Would you be upset if your child's grandparent blew off their birthday party?

@ladym33 (11009)
United States
January 4, 2010 6:36pm CST
If you are having a birthday party for your child with plenty of notice to everyone, and your own mom calls you to tell you she is not coming because she is going to a singles dance, would you be upset about that? Keep in mind these dances happen at least 6 times a year.
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• United States
5 Jan 10
No I would not be mad at my mother. I know in life we can't all please everyone. I would want my mother to enjoy herself. It would not matter to me that the dances happen 6 times a year. I would want her to do what she wants. Kids have to learn to except disappointment in life. My daughter learned to except her grandmother not ever going to one of her party's. She is 15 now and doing just fine with it.
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@ladym33 (11009)
• United States
5 Jan 10
You would think she would want to see her grandchildren. She can still go to the dance just maybe a little late.
@ladym33 (11009)
• United States
5 Jan 10
Sorry I should have put I would think, not you would think.
@Hatley (164071)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Jan 10
hi ladym33 not really as grandmothers are people too with a life of their own,they have already done their duty in raising their children,now its me time for them,no I would be kind to her and assure her that she could make it up to the grandchild another time. My mom was not always at my sons birthday parties as she saw him a lot any way and often sat for us, she said parties like that were for the little folks and she does have a point. Myson always loved his grandmother so guess it did not hurt him any.
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@ladym33 (11009)
• United States
5 Jan 10
She makes very little effort to see my kids as it is. Even if I need her to babysit I have to ask 2 months in advance. She goes out every day of the week which is fine, but it seems like a struggle to get her to do anything with the kids.
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
5 Jan 10
Oh my goodness, I'm a grandmother of a 3 year old girl. As long as I still live in the state that my granddaughter lives I will be at every Birthday, Christmas, Easter, school event etc.. I can't imagine missing her Birthday party or anything that has to do with my granddaughter. She is the most important person in my life at this time and it would break my heart if I was not there for her. I can't imagine giving up being with her to go to a dance. Mind you I love to dance but I would give up everything to be with my granddaughter.
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@ladym33 (11009)
• United States
5 Jan 10
That is how a grandmother should be.
• Singapore
5 Jan 10
I would be upset. If it happens to me I couldn't imagine the dissapointment in my son's face. He is always eager to see his grandparents. On the other hand, I should be understanding. She has her own life too.
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• Philippines
5 Jan 10
Hi Ladym33, No, I wouldn't mind it. The children's party might be a bore to her. She also does not come often to visit the children because of the bus trip and she is weak. There were times in the past that it happened. Now that the children are grown ups, my mom is older and weaker. It has been awhile that she saw my children. And, if she needs to do something on my child's birthday, I wouldn't mind ... she has a life of her own.
@ladym33 (11009)
• United States
5 Jan 10
At the age he is at we still have family parties where mostly just family and close friends are invited. It is not like a loud kids party. My mom is in better shape than most 30 year olds.
@jennybianca (12918)
• Australia
5 Jan 10
I would be more than upset. It is very important for children to have lots of access to their grandparents. Grandparent/ grandchild interaction is a positive and beneficial aspect of a childs life. It contributes to their health and well being. This is not with standing that you obviously went out of your way to include the grandparent by offering lots of notice. Is this particular singles dance of great importance? What does your child think?
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@ladym33 (11009)
• United States
5 Jan 10
Well he is only going to be 6 so I have not discussed it with him but he will notice. This dance is the same as all the rest that happen several times a year. There might possibly be men there. That is the attraction.
• United States
5 Jan 10
Yes I would be upset with my parents if they just blew off my grandchildren's birthday because of something they can or do, do on a regular basis, that is also something that wouldn't be detrimental to them what so ever if they miss it one time. In doing so they are not really hurting me, they are hurting their grand child, but myself, or their parents, are the ones who have to deal with the after math and the disapointment of the child invovled. Not to mention children remember those kinds of things, and it teaches them to not count on that person being there for them when they need them.
• United States
5 Jan 10
Opps that first sentence should read: blew off "their" grandchildren's birthday
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@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
5 Jan 10
my mother in law dose it all the time she dosen't see it though when you point it out to her though she has 2 granddughters from my hubby an I an 3 grandsons from my brotherinlaw an if you tell her anything about one our daughter she changes the the subject to tell me something my nephews are doing an she can't make to birthday partyies an such but i don't think she misses the boys drives me nuts she is trying to get better though cause my youngest one who is real smart asked her one day nanny don't you like me an I think it home a little
• India
5 Jan 10
Yes, I would be upset whatever be the reason. Even if she’s just sitting at home doing nothing, I would be upset. It depends of course on how close you actually are or whether you wanted her to come just for the sake of it but in most cases, relations between grandparents and grandkids are usually very strong and it would upset the child too if granny suddenly did not turn up and for my child’s sake at least I would be very upset too. only exception could be if she was sick or some emergency came up.
• United States
5 Jan 10
Yes I would. Why don't they just tell the grandchild that they are not going to buy them a present too. What the heck is wrong with people!!!