"Birds of the same feather flock together or opposite attracts?"
By lingli_78
@lingli_78 (12822)
Australia
January 5, 2010 4:00pm CST
Hi guys... It had been ages ago since I post a discussion here... I am just wondering majority of the people in this world can only get along with people who are similar to them (similar characters, temperaments, hobbies, etc)... That means, they only want to make friends with people who 'clicked' with them just like a saying that says: "Birds of the same feather flock together"... My question is, how many of you have ever try to make friend or get along with people who are totally opposite from you? What is your experience? If you can get along with people who are similar to you, there is nothing extraordinary about that... But if you can get along with people who are totally opposite from you, then that is what is extraordinary as it required lots of efforts from both parties... I am really curious to hear your experiences getting along with totally opposite people... Please share... My resolution for 2010 is to try to be more loving and compassionate to the people who are opposite to me and get along with them... Take care and have a nice day everybody...
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7 responses
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
6 Jan 10
I know what you mean. My take on this would be try to be as civilized as possible, but if the person is a real trouble-maker like not wanting to be friends and all that no matter how many times I've answered the discussion, then I shall avoid answering totally. But there are discussions which are cool but I'm ignorant of, so that does not mean I'm avoiding that person. Good topic here. I can tolerate anything, except rudeness..
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
6 Jan 10
thanks for your response... i can't tolerate rude people as well and i think nobody does... take care and have a nice day...
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
7 Jan 10
In my part of the world, sometimes rudeness can be mistaken for being outspoken. You'll be surprised, lol..
You are welcome..
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
6 Jan 10
I agree that birds of the same feather flock together. So when we make friends, it is usually such a case. If we don't find anything in common with someone, it is hard for us to be friends with them, especially friends who are close to and care for each other. But anyway, I wish you to fulfill your dream in the new year, lingli.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
6 Jan 10
thanks for your response and wishes williamjisir... i wish you all the best for new year as well... take care and have a nice day...
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
6 Jan 10
Hi lingli!
Yes you are right there is nothing extraordinary about being able to get along with people who have similar character, likes and dislikes as you do. Indeed but being able to make friends and deal well with people who are opposite your personality and likes and dislikes is something more notable. It just means you are amiable, tolerant, friendly and meek enough to be able to still maintain friendship with people who are not likable enough. Well dear, I think I can go along with people who are my opposites to a certain extent only. My level of tolerance is quite short so I would rather just keep away from people who are not likable to me. I can maintain civil relationship with them but to consider them as good friends would be quite hard for me. Friends for me means friends in the real sense of the word. Those that I consider friends are people that I could stick closer than a brother so if a person is my exact opposite in belief, in preferences, in habits and so on and so forth, I think I will find it very hard to maintain friendship with him.
Yes you are right there is nothing extraordinary about being able to get along with people who have similar character, likes and dislikes as you do. Indeed but being able to make friends and deal well with people who are opposite your personality and likes and dislikes is something more notable. It just means you are amiable, tolerant, friendly and meek enough to be able to still maintain friendship with people who are not likable enough. Well dear, I think I can go along with people who are my opposites to a certain extent only. My level of tolerance is quite short so I would rather just keep away from people who are not likable to me. I can maintain civil relationship with them but to consider them as good friends would be quite hard for me. Friends for me means friends in the real sense of the word. Those that I consider friends are people that I could stick closer than a brother so if a person is my exact opposite in belief, in preferences, in habits and so on and so forth, I think I will find it very hard to maintain friendship with him.@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
6 Jan 10
hi salonga... thanks for your response... you've got a very interesting point here... you must be very loyal to your friends because you mentioned that you stick to them closer than a brother... i admire you for that... take care and have a nice day...
@MrKennedy (1978)
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6 Jan 10
Personally, I would rather be friends with a person who had similar tastes and thoughts to me than somebody who was completely the opposite. I think that opposites can attract, yet they can also cause friction, disagreement and a whole host of troubles.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
5 Jan 10
Hello lingli. As you said I think people who are completely opposite can get along. But that's just about it. They get along towards a common task, a common goal, but in the end they can't be more than that. To be friends, I think they should at least have a few things in common. To have interests together so as to build a foundation of friendship.
I always believe that birds of the same together, always flock the same feather...
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
6 Jan 10
thanks for your response... i also agree with you to some extent... but i wish that i can open up myself further this year to be friend with people who are even opposite to me... that will be my wish... take care and have a nice day...
@daiweian06 (1405)
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8 Nov 10
"Birds of the same feather flocks together" NOT applicable to all people. My friends in college are not really the same with me. We are only three friends. This girl is so studious and a loner. She wants to be alone all the time. All she want to do is to read and do all our activities in school. The other girl is so jolly and never get tired of everything. But both of them are my friends. Im a type of person who wants to go out always. Do happy things in life. People are so surprised why we met each other and build a friendship. Its because we like each other and we accept changes and respect each other.
@plantit1 (297)
• United States
6 Jan 10
I look at people as each having a unique style of their own, not good or bad but unique. Thats what creates the beauty here. I dont have to be good friends with everyone but do have to get along with everyone I work with or family members. Thats important to me. But the truth is, like attracts more of the same. The old law of attraction at work. So we vibrate towards those that are more like us than those that are not.
