My love failed, I want to die, help me

India
December 28, 2009 1:11pm CST
This is what the mail I received a year ago when a girl read my blog at "hub pages" on the topic "How to come out of love sickness with out killing yourself?". She is from India. She was in love with a guy for about 4 years. Then the boy told her that he could not marry her as his parents were very much against this marriage and he had no option but to obey his parents and marry the girl they had chosen for him. She also said that he was still in love with her. She seriously said that she did not like to live after this incident. She was desperately in need of help. So I wrote to her that he did not deserve her true love. If he really wanted to marry her no body could stop him. He preferred another girl and hence he said these mere dialogues. I also told her that if he was in real love with her she could die for him. But it was rather foolishness to die for someone who would ditch her and could live with out her. I wrote a couple of letters giving a few advices. She was alright and could come out of this agony.This was the first time in my life I felt happy for blogging. I did not make much money from blogging but this gave me the real satisfaction. It was a great experience for me as a writer.How about you, do you have any interesting incidents like this?
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11 responses
@vandana7 (98517)
• India
28 Dec 09
Hey great vijayanths! Offhand I do recall somebody I helped. But more often than not I am the one who gets the help, and accept it quite readily. LOL. Wish I'd known you when I was young. Then I would not have felt so depressed at the time. LOL. I wish people would keep their words, and be honest about everything. :( What is the point in telling this girl today, and letting another one die tomorrow. If the problem is to be eradicated it should be addressed properly so that such cases do not occur at all. Well, 4 years you say. Did you know that in India now, any promise to marry and then fail amounts to breach of contract? Well, if such a promise has promted the girl to do things she would not have normally done, then she can sue the boy and should in fact sue the boy so that the boy does not find a good match, and is forced to marry her, or part with a hefty sum as compensation! That would make the boy realize that such things should never be done. :) he he. We differ so much in our way of treating people. :)
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• India
2 Jan 10
Yes Vandana, my views are a bit different. I don't believe in forcing people to stay in a relationship(legally)If a boy or girl decides to quit, let them do it. Then there is no point in saving that relationship. I don't think we can stop the boy from getting a good match. World is too vast to do it. One thing we can do. We can try to get due punishment for the boy with out affecting the girl's future.
• India
3 Jan 10
I can understand your views Vandana. I think your justice is reasonable.
@eddify (412)
• Pakistan
2 Jan 10
Its a very interesting incident but I bet no one can resolve it. Since my views are if u dont want to change yourself no one will help you do it. An old colleague of mine who is married and has 3 kids fell in lone with a girl who is 22. Both of them were working in a call centre thats how it started. Its been more then a year that they are in contact. The guys family is deadly against their relation, both of them cant get married due to reasons of their own, but cant live without eachother too. His wife left home and he was humilated many times by his family. But he cant leave her. Similarly the girl says she is not interested in getting amrried but she always call him, go out and have fun. What do you think can be done? Both of them left eachother many a times but there is no results
• India
2 Jan 10
This kind of advices can help some people and can't help some others. But we need to give it a try.
@eddify (412)
• Pakistan
5 Jan 10
Lets suppose I am the man I am talking about and u r one of his friends what advice you will give to me? As a friend.
@shobhan51 (376)
• Malaysia
30 Dec 09
Vijayanth, helping people come out of depression or worry is great. She definitely values your contribution and help. If you hadn't done what you did, probably she would had done something that she wouldn't have in a proper frame of mind. Cheers and have a nice day
• India
2 Jan 10
yes, shobha, I was very happy to get her out of her agony(hopefully)
@bingchen (1119)
• China
30 Dec 09
i have never meet this experience in my life,i think that helping other people get rid of agony,it is a great experience and make this girl life better than before,sometimes some people need this help to overcome difficulties and start new journey of life,so we have responsibility to help them and make them happy with us.
• India
2 Jan 10
yes bingchen, it is so nice to experience this happiness.
• India
28 Dec 09
Ya my friend, I had a chance to come across such incidents. I had a friend of mine. He was ditched by his girl. He tried to commit sucide, cut his skin, scratched her name over it again and again. Then we friends stayed with him, councilled him. It was really a horrible time to get out of it my friend. Now he just hates love and considers all girls all over the world are cheaters. Another friend of mine is a girl. She was ditched my a guy asme as your friend's experiance my friend. She almost went mad that she used to stand on the street all alone not knowing why she was standing there. Then I got a chance to council her. I used to speak to her for hours togather even till 2 in the morning my friend and she used to cry continuously my friend. Then she came out of it slowly my friend. I said her that the guy was not worthy enough to be given her love. Then as days passed, she got the right person and now they are living soo happily my friend. This happens in both male and female my friend. But till they get their right partner who really loves the other my friend. Have a good day my friend.
• India
2 Jan 10
Rock you rocked and did a fantastic job there.
• India
3 Jan 10
Thank you dude. Good night.
@avsrox (3)
• India
29 Dec 09
love is just a trick played by nature, so that we can have more offsprings
• India
2 Jan 10
Very interesting trick avsrox, thanks.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
29 Dec 09
Yes. In a social net working site, a girl was constantly writing in a forum that she needs help otherwise she will die. Many wrote in the forum consoling her, encouraging her and I also was writing to give her courage. Once she sent a mail informing about her problem. The same problem what you have written in your discussion that her lover is going to marry as per his parents' choice. Then I sent a long email analysing the problem, advising her to think about her parents, her professional course for which her parents have spent and that she should, instead of giving importance to her lover who is ditching her, should give importance to her parents who matter to her more. Then she slowly came out of that mental agony, finished her studies, passed out in good class. I had a great relief after this. Till then I was under constant tension for the unknown person and was praying for her.
• India
2 Jan 10
Nice to know about your experience buchi. "Till then I was under constant tension for the unknown person and was praying for her"- this show how a good person you are.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
29 Dec 09
This was great vijayanths...i never had any personal experience through blogging....as my blog is related to forex...no one has met me personally after seeing my blog..though i have 11 followers...but i am happy that you have helped someone who was about to quit living just becoz of the false love...you will be blessed definitely by God for such great deed
• India
2 Jan 10
Many people consult me on such matters and I am happy to help them eshaan.
@mindrich (183)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
I have an incident like this in the real world. Even though the man's parents were strongly against their relationship. They still both keep fighting against the odds or obstacles from any circumstances. They able to prove to other people that they truly love each other. I've heard soon they will be going to marriage.
• India
2 Jan 10
nice to know about your experience mindrich, thanks for sharing it.
@pastorkayte (2255)
• United States
4 Mar 10
Yes I did, a couple, I met a friend who was a wonderful and sweet lady who was married to the worst kind of guy, he cheated constantly and the girl who was sleeping with him was also terrorizing his wife, how anyone who was a home wrecker could do that is beyond me. Then they were nice enough to continually make this poor girl, who might I add was an angel feel like it was all her fault, and she was so distraught she wanted to go to sleep and not wake up, however I told her she did not have to do this, she should pray and stand her ground, she did nothing wrong and the two of them will be judged eventually.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
29 Dec 09
That was a nice thing you have done by blogging.Directing her to understand the real facts and helping her to come out of her myths about her boyfriend...that is great.For me,I don't have any blogs for me but I have given councelling to some of my friends on some cases where they could not analyze the situation and as a third person I could do it without any emotions involved.
• India
2 Jan 10
We should try our best to be helpful to others, what do you say srganesh?