What if?

Philippines
January 10, 2010 9:10pm CST
Way back then, I've a friend who borrow one of my precious collection of songbook because she need it on their program. And unfortunately she didn't able to return the songbook simply because she lost it. She asked sorry though, but still I really felt bad. Since then I didn't allow her to borrow anything from me. If someone borrow something from you and fail to return it, what would you do? Will you allow that person to borrow again from you?
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@levite (1062)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
This incident has happened to me several times. My sister borrowed my cell phone and never returned it. The other person borrowed my cassette tape and never returned it. It is hard to recover trust again to such person who cannot be trusted. And those people who cannot be trusted in little things cannot be trusted also regarding "bigger things." Trust begets trust.
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
Yeah, those person who can't be trusted by little things, can't be trusted by bigger ones. We should be careful and better those person learn from their mistakes and learn to value those things that doesn't belong to them. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@stand87 (667)
• Bulgaria
11 Jan 10
Hey, this really happens sometimes. There are lots of friends of mine that forget to return something that is mine or even lost it. It depends on how valuable is the thing and didn't they cheated you about it. If I find the situation clear, and if he/she say sorry . . . It doesn't matter how angry I am - I forgive them! I can even forgive when a real friend cheats me. But only if I hear apologizes! And, of course, I'll be more careful next time!
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
Yeah, it surely depends on how valuable the things being borrowed. If it could something that's just ordinary material things and I could have replaced it anytime if it gets lost then I don't mind. But yeah, it's better to forgive and accept their apology, since whatever you do, things won't come back. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@jaiho2009 (39084)
• Philippines
11 Jan 10
Hello careguarden, I understand what you feel. Precious things,like personal collection always mean so much for us. If you were to asked me,i will not allow her to borrow again,simply becoz,she's not responsible enough to be trusted with things that i treasured. When we borrow something,we must be responsible with it. It's not an excuse that we've lost it. Some people doesn't know how to value things that they doesn't belong to them,and i hate this attitude. When it is a borrowed one...you must take care extra care,becoz it is not yours. I also had same experience like this...friends borrowing home tools,like hammer,pliers and forgot to return it,and the worst is...they've lost it(gosh!!!!) Have a good day always
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
Yeah, you're right there are so many people who don't value those things that's not belong to them, when they should be since they didn't own them. They are not sensitive on other peoples feeling. Well if it's not that precious to me, I could easily forget and let the person borrowed again, but those things are quite part of my life and has emotional value. People should learn to be extra careful if they can't afford to have their own. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
11 Jan 10
I have so many of these kind of experiences. And for me, it all depends on their reactions. If my friend would contact me as soon as possible with a very sorry reaction, maybe it wasn't her fault, so I'll give her/him a second chance. But I have friends who didn't even bother to tell me (I'm the one who has to call and ask) and didn't show any regret about losing my stuff, well, they are the ones that I surely will never lend them anything anymore. I would even be cautious with our friendship in the future, because through that experience it is proven that they did not quite care about my feelings.
• Philippines
11 Jan 10
Yeah, we should be careful and avoid those kind of people. Actually my friend did say that she lost it, I'm the one who asked her where was the thing she borrowed and that was then she confessed that she already lost and felt sorry for what she did and what happened. That's why I really get upset. There are those people who didn't know how to value other persons things. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@jojorv (201)
• Philippines
11 Jan 10
i will feel the same way, i will not allow her to borrow something from me again. i know we should give second chances, but the problem is we already lost our trust towards that person. maybe we will just wait for the time when our trust towards that person returns.
• Philippines
11 Jan 10
Yeah, I agree with what you said, that's what I also did. Now I've already get over with what I've lost and now I would say that I'm willing to let my friends borrowed again if she want to, although we didn't see each other anymore. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• United States
11 Jan 10
I would never allow myself to loan them something again. I already don't like to loan out my things to people. That book sounds very expensive too. I would learn my lesson there.
• Philippines
11 Jan 10
Yeah, we should learn to choose only those people who can be trusted to let our things borrowed. Since it could not be good to keep all those things that we have for our self only. It's nice to share to others. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
• China
11 Jan 10
Hi,careguarten.I think if my friends lost something from me,maybe I would forgive him the first time.Because she might just lost it by chance.But if it happened again,I won't let him borrow anything from me,because it means he never treasure my previous things and our friendship.So just give him another chance ,so is your friendship.
• Philippines
11 Jan 10
Yeah, you're right! I should have given her a chance. But during those times that she borrowed again, the pain is not yet gone and the fear that she might lost it again still fresh in my heart. So I never give her any chance. Nowadays we parted ways,maybe when she borrowed something from me again, I might lend her again. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@eekikit (87)
• Philippines
11 Jan 10
Haha, you sounded like me back when I told my girlfriend about how my big bro lost my ipod. I can't forget her reaction, she said I had this weird look on my face that she said I was like a pet owner who got his house messed up by his pet, and yet plays with that adorable thing, setting aside the wrecked sofa...or something like that. Going back. After my big bro lost my precious ipod (given to me by my sister), i still let him borrow my laptop, and let him "mess up my house"...Maybe its because his my brother that I let him all the time but, come on, who doesn't commit a mistake like losing something we borrowed. All i'm saying is that people don't have to let one mistake ruin their relationships toward other...it's part of being human, i guess...I remember my boardmate once said, once he let his friends borrows something from him, he does not expect the return of that thing...