Can you accept help from strangers?

@kevinll (967)
China
December 28, 2009 10:12pm CST
Just now I went out and waited for the green light at one cross road. I saw a younger man walk to a old lady. The old lady who carried a heavy bag want to pass the cross road. The road was full of snow and very slippery. At this time the younger man wanted to help the old lady pass the cross. At the begining the old lady was a little fraid of him, she thought he was a bad man. Later she accept the help. Sometimes we may worry about the help from strangers. What do you think about it?
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20 responses
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
This is true,sometimes people were hesitant to accept help from strangers,but,i would still try to offer my help. Well,if someone offer me the same help,i will trust my intuition,if i feel bad,i won't dare,if i feel fine,then,let it be. But,in other situation,i won't trust a stranger easily. Have a good day always
@kevinll (967)
• China
31 Dec 09
Hi, jaiho, sometimes it is from our intuition, I often hear of someone is cheated by other strangers, meanwhile we can see the news which many people help strangers. Happy new year!
@SangsTurks (1447)
• India
29 Dec 09
Since i am capable of doing things on my own now, i would not like to take help from others. But that guy who helped the old lady cross the road did a very good kind deed. There are times when i too want to help people but i do not do so for the fear of what they might think of me!! I think being selfless is a very good virtue that is so rare these days.
@kevinll (967)
• China
31 Dec 09
Hi, sangsturks, selfless is good habit, when I was a child I remembered teacher make help other people as a homework. like you said, now people like to independent. Good luck!
@TheCatLady (4695)
• Israel
13 Apr 10
I can accept help. I remember once about 10 years ago, I was walking home from the grocery store with 2 bags of food. They weren't heavy but I limp and maybe they looked heavy for little me to carry. This cute young Ethiopian solider offered to help me carry them home. I know I'm a bit old to drool over 19 year olds, but he was sweet and polite and oh so good looking. Sometimes I wish I was young again with all the good looking solider guys. At my age, I'm more likely to want to take them home and feed them. LOL
• United States
30 Dec 09
Personally I wouldn't let a random Guy help me. There have been too many stories about women getting hurt by random guys. If I were to ask someone for help it'd be another woman.
• Canada
30 Dec 09
I think that it's often when you need help that strangers appear. There's actually a book that was written recently about the "third man" I think it was called. These are helpful beings who appear in times of crisis. I think you have to trust your instincts. If the person makes you feel uncomfortable and fearful for some reason, take heed. You can't spend life being afraid of everyone and everything. A friend who is a strong Christian once said to me - "If it's your time to go, the best surgeon on the planet won't be able to save you and if it's not, then no one will be able to kill you". FEAR stops us from accepting the help of others and often the acronym for fear is False Expectations Appearing Real. But there are times when you have to take the chance of accepting someone else's help and just hope for the best. If I need help, I often kind of say "I need some help...could you send someone please?" and someone appears to help me. Try it and see how you make out.:)
@allknowing (58163)
• India
30 Dec 09
It is a chance one has to take as some strangers do have ulterior motives but their percentage is small. I will take that chance and accept help if I truly need that help. It is better to take that chance than suffer whatever the loss if help is refused.
@felice369 (239)
• United States
29 Dec 09
That happen to me too. Some strangers ask me for help. Like a man in a wheel chair, ask me if I can push him across the road. I gladly did. Once, I need someone help me jump start my car, some enthusiasts glad help me with that too. I fely deeply appreciate their generosity.
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
29 Dec 09
yes we have done that. once we borrowed a car and had to drive to a large city about 4 hours away and it turned out that the gas gauge was broken and we ran out of gas on a large highway. anyways, i flagged someone down and he took my hubby to get a gerry can of gas. if not for that stranger, we would still be at the side of the road!
@iona84 (18)
• Romania
29 Dec 09
Hi, Well it depends on what kind of person you are...if you are sociable, out-going and intuitive (like me) than you will definitely accept the help of almost any stranger and if you are shy you won't no matter how trustworthy that person looks. In my opinion, it's good to let others help you but first you have to take a good look at them! I'm 25 years old and I can say that till now i've been helped 90% and tricked only 10% driven just by my intuition. So my advice is to help and let others help you!
• United States
29 Dec 09
I guess, nowadays, people don't help others as much as they did in olden times. So when people get offered help they're sort of wary. Especially if your and older person or a child. I'm not very wary of others though.
@smileonstar (4014)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Hi, well... if someone just try to help by just carry the bag for you or take you cross the road then it would be OK. I do accept help from stranger as well... but something is very normal thing, such as pick some stuff for me, help me lift up heavy stuff... etc.
• United States
29 Dec 09
If I were to fall to the ground I would want someones help. I don't think I would turn them away. I was sad one day I broke my foot. I layed on the road with tears and screams no one helped me for an hour or more. This man came out of no where to help me home. Thank god for him and his kind heart.
@warvial (1154)
• Singapore
29 Dec 09
Yes, I think it's hard to trust strangers nowadays. In the past, if a person asked me for road directions, I will immediately tried to help. However, some bad incidents occurs where people are being tricked into bringing the person to his/her location only to get victimized, and after these incidents were made known, I nowadays will only stop at just providing the directions. I mean I won't extend extra efforts to help the person such as bringing them to their locations. Thus, I will set a limit as well even if I am the one who needed help. For example, if I sprain my ankle, I won't allow a complete stranger to send me home, at most I would ask for their help to bring me to a place where I can gain easy access to public transport.
@naimenim (45)
• Bangladesh
29 Dec 09
I accept helps from strangers. But not all times. When i'm very needy, at that time i do this. But, before accepting helps from strangers, you should have a look on him.
• India
29 Dec 09
As i think at the time of trouble we can not think the man is stranger. ALL over the the world capable on confidence we dont mind the people is stranger we should help them.
• China
29 Dec 09
well.if i really need some help i won't refuse the help from kind people. even that's a stranger. we do not have clue to know whether that stranger is kindness or carry some other thought to help us. but we really need the help.that's it and just accept it.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
29 Dec 09
yes!Some times we will be in an awkward situation where we badly need some help from others but couldn't find any known face.At that times it will not be worse to accept a stranger's help.We need not judge all people to be bad and should hope for the best.Only then life will be beautiful.
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
As much as possible I don't. I know I can handle myself. Here in our country there are many people who are untrusted. You always have to check your belongings with you because there are many cases of stealing things. I never accept help except when I am riding in passenger jeep and I have so many things and i will get out of that vehicle. I accept help for pulling my things out of the vehicle and when someone did it to me I am very thankful. About other things I don't know, I still can handle it anyway.
@bingchen (1126)
• China
29 Dec 09
i agree with your opinions.sometimes i think that strangers can help whether he or her have any aim for me.actually i dont believe good people could exist in the world and it happen too less than before,otherwise more and more bad people always take some aims to be closer goodness people and cheat and hurt them.so let more people make alert to protest ourself.
@malamar (784)
• Canada
29 Dec 09
It is sad that the lady had to experience any fear whatsoever from the kindness of the younger man's actions, but that is the way the world is today. There are some pretty hurtful and weird people out there, and they often prey on the elderly and the weak. On the flip side, it is refreshing that the younger man wanted just to assist the older lady - that shows good breeding and good manners, something I wish we could see a lot more of. I try to do as many good deeds as I can to help others, and I try not to let it bother me when I get suspicious or fearful looks. But, it does bother me. It hurts that people have to be afraid or suspicious of the kindness/helpfulness of strangers.