Need Help

Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
January 6, 2010 9:59am CST
I been talking to a man online for over a year and i am truly in love with him but he talks to another women and lies about a lot of stuff.What should i do?
30 responses
@spalladino (17923)
• United States
6 Jan 10
How can you be truly in love with someone you've never met face to face? For all you know, this guy could really be me and I'm a woman living in Florida. It's not possible to really love someone you only know on one level, especially online. Online you can be anyone you want to be and it's easy to hide the real person that you are. Meanwhile, perhaps you have missed many opportunities to meet a nice man in your area because you are so wrapped up with this guy. He's proven himself to be a liar. What more do you want? It's time to let go of this fantasy and move on to a real relationship with a real man.
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@Chiniona (327)
• China
14 Jan 10
Ha ha!I'm surprised that why you love him! Do you think that a cheater could give you happiness? I think if you know him much more, you'll find he isn't what you though before!
@aerous (13465)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
If I were you my friend stop talking to that man if you find that he has another woman than you are. There are many man that really interested in you don't stick to that man...love is all around just look near and far then you look for what your looking at...Have a nice day!
@Agoenxz (555)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 10
Just do what you have got to do... what your heart tells you... and what you think is best for you...!!! dont let your self got fooled that ease and dont give too much hope for some one whom you never met before (in real life) good luck!
• Canada
10 Jan 10
First of all it is really hard to get to know someone online. My friend tried this and even tried to meet the guy and he just never showed up. We found out he was lying about who he was, age, where he worked. Everything. You are truely infatuated but not in love. I think you should move on. This guy doesn't sound honest and for your own sake maybe it's time to stop wasting time on him. Cheers.
@bellis716 (4805)
• United States
9 Jan 10
Would you want to spend the rest of your life with a liar? You know what you need to do. Just do it NOW!
• United States
8 Jan 10
He is a heart break waiting to happen. So unless your aching to be hurt, you may want to just leave him alone.
• China
8 Jan 10
forget him, and stay away from him, and find friends in true life around u. i believe u'll feel better soon.
• United States
8 Jan 10
dump his a-- my son starting talking to a girl on line six months later they were married they had 3 little girls. this woman couldnt or wouldn't clean her nose let alone her house. he is disable and she expects him to do every thing even have her dinner ready when she comes in clean house,do the dishies, take care of the babys. all.we found out latter she's always been this way.pull up your skirt and run. if he's all ready flirting with other's on the internet it won't stop after you get together.if you can't look in his eyes and see honesty.DUMP THE RAT. firemountain
• United States
8 Jan 10
well first of all have you meant him? and it sounds like to me there is no trust there.and to me he is all ready cheating but follow you gut not your heart life is to short
@andy77e (5163)
• United States
7 Jan 10
Ditch him, and learn to control your emotions until you find someone worth having emotions for.
@cerebellum (3870)
• United States
7 Jan 10
If he lies already, what kind of a relationship will you have. Most good relationships are built on trust and you don't have that. It doesn't matter that he talks to another woman, it is possible that they are just friends. I can't understand how you could develop such feelings just talking online.
@anqial (58)
• United States
7 Jan 10
i don't think he thinks you are the right one for him.
@savak03 (6676)
• United States
7 Jan 10
First of all how can you truly be in love with someone you haven't met. Also, you really have no way of knowing if anything he has told you about himself is true. He might be old fat with a wife and ten kids. How would you know? It is real easy to be someone you are not on line. There are better ways to meet someone for a lasting loving relationship. The internet is not the place to look for love. For every time it works out there are a hundred times that it ends up in disaster. If he will two time you online what makes you think he won't do it in real life.
@Orea15 (281)
• United States
7 Jan 10
You have to realize that what you are in love with is not the person, but a personable illusion. There is nothing real, nothing genuine here. You know this, and that is why you are asking us to back up what your gut is telling you. There is nothing real here, nothing that will lead to your happiness and security. This is a person playing around with other peoples' most precious feelings, and this to me is heinous behavior and utterly selfish. Run like hell. This road will lead you to nothing but misery. {{{hugs}}}
• United States
7 Jan 10
I'm a man, and I'm going to be honest. If he lies there is a reason for it, chances are it's because he's working both you and her. You may not want to hear this, but a relationship built on lies, is like a house built on sand. It may be fine for a time, but enevtually the sand will shift and your house will fall.
@gtdonna (1740)
7 Jan 10
My dear friend, put it this way, if he is lying to you and the relationship is only an online one, what would he do to you if you were in a face to face relationship with him. A year is quite a long time to know someone online, and to me, it seems as though the thrill of your relationship has worn off and whereas you have fallen in love with him, he has clearly moved on by seeking out other women. I would say, cut your losses and move o, the hurt, pain and doubts is not worth it. Granted online relaitonships can be successful if the two individual are honest with each other and genuinely in love, they do not always work out especially where distance can be a factor. In the end the final decision is yours. Wishing you well for 2010
• India
7 Jan 10
When u hv come to know that he is talking to other women and is also is a liar, then best thing for u will be to slowly detach yrself from him. I know it will hurt for few months, but this few months pain is better than suffering for yr entire life.
@judelen (428)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
Hello! In my research about on line dating, many says that man here are just collecting ladies for their own, anyway it's just an online, just in the internet only. I have a friend that the man whom she have an on-line relationship came to a point to visit her in our country, but sad to say that there 8 of them to be visited in that particular schedule. It's up to you to believe them or not.
@mzz663 (2775)
• United States
7 Jan 10
If you know he is lying about talking to someone else online what makes you think he isn't married or something else? If he is lying about other things in general then I would say stay the heck away from him, he will do nothing but lie the whole time you're with him if you ever get with him. I would say to start other conversations with other people and leave himm alone.