States
28 Dec 09
To add to my previous post...now that I think about it, most of my brother's side of the family pretty much avoids me anyway. I don't get to see them at all, or if I do it's very very rare. And usually they have that vibe of "we like you because you're the brother of the family and nothing else" kinda thing going on. Guess I have trouble with inlaws eh? lol
• United States
28 Dec 09
Well for me I'm usually literal when I talk to others about my family. I have two brothers on my dad's side, and I'm not afraid to tell others that. It's the truth anyways. My brothers treat me like a full one and I do the same to them now. Back a few years ago, I was immature and acted like a jerk to them when I should have been thinking and acted like a brother should. I call my sister-in-law just that. Due to a bad event that happened between me and my oldest brother and sister-in-law a couple years back, she's been on edge about me ever since. But then again, she treats my other brother and I the same way virtually. She's pretty cold except to her hubby, parents and two kids. I mainly avoid contact with her, and it's been like that ever since they got married 10 years ago.
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
28 Dec 09
I have a son-in-law but I treat him like the son I never had. He is part of my family to me. My son-in-law (son) and my daughter, and my 3 year old granddaughter all live with me. I know he would prefer they all lived in their own place but financially its impossible at this time. However, we all get along and I give them their space. I'm sure there are mother in laws that are not nice at all and the son-in-law couldn't handle living with her but in my case things are really good. I'm also not a meddling type of person.
@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
28 Dec 09
I think it varies. my parents never had a son, so they treat my husband like their son. but my sister's husband they don't treat him like a son because he's a jerk. My husbands parents don't treat me like a daughter. I feel more like the evil woman who took their golden boy away. Of the 3 boys they have I got the best one. He is the oldest. his younger brother is the middle child and boy does he act like it. His youngest brother is the baby of the family. Both of them avoid hard work or any obligation to their parents. my husband can't say no to them. but since he has started to, they blame me. When my kids get married, I hope to accept their husbands/wife into our family and treat them as my own.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
28 Dec 09
I feel that I am treated more like a daughter then a daughter in law by my in laws. I go to my mom in law for advice a lot of times, and I respect her advice and little decisions she sometimes makes for us, even if I don't want to obey, lol. I am not sure what lexical means though I looked it up, lol.