Do You Expect "Thanks"from Whom You Helped?

@Baluyadav (3644)
India
January 7, 2010 3:37am CST
I never mind about it...and i trust brcause that help is within our capability,otherwise we can't able do...what do you say?
18 responses
@ckyera (17344)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
hello baluyadav... i will be honest to you...sometimes i really do expect someone whom i have helped to say thanks to me...coz that way, i feel that i really helped them and that they appreciate what i do for them... and lets admit it...that simple words of thanks can bring a lot of happiness to us & a good feeling as well... but, most of the time, when i help someone, i never expect anything in return...coz for me, that's the real essence of helping... with me, i will help even beyond my capacity as long as i can...specially if its for my loved ones...my family, my friends...i always wanted to help to the best that i can and be a blessing to them... have a good day friend!
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@Baluyadav (3644)
• India
24 Feb 10
hi,friend,thank you for sharing your views.All the best and have a nice time.
@Baluyadav (3644)
• India
30 May 10
Hi,congrats for getting the best response tag.Have a nice time.
@ckyera (17344)
• Philippines
31 May 10
hi baluyadav, thanks...and i really appreciate it. :-)
@vandana7 (70604)
• India
7 Jan 10
Hi Baluyadav, I dont expect thanks, but I expect the person not to behave badly with me, and have my best interests in heart. The word is "grateful" I believe.
@vandana7 (70604)
• India
7 Jan 10
Provided I am doing the right thing of course. :)
@StarBright (2799)
• United States
9 Jan 10
In my life, I have had many expressions of kindness that I was not able to personally thank or reciprocate to the original donor. Some of those people I have only seen once in my life, but their help meant the world to me. They gave freely without any expectations. My only way of repaying them is to adopt that same attitude and "play it forward" by helping someone else.
• United States
9 Jan 10
I do expect a thanks for people that i have helped or will help in the near future. I think it is very nice and respectful. I give thanks to whom i have helped too. I think it is the right thing to do.
@HansonFan (1659)
• United States
8 Jan 10
I like being thanked when I help others, its just a polite thing to do, but I dont get upset if they don't. Its something I never fail to do, but everyone is different and some people don't see the need to show their gratitude with words.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
8 Jan 10
Yes. That is the least that a person could do is to thank someone for helping them. Alot of people won't even go as far to say it though and it makes the giver feel used at times.
@vathsala30 (3728)
• India
8 Jan 10
Hi Balu I think that my intention is to help the people who need my help and do not expect any gratitude of words from them. It is their manners to say thank you or not. Some people say thank you and some will not but it is not in any way make me feel bad. My purpose is solved once I help them out and fix their problem
@mysdianait (65122)
• Italy
7 Jan 10
When I help someone I do not expect them to say thanks. I can see from their expression afterwards that my help was useful and that is what makes me happy. Knowing that I was able to help someone and seeing that they are now doing better after making use of my jelp is reward in itself. When someone does thank me I never know what to say to them as to me it seems so natural to help anyone whenever I can. It might be me needing help next time
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
7 Jan 10
It is always nice to be appreciated. However, I'm not about to twist anyone's arm to thank me. I do not do things for other people because I expect gratitude. I do things for people because its the right thing to do. Still, I may be less inclined to help a person who does not thank me as opposed to a person who thanks me, deep down. Still, I try and set an example by thanking those who give me an assist even if others do not follow.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
7 Jan 10
I don't do things for people just to get a 'Thank you' from them, but because I see a need and I want to help. Some people have a hard time accepting that they are in need, and thus have a hard time saying thanks...even when they accept the offered help. In time, thanks may come in other forms. Or, what I like to say when I'm thanked for something, "Thanks are not necessary. Do something for some one else in need, when you can, and that's thanks enough for me."
• India
7 Jan 10
no i never expect these kind of words fromany one.as i believe in karm-yoga..
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
Well, I never always expect those whom I help to thanks me, but a simple single word to say thanks would not hurt them. So, I still prefer a simple thanks as a sign of gratitude to complement the person who are responsible in helping me. It is an act of courtesy or giving of due respect to the person contribution in helping me or the other way around.
@neelimaravi (1794)
• India
7 Jan 10
hi balu, I don't mind if people that I helped never thanked me. Its our pleasure to help people. we should expect thanks from them.
@allknowing (80173)
• India
7 Jan 10
Thank You - These two words "Thank You" are not as common as we expect them to be!
It is human to expect gratitude but in my case not getting thanks has become a rule than an exception but this has not detered me from helping anyone in need.
@Buchi_bulla (8304)
• India
7 Jan 10
Sometimes we ourselves will be in a cloud of thoughts and our mind will be elsewhere. Unknowingly we ourselves will not utter the words 'Thanks' but definitely we will have gratitude towards the other person for the help received. Later we will express our gratitude in person or by way of phone, email, sms etc. Hence I will not immediately mistake the other person if 'thanks' is not expressed immediately.
• Kenya
7 Jan 10
Ofcourse i expect thanx from whoever i help. How will i help te net person if the previous never appreciated.
• China
7 Jan 10
No,I dont's expect "Thanks" from whom I helped.Because just as you said,it's within my capability.And I'm happy that I can help others.
@nocturn98 (956)
• Venezuela
7 Jan 10
I don't mind if people that I helped never thanked me. Just the feeling of having helped somebody is more than enough. But a simple "thank you" adds to the satisfaction.