how many relationships have you had in one year?

United States
January 4, 2010 3:33pm CST
i mean how many was the most you have ever had? and is there a number when people would start to question either your dating style or personality? when i was a teen i changed boyfriends every month or so for the first few then had 2 that lasted 5-9 months then i met my husband.. but i think back and think that if i was still dating now 11 years later at that pace i would have a list of ex's a mile long! now im not saying that if you have a ton of ex's there is something wrong with you or you have questionable morals.. heck you just may be the type to realize when somethings not working and be strong enough to pull the plug instead of letting it slowly die out painfully! but lets just say you knew some one with a history of a lot would you think a certain way? and how many a year would you think would start to be too many?
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
5 Jan 10
Interesting question....and for me the answer is 1....In fact after giving it some thought before replying to your thread I realized that my shortest relationship was 1 yr..then I was with a guy for 2 yrs then I met my kids dad and we were together for 8 yrs then my hubby and I have been together for goin on 12 yrs
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• Australia
5 Jan 10
Hi Ravenladyj :) I seem to have mucked up your friend add. Perhaps you can resend? Thanks.
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• United States
15 Jan 10
wow thats impressive! i might have had longer relationships if almost all of them hadnt cheated on me lol
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@nautilus33 (1831)
5 Jan 10
HI! I have had only one relationship in a year, just because i don't like having many girlfriends, I mean I don't like to change them so often!
• United States
15 Jan 10
hey if you have no reason to switch then why should ya? i had a bunch of ex's that liked to cheat on me and i dont put up with that! so thats one reason i had a lot of them lol
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@DenverLC (1146)
• Philippines
5 Jan 10
Collect and collect then select the best is the right principle behind this topic. It is not really bad to have as many relationship as much as we can so long as we know our own limitations and we are not hurting much the other person we are involved in. Honestly I have a little distrust to women who jumped up from a relationship to another, Its quite weird and respect catcher.
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• United States
15 Jan 10
yeah as long as no one is getting hurt and everything is honest i think its ok.. i do have a reason for having switched so many times is because almost every ex i had cheated on me really soon after going out with them and i will not stay with some one that does so that made my numbers jump lol
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@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
4 Jan 10
i am not much of an out going person. even when i was single i am just usually home and just go out when there is a band practice or we need to go to work. my brother as our band singer is very out going and has a lot of girlfriends. when we went to abroad he still has a lot of relationship there. i am more of a serious guy. i only have three relationships and the third one is my wife. married with her for seven years now. i dont think that if you have a lot of exs that there is something wrong with you. it is part of knowing people and sometimes you only forget the hurt of the past relationships if you get into a new one.... thats how other people do it. for me i dont judge a book by its cover, or judge a person for how many exs they had. that would not be fair.
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• United States
15 Jan 10
very true.. im my husbands 3rd relationship and we have been married almost 11 years now.. i think i wouldnt have changed so many times if i had dated guy that would actually not cheat on me within the first month of being together grr.. oh well at least i didnt waste a lot of time with them then find out how they were and it got me closer to getting to know my husband
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
28 Jan 10
Hmmm up until this year I hadnt actually had many boyfriends...A fling or two...but...yeah i was in a couple long term relationships and now so far nothing cement. My Ex and i broke up after 5 years this fall. Ive since dated two different guys and made a couple new friends with other guys and flirted with a couple others. Sooo i guess thisyear would be the year...
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• United States
30 Jan 10
that must have been a hard breakup with that much time involved
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@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
3 Feb 10
It hurt but...with living in two different places and being far apart we also drifted romantically apart. We were really better as friends (still are) than dating each other. It just took us both a while to clue in!