What if?

This incident has happened to me several times. My sister borrowed my cell phone and never returned it. The other person borrowed my cassette tape and never returned it. It is hard to recover trust again to such person who cannot be trusted. And those people who cannot be trusted in little things cannot be trusted also regarding "bigger things." Trust begets trust.

Hey, this really happens sometimes. There are lots of friends of mine that forget to return something that is mine or even lost it. It depends on how valuable is the thing and didn't they cheated you about it. If I find the situation clear, and if he/she say sorry . . . It doesn't matter how angry I am - I forgive them! I can even forgive when a real friend cheats me. But only if I hear apologizes! And, of course, I'll be more careful next time!

i will feel the same way, i will not allow her to borrow something from me again. i know we should give second chances, but the problem is we already lost our trust towards that person. maybe we will just wait for the time when our trust towards that person returns.

Hello careguarden, I understand what you feel. Precious things,like personal collection always mean so much for us. If you were to asked me,i will not allow her to borrow again,simply becoz,she's not responsible enough to be trusted with things that i treasured. When we borrow something,we must be responsible with it. It's not an excuse that we've lost it. Some people doesn't know how to value things that they doesn't belong to them,and i hate this attitude. When it is a borrowed one...you must take care extra care,becoz it is not yours. I also had same experience like this...friends borrowing home tools,like hammer,pliers and forgot to return it,and the worst is...they've lost it(gosh!!!!) Have a good day always

I have so many of these kind of experiences. And for me, it all depends on their reactions. If my friend would contact me as soon as possible with a very sorry reaction, maybe it wasn't her fault, so I'll give her/him a second chance. But I have friends who didn't even bother to tell me (I'm the one who has to call and ask) and didn't show any regret about losing my stuff, well, they are the ones that I surely will never lend them anything anymore. I would even be cautious with our friendship in the future, because through that experience it is proven that they did not quite care about my feelings.

Hi,careguarten.I think if my friends lost something from me,maybe I would forgive him the first time.Because she might just lost it by chance.But if it happened again,I won't let him borrow anything from me,because it means he never treasure my previous things and our friendship.So just give him another chance ,so is your friendship.

Haha, you sounded like me back when I told my girlfriend about how my big bro lost my ipod. I can't forget her reaction, she said I had this weird look on my face that she said I was like a pet owner who got his house messed up by his pet, and yet plays with that adorable thing, setting aside the wrecked sofa...or something like that. Going back. After my big bro lost my precious ipod (given to me by my sister), i still let him borrow my laptop, and let him "mess up my house"...Maybe its because his my brother that I let him all the time but, come on, who doesn't commit a mistake like losing something we borrowed. All i'm saying is that people don't have to let one mistake ruin their relationships toward other...it's part of being human, i guess...I remember my boardmate once said, once he let his friends borrows something from him, he does not expect the return of that thing...