Can a family enjoy life if the kids misbehave?

@maximax8 (27943)
United Kingdom
January 10, 2010 7:40am CST
Some parents are very soft with discipline. Other parents tend to be too tough. In some houses there aren't any rules. A nanny would let each child keep ten toys. If he or she misbehaved he or she got a warning. If the bad behavior continued he or she would have time out. Then the child would have to have a toy taken away. So he or she would have to behave well to get it back. Then when order is maintained the family would become happy and enjoy life again. What do you think?
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15 responses
@bryce22 (69)
• Poland
15 Jan 10
You can enjoy by taking care of your child.Let them know that you really care for them.Make some outdoor activities so you can bonding.Teach them good values and right conducts.Do not try to pressure them to do the things you want them to do.Lastly,introduce them to God.
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
11 Jan 10
Kids will be kids. They will act up and misbehave every now and again. That's all fine and well. The thing is not to let it get out of hand. Give children an inch and they'll take several feet. Even the best behaved child has their moments. Life can still be enjoyable, providing the misbehavior does not get to insane levels. We hear about being too soft can lead to problems, but being too strict can also cause a child to rebel even more. Because they can think that they are getting an unfair deal. That's not to say that the law should not be laid down when it gets out of hand but going to either extreme is not good.
@pramodppk (112)
• India
11 Jan 10
i love kids so much, kids like god and they also look so cute i like to play with them and want to join into their world friendly, if they behave like small devils i hate them and do not let them near to me,
• India
11 Jan 10
parents should have a good co-ordination with children. Because a little child have no sence to understand any thing that what is going right or wrong.... in that condition he or she can take any wrong step so 4 their right direction and in order to maintain happiness parent should understand felling of these innocents.
@doryvien (2293)
• United States
11 Jan 10
Hi Max, At home we allow kids to be themselves, they can be noisy and fight a lot but that's just it, because they're kids. But there are house rules and they both know this should be followed at all time. They are not harsh rules, but are designed to instill discipline and order and teach them how to prioritize things like studying their lessons/doing their homeworks first before they are allowed to watch TV or play games; they should eat (breakfast, lunch, dinner) on time, and go to bed on or before 9pm during schooldays (they are allowed to stay up late during weekends and holidays). I also require them to take care of their toys after playing/using them. As for punishments, there is no hard and fast rule, and we make sure they know the reason why they are being punished. I am a believer of "spare the rod" policy, I prefer to use psychology in dealing with them.
@allknowing (63049)
• India
11 Jan 10
I had some guests over the other day and among them were two kids. It looked as though they had never seen things. They went rummaging all over unplugging this and unplugging that as we adults were busy chatting. I was kept on my toes while my guests were having a relaxed timeI vouched never to invite guests who have kids bah!!!
@squaretile (3833)
• Singapore
11 Jan 10
I think rules are very important so guess I'm a little confused when you say there are no rules in that house. the nanny taking away one toy when there is misbehaviour is also a kind of rule right? I think sometimes taking privileges away might not work if they child is older. I know a lot of people use time-out as a discipline measure. have you tried that and does it work for you?
• India
11 Jan 10
family can enjoy wid kids... it no an issue.. as kids r d lovely part of family..nd if dey ll nt mis behave... parent will nt able to teach dem for their mistakes... m nt a married person..bt has seen many couples... he he he
@vivianchen (2648)
• China
11 Jan 10
I don't like misbehave kids. I know kids have their own likes and dislikes, normal misbehave i can stand it, if they get over it, i will be med and shout at them. Hehe..i am not yet a mother, but that's the way i feel for other people's kid. I don't know if i will change my opinions once i have my own.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
11 Jan 10
i think discipline is the job of the parents not the nanny.
@speakeasy (4215)
• United States
10 Jan 10
My family enjoyed life when my son was younger. We only had a few basic rules and those were enforced; but, we also did not put my son in situations where a small child could not be expected to behave. When we went out, we only took him with us if we were going someplace appropriate to a small child. When going shopping, either my husband or I stayed home with him. You cannot expect a small child to behave when confined to a shopping cart for an hour or more and you also can't expect them to behave standing in line at a bank. Sitters were used when my husband and I needed some alone time for a nice dinner out, etc. The rest of the time, when we went out as a family, we went to child friendly places - zoos, parks, beaches, family style restaurants where they had small games or colors to keep him occupied until the food arrived. By accepting the fact that he was a child and not a "small adult" his behavior rarely became a problem. As he got older and started learning proper behavior, we were able to take him to nicer places and not have to worry about his behavior spoiling our family time.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
10 Jan 10
Hey max, I'm afraid I belong to the old school on this issus. I believe a good smack worked for years, and is still the best form of punishment. Threats mean nothing, unless they are followed through. A smack, provided the child knows it's because of a naughty act works instantaniously.
@abhaijith (2837)
• India
10 Jan 10
Hi Friend, Its very nice to see the quarrel between kids.They are absolutely innocent minded and are very quarreling on such small problems.And its a quite natural thing among kids.I don't think it will affect the joy of the family.Of course there may we have to interfere in their problem to solve but i believe it increases the joy of family.
• India
10 Jan 10
kids are supposed to be noisy and mischievous.. these kids are liked by almost everyone unless these kids activity turns to be embarrassing.. its an elders pleasure to see kids enjoying happily running here n there without any burdens on them.. because all we elders miss those wonderful childhood days
@benny128 (3622)
10 Jan 10
well in my house I am the boss lol, I do let my kids run around and be noisy as that's what kids do, but when it starts getting over the top then I step in. I like to let me kids be independent as much as I can but there is always a point where the adult needs to step in. I usually just tell my kids to calm down and they do.