Why do women have to suffer it violently?

Philippines
January 6, 2010 1:12am CST
There are so many cases of domestic violence. And the person mostly affected are children and the women. I so hate to think that the man that promised you a good life will be the one will hurt you severely. Yes, I know there are laws already for women who are abuse but what I don’t understand why are there some men hit their wife. Why such arguments could lead to physical fight. Can a couple can’t talk about things with open-minded and understanding? If a women were abused by her husband , is this destined happen to her? Because this is really unfair. Could a woman even for the first time experienced beaten by her husband should report this immediately to the police so that his husband can be warn, to avoid it to happen again? I think this is the best way , for the husband will know that her wife has her rights. Why I don’t understand why do a husband have to beat his wife? Is this some kind of authority? For her to be afraid of him? Is this right? Can you share something violence happened at your home , or any of your friends? Honestly I am also a victim. Can you tell me what should a woman do even for the first time she experienced it?
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4 responses
@ratyz5 (7831)
• Philippines
12 May 10
Though it might be difficult to do at first, a victim, of any crime for that matter, should immediately notify anyone who has authority over the one who did the bad deed. Some victims are afraid to do so because they think that once the culprit finds out, they would beat them more severly. There are many reasons why some men hurt their spouses but, such reasons are not enough to raise their fists to them. As much as it is hard to accept for others, domestic violence is still out there.
• Philippines
13 May 10
and some of the reason of the women is that they want to preserve the marriage hoping that their husband will change in later time, which does not happen. Their husband in turn have more strength to hurt them because for them their wives are coward and cannot defend themselves, when we know there are other ways to defend ourselves.
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@ratyz5 (7831)
• Philippines
13 May 10
That's why it is really important for anyone who wants to be in a marriage to know a lot of things about the person whom they want to be married with. Not knowing some details like violent behavior during a person's past might can be fatal.. Love should not hurt as well..
• United States
6 Jan 10
actually, men are abused by their wives as well, its just less often reported.
• Philippines
6 Jan 10
Actually those kind of men are just nice to women. They are abuse but their love for their wives is much bigger than the physical pain. Thanks for the response.
@nocturn98 (956)
• Venezuela
6 Jan 10
I am aware that this happens a lot. But some women are also crazy that they still prefer not to stand up for themselves whenever this happens. They still prefer to keep silent and just take the abuse. If you first experience it, give it a second chance but never a third. Although studies show that once it happens, it has a high probability of happening again.
• Philippines
6 Jan 10
yes, I don't understand why some women do not wake themselves from this nightmare. If only they take action of what has happen, they keep silent not because they don't want to prolonge the fight, but some of them are ashame that many people will know their suffering, which is wrong. I guess some of them are not aware and have to be educate about their rights. It might happen anytime anywhere, so they have to know how to stand up for themselves. Thanks for the response.
• Malaysia
20 May 10
women do not have to suffer at all! only those stupid guys who like to hurt their wives deserve to be punished most violently (if i was in charge of the world, that's what i'll do to them!) i simply can't stand men who try to vent their anger and get physical with their partners. since time immemorial, even when dinosaurs roamed the world, males always were the ones entrusted to oversee the safety and ensure their family's security. not be the one who harms them. some men are just cowards. just because they know they can hit, thus they choose to hit. let them stand against something which can hit them back, and hit them harder. then see how they feel... sorry to know that you're going through something like this. for your safety and peace of mind, i highly suggest that you try and report this to a local women's action group, and also the police if possible. domestic violence is not something that should be overlooked.. take good care of yourself greychunny26..