do you get alone with your inlaws?

@annjilena (5621)
United States
January 4, 2010 10:21am CST
i have heard a lot of horror stories about the in-laws ok so the wedding is over are you planning to get married.but do you get alone with your in-laws.maybe your in-laws is all up in your business.can you fine a way to get alone with your in-laws.no one likes a meddling in-law.but if you are marrying their child they are going to want to know if their child is ok boy or girl.so do you have a good mother in-law.i know i did she and his dad was good to me,they treated me like their daughter.so how many can say this.
11 responses
@jakie18 (229)
• Philippines
5 Jan 10
I am very much lucky that me and both my in-laws love me so much.They treat me as their own.They even take my side even if me and my hubby argue on something.I also pay great respect to them.I love them for the good upbringing of my husband.They are very supportive of us in all aspect mentally,emotionally,financially and spiritually.they even continue to remind us of things we sometimes forgot like going to church on Sundays.I was really blessed to have them in my life and also my sister and brother in-laws.By the way it's in both side my husband is also treated the same by my parents.so what else could a wife ask for?
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
5 Jan 10
well said
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
5 Jan 10
For me my in laws and me are both slightly ok because I can't carry her attitude and times when I said to her she didn't understand and she don't like to be corrected.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
5 Jan 10
a lot people don,t like to be corrected but you worked it out and that good out of respect.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
5 Jan 10
For the most part, I get along famously with my inlaws. My father in law is great. He is very supportive. My mother in law is fine along as you agree with her. I lost my husband three years ago, but I am still close to his family. They have been a great comfort in trying times.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
5 Jan 10
sorry you lost one of your in-law at least you found some peace in the family a lot peaople have no peace at all.
@b3th92 (46)
• United States
5 Jan 10
Well I'm not married but I deff do NOT like my bf of 2 years parents. Ha, I think thats how it just goes.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
5 Jan 10
well if you can try to forgive and look over others short coming never do we want to judge our love ones judment belong to god.
• Indonesia
5 Jan 10
My in laws are amazing! They are very helpful and supportive. They are big and humble family. My mother in law is one of the nicest person I've met. I'm proud to be a part of the family.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
5 Jan 10
it,s always good to hear this because so many don,t get along with their in-laws.
@cher913 (25893)
• Canada
4 Jan 10
i get along just fine with my inlaws. hubby and i have been together for 25 and married for 22 years so we must have done something right.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
5 Jan 10
thats great i loved my in laws as well they was good to me.
@Hatley (164670)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Jan 10
annjilena hi oh I got along magnificently as they , the in-laws, live in Washington State and we lived in first Tempe,Arizona then in California so we only saw them one Christmas, spent until after New Years with my mom in law and dad in law. they were very kind people but really really very religious keeping Saturday as their holy day, which was odd to me as a Methodistt, they were Seventh Day adventists.
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
5 Jan 10
i feel you but we have to respect other peoples religion wether we like it are notjust so we can get along with our love ones.
@snowcat46 (2323)
• United States
4 Jan 10
Not all that well. Sometimes when you marry into a family, they like to think they own you. That what is yours is theirs as well, since you're FAMILY. One sis-in-law, who never did anything like that before I started going with her brother, would actually dump my purse at work and go through it!! Showing everyone what was in it, reading anything I'd written and put in there. It was so humiliating! Or they'd call at inconvenient times. If I worked nights, and got off at 4 in the morning, they'd call at 7 am and get mad if I didn't want to gossip or listen to them chatter. Or get upset if I told them I had to go to work instead of talk on the phone. I never understood why that was upsetting!
@annjilena (5621)
• United States
5 Jan 10
seems like they had no respect that you worked and the ideal to go through your purse that was crazy.i feel your humiliation.so thing is never to be repeated.
• Philippines
31 Mar 10
Hello annjilena, I am getting along with my mother in law very well. She is really nice and she loves my husband and son so much. As long as she is good with my son, I have nothing against her. Though there are times that I don't understand her, but I would just ignore it. Take care and have fun mylotting red_amethyst
• Malaysia
6 Jan 10
hi ann .. my parents in law love their children too much, because of that out of 9 living chilren only four are married, even that for 16 yeats they did not allow my husband to marry me , he finally got his courage at age of 45 to actually go against them .. all tru those years with him as lover they dictate n have a hold over his life .. they kept telling him of me being bad n have used "love potion" to attain him ..(when i met him he was 31 years OLD n i was only 21 n fresh from my hometown into city, he is a macho man n powerful character he wanted to protect me n he did and still is, he just did not want to offend his family n i understood) .. they were totally against our marriage 3 years back .. now even though they talk nice n potray love ,i will never forget their actions as i saw the tru persons now .. i am a MAID at their house and a manager at my office but with good husband i dont care about them cheers
@fchalida (196)
• Indonesia
5 Jan 10
My mother in-law saying anything she feel right. If she different argument with my hubby, she always call me and scold me, even i don't know anything their problem. I just silence and tears. And my hubby always support me. But she always give different side for me to understand compared with my mother. If She don't feel good for something she angry to all family, and locked her self in her room. But still she give more understand me if i share my problem. She is open minder with her children, she has a lot of story to tell, so if she tell story it took 1 day to finish the story. But unfortunately she pass away 1 month ago, and that made me missed her a lot.