What do you do when you are stressed?

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I've never figured out meditating, its like one of those "tricks" that some people can do - I've tried and tried, and when I TRY to empty my mind, I can't do it, when I don't try, then I can sit with a totally empty mind for minutes on end, staring into space.

Hi, Those two things are totally different things. In meditation, until you perfect the skill, you have to give effort to blank your mind. The main conception is the rejection of thoughts. Probably you've followed the link I've given here. I've mentioned there, that every thought directly or indirectly relate to the situation we are actually want to avoid. The purpose of meditation is not to avoid the situation at all. But it would put you in an indifferent ground, so that changing your perspective from a victim to a troubleshooter becomes easier. It gives you strength. One who has perfected it can control anything in his mind. Like he can decide for himself what to think about something or not. That's not a miracle. It needs practice. Take care.. God bless you

Apparently a lot of you have that reaction - but if I stay away, I think about the stresses and if I can't fix it, all it does is make my stomach hurt and I really don't want to get an ulcer - I've been pre-ulcer 3 times and those things HURT!!!

that would be "AWAKE" not "away"

I really only do the sleeping retreat when I'm in a situation where I can't do anything - like with the whole Judge Alex thing - until the show was on, I couldn't do anything - and so I just slept.

I have seldom had a problem eating - but I can drop off like a light when I'm stressed, something I can't normally do!

It never aired, I think they only agreed to do it because they wouldn't be out any more money if they did it. See, she lied to them, Medicaid payed for her child's visit to the hospital - she was claiming that she wanted the money back - all I wanted was the case to be dismissed with prejudice - meaning she could never sue about it again.

Lied, really? Nobody lies on those things?

oh puhlease? bats eyes and looks real sorrowful...

If I stay awake, then I worry about what is stressing me and that makes my stomach hurt. I'd rather not think about it and sleep!

Nice! Thanks for the heads up on chocolate yogurt. I am not sure that I would be up for it though. I'd have to try it first. Thanks though, for this tip. When you are stressed and can't sleep, I think to get up and either read or even write out your thoughts would indeed prove to be most helpful. Eating is not a good thing to do to suppress stress. If you choose to eat, low fat or no fat is best. IE: Grapes, Fresh vegies etc.

there's chocolate yogurt ya know... and its yummy!!! and its low fat or fat free - have to go look and not going to do it now, when my hot tub was working, and the former roomie stressed me out, we'd go out there with a soda and CHEESECAKE!!!

Are you a Turas? my mom and daughter are and they are the worriers

Sagittarius, on the Scorpio cusp with Leo rising - I'm like 85% air and fire with only like one planet in a water sign.

lucky you, I've always been a worry wart

the diet is really helped by not having bad foods in the house When we started, I took everything that was opened and threw them away and we gradually weeded out those things that were totally off and took them either to my client or the roomie's folks

Well, pudding is no temptation to me because of the corn starch in most of them - they would make me SOOOOO sick!

Yeah, that's what I try to tell my husband, I need all the crap out of the house, but he isn't on the diet and says it's his house, too, plus he just bought a bunch of chocolate pudding.

Yeah, I've seen all that, and the talking too much - OH YEAH - that is definitely one!

Oy! I was silent for years as a kid; I'm just making up for all that lost time! So gimme a break awreddy! Maggiepie MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY 2010!!!

I see, I've heard of scream therapy, but I've never found it to work for me. I am also too fat, and if I eat when I'm bored... guess what that says? I've been on my "new life style" for 7 months and am down about 45 lbs.

I'm actually not stressed too much lately, not like when I was going to be on Judge Alex. You are in a situation that you have no control over and all you can do is wait until its your time...

Actually we are so much alike, dont you think? Our problem and way of solving are quite the same initially. Its just that the alternative, 2nd solution are different. Anyway i hope you'll find other way of overcoming stress. It would not be good if you using sleep as your solution everytime you get stressed up. You will feel very weak if you sleep for long hours. Good luck!

you got to watch that drinking stuff - but a little isn't bad

ok sure but i do not drink as much as I used to.

I have never had that problem - not eating - unless it was the summer my gall bladder was going out - then, whenever I ate, I felt like I was DYING!

I only had that when I was younger, and I didn't see it as a problem. I've been on a diet all my life. If it was because of a guy, it seemed ironic that there wasn't a guy around when I had lost weight. When my gallbladder went eating didn't seem to bother me.

I just start playing xbox 360 for hours until i get tired, and then i sleep.

water coming from the ceiling - I'd have a problem with that - and no hubby to help either!

my house was built in the 1970's, not enough plugs/outlets for the modern needs and I've YET to figure out HOW they decided WHAT needed to be on which circuit! like the kitchen stove is on the same circuit as one of the bedrooms, and one wall in 2 bedrooms is on the same as part of the living room - and then there's the circuit I call the "exploding circuit" that powered part of one outlet in the kitchen and seemingly NOTHING else! I call it "exploding" because you'd turn off the power to that outlet and still give the person working on it a shock!

Well he did come home eventually but if the boiler is on to heat the water and the radiators at the same time...when it is turned off overnight then back on again the leak comes back! I have since had a shower via an electric version but the problem is with the water pipes so the leak did come back afterwards. I have turned the cold water tap off downstairs so I'm hoping that the leaking eases off for now. Obviously, hubby is aware of the situation because I rang him up...again lol. We have my father-in-law and his daughter's boyfriend (heating engineer) coming round tomorrow and the insurers have also been contacted. Apparently, it will be a money settlement so I'm hoping I'll at least get a new - more energy-efficient boiler out of them! Fat chance!! This house was built in the 1920s and isn't designed for 21st Century living. "The House that Jack built" is how my hubby, John describes it...and he's not far wrong.

I've never had a place that I could just "hang" like that. I would like to, but I just go to another part of house from the other people.

its when I 'm stressed and I've come to the concussion that I can't "fix" it, so I "shut down" and sleep

If I curled up on the couch (like I have a couch) I'd go right to sleep...

Asleep... catatonic... not much difference.

I find I get distracted and make mistakes when I cross stitch, not so bad with beading, but I also can't write when I'm too stressed, or too happy or too upset or... well, lately I haven't been able to write at all..... dern

I'm sure it is - I just was never that focused on what I wanted I guess.

Generally, when I'm sleeping, I'm just passing time until the problem can go away - I have generally done all I can do and now its a waiting game, but with the stress and other stuff.