Dating younger men

United States
January 8, 2010 6:51am CST
I am 41 years young and became single again after a 6 year relationship. Lately all I have attracted is younger men. Some as young as 22. While I enjoy the attention, I just think it's wrong to date someone that young. I don't look 41 (or at least that's what I'm told). I hooked up with a guy who was 35 and I think I scared him away or his feelings got caught up to fast. I really do not like being single and would love to be in a relationship again, but I just can't seem to find anyone my age. Would you date a younger man? and if so how young? keep in mind i have and 18yr old and a 17yr old son.
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9 responses
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
hhmm, if you don't mind being called as sugar mommy, then go!it's your life, the decision you make dictates the kind of life you like to live! be happy and in love, don't mind people about what their reaction, what is important to you is your happiness, but do not forget your obligations to your children!
@daliaj (5674)
• India
8 Jan 10
I will give best repsonse to you because what you told was exacly had in my mind when I wanted to repond to this discussion. Then, I started reading the responses and found that you have told exactly what I wanted to say. I strongly agree with you amandoalexandra. We should live as we wish and other don't have any right to decide on that, but at the same time we should make sure not to hurt anybody and not to forget our responsibilities. All the best.
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
thanks daliaj, i was just being practical! if we mind other people, then we are only giving them the right to dictate our life! as long as what we think we are doing is moral, then go! in the eyes of God, we have no reason to feel guilty of.
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
In my own choice, I would not younger men. But, I cannot hold what future is in line with me regarding love. In my opinion, it is more of personal preference if you like dating young men. as long you are happy with life. You must not interfere when the reason is your happiness. No one can judge others. Of course, with that situation, it is more complicated and you need also to pay attention how your son's will react for that matter. It depends upon your conversation on that matter. From there, you can have at least options on what to do, to continue or not. Just let them know how you feel about it and views. I guess they will also understand what are your wants in life and respect your decisions.
• United States
8 Jan 10
My sons are pretty much cool with anything, they are pretty laid back. I guess one of the issues I have is that some of the young men that i have run into are fatherless, and they all seem to "someday" want children. I AM NOT, or don't plan on having any children at my age. I guess that's another topic....LOL
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
age doesn't really matter in love.what matters is how you will handle the relationship and how he will accept and understand your situation.I think younger men prefer older women because they aren't insecure about themselves.unlike younger women or women their age,some of them are still unsure of themselves and are insecure.men prefer women who are cool and confident.do not mind what other people say;they're just jealous because you are one hot woman.
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 10
Ooopss...you have 2 sons but you`re attracted to younger man?Well, it is up to you, but if i were you, i would choose a man whose age difference is not that far..don`t force yourself to have relationship just because you don`t wanna be single..be patient.Good luck!!
@msq516 (61)
• China
8 Jan 10
perhaps most men like younger women and most women like older men. but that's not absolutely. in some cases, whether one is old or young does not depend on his age but on his state of mind. as long as two persons love each other, age is not a problem.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
8 Jan 10
I don't think that age matters in a relationship. We have the culture of women marrying older men and men marrying younger women, but it is not the case if two people are in love and be together. The important factor in a relationship is the love between two people and not the age. It is normal that two people will be in love regardless of their age.
@MJ_Dakota (126)
• United States
9 Jan 10
Age is a number of years that a person has been on this planet, it does not indicate a maturity level in emotion. I have had a 12 year relationship with one man who was 15 years older than me and a 7 year relationship with a man who is 3 years younger than me. The funny thing is, their maturity level and behaviors are the same. Bottom line, don't let the number get in the way of the relationship. It may not be the age of the person that is attracting you, it may be the emotional needs you have and they have that are attracting you. Look at the person, not the number, what is it that attracts you to them?
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
Hi there... everyone is unique in a lot of ways. Just be yourself, go for what makes you happy... anyway, me and my boyfriend are going strong for almost 7 years. He is three years younger than me. I think age does not really matters as long as in keeps both of you alive. . For me dating younger men is fine, but in my opinion as long as it is about three to eight years younger than you is fine. But I see some couple where the man is ten years younger than the woman, until now they are still happily married. Well, the decision is yours... just be yourself.
@ishprash (46)
• India
9 Jan 10
it's a fashion now'a'days to date with younger ones...you had some kind of permanent relationship through which you got two sons also..because of that kind of permanency now the perplexing scenario wonders in your mind pertaining to the social ethics right or wrong..so don't think so much..and you may try for another permanent relationship so that you would not be facing any complications and social compatibility between your dating nature and the social responsibility towards your children...have a fun with life,,but give importance to your duty and responsibility..
• United States
8 Jan 10
I would date a younger man to a point, I do not think 10yrs younger or older is a big deal, beyond that in either direction and I would have trouble finding a lot of things in common. I was once married to a man 20 yrs older and we got along well for a few years but in the end, the age difference became an issue. I was young and wanted to go dancing and do things where he was happier to just sit at home in front of the TV. Now I would have issues with someone too much younger and immature about life. I think it comes down to personal preferences but for me, I would want someone who was within a half generation in either direction. I understand how you feel about wanting to be in a relationship....the older we get, the harder it seems to be to find someone our age that is not either damaged from a past relationship or totally unwilling to commit to anything serious. I have heard it said that after a certain age your odds of finding real love or getting married are so low that the chances of getting hit by lightning are better. I do not believe that but sometimes it does get to be a long hard journey. Good Luck to you!