If you dislike a person...

Hey donsky, good question here since we all meet people we either don't like or don't get along with. I avoid "hate" though, that is too strong and too negative for me. I have learned through the years that you do not have to like the person in charge, but you do need to respect the position. I play a little mind game with myself when I find I am in this position, and that is to thank the stars above that this person in not in my immediate circle and not part of my "real" life. The minute that "hate" comes into play, emotions involved take away alot of our better judgement and rational thought. If she hates her boss, and her boss hates her, chances are this situation is already on the brink of disaster. We hate people who anniliate, destroy or hurt other people. We hate serial killers who snuff out innocent lives. We hate injustice and prejudice, or whatever. We only dislike people for reasons of our own (hard to get along with, difference of opinion, disparaging remarks, and so on). Unfortunately, by the time we experience this feeling, we are often beyond reason ourselves. I am not saying some people are unlikeable, because they surely are. I am just saying how we choose to react or respond to those people is truly up to us. If your friend is that unhappy, I strongly suggest she finds a new job. Life is far too short to waste time and energy on people we don't care about.

Well i tink it is necessary that u let that person know ur dislike and who knows he may actually be a nice person from inside.i'v had personal experiences. So let people change for you.thats how they will like u too

I had a friend who had a breakdown because she could not handle her bad feelings for her boss. He was new. Much younger than they were used to and he was full of himself. He told filthy jokes and had a foul mouth. I've had bosses I disliked with a passion. You have to put your feelings aside so you can interact with them as you need to. They probably know people don't like them and they don't care...they are the authority. One of my bosses was a bully and he had no idea the staff despised him. I had one boss I got on really well with. One day he just turned nasty and that was the way he stayed. I had no idea how to relate to him anymore. Most of my bosses, male and female have been pretty ugly. The good ones have been great.

If I do not like someone than I try my best to just stay away from them. If it is someone I work with I just speak to that person or persons if I have to but if I do not then I just do my work and do not bother with that person or persons. Now if it is your boss it will make it harder but you will have to just do your work and be nice to the boss if you can not do that then fine another job where you do like your boss. If it is a big company maybe I could transfer to a different department.

If I dislike a person, I will try my level best not to come face to face with that person. Then also if it is inevitable I would like to interact the least. But when the situation is such that I dislike my boss, then there is no other go but to bear the situation. If the situation goes out of hand I would either have to change myself or change the boss

Well, i am a person of open nature and i will openly express my like or dislike to the person straightly. I dont like hiding our feelings towards a person and hating them without their knowledge. I really dont like the idea of smiling to a person by keeping hatered in mind. because it will always lead into more and more troubles and i dont believe by behaving so would bring us something good. Be frank to express ourself, i'm likewise and my friends know well about it. In my school and college days, it was funny the way i responded in class which was boring and those i hates most probably because of bad professors. I used to show my dislike by either sleeping, or biting my finger nails and yawning while the professor looks at me. So he/she will understand that i'm not interested in his way of teaching. Most times this open behaviour had led to my cut-off internal marks. When i showed my dislike to my school principal towards changing uniform, he got a tendancy to give me TC. lolz, its all funny when i'm recalling those moments now!. -Jithin :)

All of us have peronal preferences and it is normal for us to hate some people. I don't like people who dominates. I don't like if somebody forces me to do something or getting into my personal space. I hate people taking advantage of help. I also hate people who get things done by flattery. I am not a person of flattery. I usually keep a distance from the above mentioned people. If the person is my colleauge, I need to communicate with her even if I hate her. In those cases, I always be careful about my talk. I always talk to the point and avoid unnecessary matters. I avoid personal contacts with those people. No text messages or personal emails.

If i dislike a person i woon't show it. If i show it means it will hurt him/her. Since his character is not liked by me, i'm getting out from him. I woon't show that and all....

If I dislike a person, I just usually try my best to keep a safe distance and ignore them. However, if I absolutely HAVE to be in their presence, I will usually keep my hatred bottled up for when they really start to push me over the edge

If it's your boss that you don't like and you don't want your life to be more miserable than it already is, then PROFESSIONALISM is the way to go.

Well, if I dislike it I will act depending on what person is it, but what I will never do is act as if I like that person. If it's a boss you can just act neutral, if it's some friend's friend then is ok to show it openly.

I am a person who does not know how to pretend or hide my real mood and feelings towards others. I am so blunt often and I like frank people too as a I consider them a good company. I usually dislike a person with reason that are valid, I still give chances until twice or trice, after that its time to explode and show my real me. I dont keep a bitter silence because its hard to fool my own self.

hi friend, if i dislike a person i wont show it out friend let it be higher authority or our friend.i will try to avoid from them.if i cant i have to be with them in work.i will be formal to them complete my work and will move out from that place friend. have a nice day :)

Well, certainly as for me when I don't like the person I stay away from him/her. But that also depend who's that person is. If he is someone I know I can approach to to say what I feel about him I do not have problems in expressing it. I can say it in a nice way. I am a very expressive one and say what I always felt. Even if that is my boss I tried to have a good relationship or communication. If he will take it personally then It's up to him but I least I voiced out what I have to. I know very few do that because it takes a lot of courage. It's the same thing that you want other person let you know why they're staying away from you without knowing their reasons.

Hi donsky, I don't feel any real need to show most people that I dislike them. I can be at a function or work with people that I don't particularly like and still be polite, friendly and respectful towards them. I just don't invite them into my personal life. As long as they aren't right up in my face and being rude towards me then there is no reason to let them know how I feel. For all I know, the feeling is probably mutual. Now when it comes to a boss, well, that's a different story. I had a boss that was very, very difficult to listen to and to work for. I only once actually gave it back to her and that was because she overstepped her bounds and started questioning and critisizing my personal life which she knew little about and was none of her business. She ended up appologizing to me for it. When it came to my work, I just tolerated her and looked at it as she was the one paying me for someone who seemed to have so many complaints. Not only that, every time that I felt I'd had enough and started looking elsewhere for work, she gave me a raise. Once I did quit and found another job. She eventually came to my new work and offered me a hefty raise to come back. I would advice your friend to deal with it the best she can and in the mean time keep her eyes out for a better more pleasant job. She really does not want to put herself in a spot where she may get fired. Jobs are hard to come by these days.

It depends. How old is your friend? Is this a part time job and she goes to school? If it's the case, she should endure this since it's only for a short period of time. When she will be done with school, she will leave that palce anyway. However, if it's her long life carrer, I think she should consider finding another place before confronting the problem. Working for the rest of your life into a place where your boss is a total moron can be difficult. A workplace should be where you work peacefully and enjoy what you are doing. It can also affect performance.

Hi, donsky14. If it is my boss, then I will not show my true feelings because I have to keep my job. But, if it is someone whom has less authority, then I will show my real true feelings, which aren't always so nice.

Well, if I do not like the person I still try to communicate with them because I believed that my expression at the first in that give particular person is wrong.

I usually do not show it especially if it is someone I should respect as you mentioned a boss, teacher, etc. But even for example, my boyfriends friends or some of their girlfriends/wives. Some of them I just don't like but I don't show it. I am nice to them when the come over and I try my best not to say anything bad about them to my boyfriend out of respect for him. Now I think it also depends on the reason you don't like the person. For example if they did something terrible towards you or someone you care for, then I probably wouldn't have a problem letting them or other people know how I feel about them.

If I dislike somebody, I don't start conversations with them. If they start talking to me I might reply depending on how much I dislike them. When I do answer I give them short answers and I act like I dont care what they are saying. It works really well for me. Since this is her boss, she shouldn't do that. Maybe she should try tlking to her boss and telling her how she feels but not in a disrespectful way.