Do you like change or fear it?

@jesssp (2742)
Canada
January 7, 2010 4:31pm CST
Are you the kind or person who loves a fresh start and a new situation or does the thought of making a change make you sweat? I have found that I like some changes more than others but I am learning to appreciate change more and to benefit from it. I really hate moving and the idea of packing up a whole house, garage and yard was really daunting but in the end the change has been so positive. Not just the change of house but being able to let go of some things and change other things around has been really refreshing. Truly a fresh start. I used to dread the day when I need to make a change professionally but now I'm almost looking forward to it. I do love my job but I think now that things are more stable with my husband's the thought of making less money or having less stability isn't as terrifying. Now I'm almost excited about the thought of trying something new when the time comes. How do you view change?
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@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
8 Jan 10
Oh I can get those butterflies but for the most part, I am adventurous, love diversity and so accept change rather well. Moving is not my favorite although I have done it so much that moving has become almost a second nature. Letting go of old and in with the new can be refreshing so therefore always welcome. Overall I like change. My favorite change is redecorating the house. Renovating is even better. Change of local can be good. Most of the time it is but have been times when it wasn't. I love a fresh start and wish you well with yours!
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
8 Jan 10
It's often one of those situations where you never know unless you try. Change could bring an awful situation or it could be so amazing you couldn't imagine life any other way. I often think about the road not taken with certain things and the thought of missing out on something big is what inspires me to (try to!) embrace change more.
@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
19 Jan 10
Nice comment. I have too looked back and wondered "what if". Thing is I don't stick around to ponder long. I am not one for "what if's" but yet take that and keep it close to the forefront of my mind should there be a next time. That way, I may move faster on the next opportunity that should I have not failed to jump on the one prior, I wouldn't otherwise know to move on the next one, if you know what I mean. Recently I made some changes, took a huge leap forward. It turned out to be disastrous and am not proceeding to change all that around again. Sometimes it is better to just do nothing! Weighing pro's and con's is always a really good idea.
• India
8 Jan 10
well, I try to maintain as neutral a stance as possible towards change! I too change house and lifestyle in 2007 and its been two years now and I’ve managed somehow. Like everything else in life, change too has its pros and cons…everything cannot really be to our liking all the time…so have to accept some while we also get to enjoy some…the more we resist or dread change, the more difficult it will be for us. On the other hand, if we just relax and enjoy without being practical, it might backfire.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
8 Jan 10
I think it's important to venture from your comfort zone now and then. Even if a change is negative and it turns out that you really don't like it you can still benefit and learn from it. Sometimes you need to carefully weigh the pros and cons and sometimes you just need to jump in with your fingers crossed.
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
Hi jesssp! There are indeed a lot of people who fear change. I think that it is human nature to fear uncertainty. Personally, I do not really fear change that much. I admit that somehow, I have doubts. However, I know that things happen because they should and/or because we allow it. Life would definitely boring without change...
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
8 Jan 10
Yes, it certainly would be boring. It may be comfortable but it would also be quite dull.
@Porcospino (18427)
• Denmark
8 Jan 10
I love changes, and I enjoy learning/trying new things. I have moved many, many times, and I have lived and worked in different countries. I have also had many different kinds of jobs, and I am always excited when I get the chance to try something new. I couldn't imagine spending my entire life at the same place or having the same job for 30 years or more, I want to try a lot of things instead of a few things and I want to learn as much as possible. I like moving, and I enjoy decorating a new home, meeting the new neighbours, getting to know a new area with new shops, parks, sights, schools etc. When I go on vacation I also love changes, and I prefer to visit a lot of different countries instead of going back to the same country several times.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
8 Jan 10
That's great and it definitely sounds like an interesting and exciting life. I tend to put more importance on stability and consistency so my challenge is finding a balance between that and still embracing changes, trying new things and taking advantage of opportunities. I am sometimes too quick to say no to things because it might interfere with the way things are or interrupt my life but I'm learning to be more open.
@katsmeow1213 (29044)
• United States
7 Jan 10
It depends on the change. Most changes I'm not crazy about. I've lived my whole life a certain way (like without cell phones) I don't see the need to change things, especially technologically speaking. When we moved, we knew it was a good thing, and we weren't really apprehensive at all. It marked the beginning of a new, and better life for us, so we looked forward to the whole idea. Certain things I am weary about because I know the risks. My husband is becoming unhappy with his job due to drama and BS. I've never liked his long hours, and the fact that he doesn't come home until after 9pm so many nights a week. But we both know he cannot make as much money with another company, without at least working the same, or possibly more hours. Plus there's the idea of losing his benefits like our medical coverage, vacation and sick time, and the 401K we're not currently participating in but could if we had the extra money to put aside.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
8 Jan 10
I've resisted a lot of things because I didn't like the idea of changing the way I did things. Some of them turned out great but others I regretted. I think it's good to at least try a change (if it's possible) before completely writing it off. Of course with some changes there really is no going back and those tend to be the biggest life changing ones.
@PastorP (1174)
• United States
7 Jan 10
Hi jesssp . It depends what the change is, how complicated it is, where it comes from, etc. To me, the worse ones are from government because many times the law is complicated or just limits our freedom even more. Btw, I felt that way before Obama became the US President. Sometimes utility companies make changes that a tad difficult to understand. It's also a little aggravating that change comes after learning something and getting the hang of it. For web page code there is now HTML 5. It was not too long ago I used to HTML 4. Seems like to me that some things that should be simple got more complicated in HTML 5 like inserting a comment in your code.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
8 Jan 10
Changes that you can't control at all are the worst. At least sometimes when change is negative you can spin in into a positive but when it's totally beyond your control then it's the hardest to accept.
@plantit1 (298)
• United States
7 Jan 10
I really hate change and recently my whole world has changed. Moved to another state. Still looking for a new job. I like routine. I haven't been able to do that as of yet. This makes me nervous and upset. Change is very stressful to me. I think it's easier when your young to adjust to change.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
8 Jan 10
I am the sort of person who enjoys routine too but sometimes I welcome a change that allows me to rework my routine. I find that I'll keep doing things that aren't very affective or don't make good use of my time just because they're part of a routine but I have a hard time changing the way I do things. A big change - like a move - makes changing routines a lot easier for me.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Jan 10
Sometimes I like it, but I almost always fear it at least a little bit. Depends on the change.
• Portugal
8 Jan 10
i like it!!! its like being in other world
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
14 Jan 10
I have not really experienced that much change in my life. The biggest change was when I was 12 years old and we moved from Ohio to Illinois. I didn't like it at first but I was young and able to adapt well. I don't think I would like to do that now, but if I had to make a big change like that I guess part of me would hate it while another part of me would consider it an adventure. When ever I have changed jobs it usually went pretty well. I don't like moving as far as selling a house and getting it all packed and everything like that. That is just too much work.
• United States
9 Jan 10
My husband and I often say to one another that we are both not big fans of change. I think everyone needs a bit of change and at times need a fresh start but husband and I are more comfortable with the same old same old. We just moved to this house two summers ago and it was a positive change as well but there was still the what if and the unknown that scared us even though the move was still in the same town so not much other than the house was changing. You just never know with change and husband and i like the comfort of knowing that while we are stuck in the same we are also safe there(if that makes sense) even simple things like switching over your utilities to a new place can somewhat be a hassle. We are very much homebodies and love things to not have much of a change in them
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
8 Jan 10
I'm a person who's always been very resistant to change, jessp, but, to be fair, I have found that it has served me well on certain occasions.Sometimes I must admit that I'd rather suffer in silence than face a situation head-on. I've had to learn to really push myself in order to venture out when I find it absolutely necessary.
@34momma (13895)
• United States
8 Jan 10
i embrace it. things because there is something new in store for us. things change because we need to learn how to do things differently. yeah some change can be a bit scary.. but you know what, i don't live my life in fear. i go after life with a smile and the knowledge what whatever doesn't kill makes me stronger!
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
8 Jan 10
Well for me it depends on what the changes are, because not all changes in life are good ones, but change can be good depending on what they are, I'm always open to change especially if it has to do with the betterment and improvement of my life or the life of someone I love like I said it just depends.
• India
8 Jan 10
Changes are important in life for a certain things. I am a person who believes in fresh start as a new day arises so ,i change to a certain extant as for in case of behavior with others , speaking etc. As you don't like to move even i don't like so. its good on your behalf that you trying to earn more but don't let money come in way of you and your husband as to who earns more whether him or you .this will lead to ego problem which will lead to mutual conflicts.
• United States
8 Jan 10
Change is always good to keep life intersting. I have this arguement with my friend all the time. He is the typical person who hates doing anything out of his norm especially when it comes to going out. There are about 3 places the guy goes constantly when he goes out. I on the other hand enjoy going to new places and meeting new people. Different bars, restaurants, and clubs are more appealing to me than going to the same one with the same people. Life is like a car and sometimes the you need to get a tune up and change something in order for life to run more smoothly. Going and buying a new car may not be the solution when there is nothing wrong with your old one that just needs some fine adjustments. I say embrace the change and enjoy what new adventures await around the next turn.
@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
8 Jan 10
Change can be a scary thing but it can also be a delightful thing. I found when I was younger I really hated any change. However as I tend to grow and learn I really face some change with a positive attitude. I believe if we never have change in our lives we will never grow and prosper. It's easy to become stagnant and stuck in a rut if we don't welcome change into our lives. With that ebing said I have to admit there are some changes that I still get the sweats over and will probably never welcome. But I truly believe what doesn't kill us only makes us STRONGER!
@stand87 (667)
• Bulgaria
8 Jan 10
I like changing! I think it is a good way to refresh your mind and everything around you. The changes are making us a little more happy. Well, not in all cases . . . Sometimes we have to accept changes that are not the best thing for us. Even we can hate them - I fear this kind of changes. I live in a good place now - but after 3-4 months maybe I'll have to leave. I'm a little scared of living in a misery place or something. Because I used to . . . God help me !
@megamatt (14327)
• United States
8 Jan 10
Change is a funny thing for me. I hate change for the sake of change. Just doing something new, for no rhyme or reason can be something that I am not that big of a fan of. However, there are many good reasons for change. There are times where something just is not working out. Whether it be in a workplace or just in life in general. Therefore, there has to be change. I must admit, change can be intimidating when it is not explained or when it comes out of nowhere. Still it can be a benefit and when the positives are underlined, changes can be a valuable component for success.
@dragon54u (31637)
• United States
8 Jan 10
Change can be good! It's scary sometimes. I moved back to my home state after 28 years, clear across the country, and it was kind of scary but exciting. Expensive, too!! But it was a good change after all was said and done. Change is exciting, too. It makes us grow and develop our characters, our abilities and the way we look at life. Even when it turns out not so good, we learn something.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
8 Jan 10
I'm very pragmatic, if something works, I don't change. But is something isn't working, I figure, I must change. Esp. in this economy, it's really, really important to change wherever is not working for me and then do whatever I need to do to make my income and so on work.