January 11, 2010 8:17am CST
i didn't know that letting go of some one you love is not that easy... every time i did that i ended up crying... remembering all the memories we had share makes me step backward. every time i close my eyes i see him. love songs, romantics movies now makes me sick. i don't want to believe in love anymore. i don't want to !!!! i don't want to have a new affair.. i don't want to love again... i still wanted to be him.. i want him back.. I'm dying to want him back... i know i have to let go.. but letting go is so hard as if I'm digging my own grave
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11 Jan 10
cry it all out then take a deep breath and move on. More than anything believe in yourself and your strength. Spend time with your friends, do things that make you happy and try to keep your mind on other things. Let time heal your heart, of course it also depends on the reason for the breakup but have faith, everything will turn out all right. Stop holding the shovel and get your self out of the graveyard !!! mylot is a good place to start I know it is very easy for others to give advice but you have to take the steps.
11 Jan 10
Hi Kaorulen, I am very sorry for what you are going through right now. It is difficult to letting go of someone whom you love a lot. But you need take your mind off and do something else whenever you think of good times that you had with him. Yes it is not easy but you need to it. Involve yourself in some activities where you don't have to be alone. For a few days it is good if you do that. And try to know whether you can get him back. If you can then try to make it happen. Sometimes it is not easy to know what is the main reason for whatever happened but one needs to try the best. Yes, you shouldn't enter into a new affair as you are not recovered from this break up yet. So just take things slowly. Take life as it comes. Try to develop some new hobby or friends. Friends can be very good remedy at times like this. They can't help completely but they do help a bit in taking mind off this matter. And more than anything, you need to take care of yourself and think that "whatever happens happens for the best or for a reason. So you might have something good around the corner. So just bring yourself up be cheerful. Look at life and try to enjoy the small things. Slowly you will get over of this. Hope you will take better care of yourself in this matter. Wish you the best...
8 Oct 12
I understand you and I agree that letting go of someone you love is so hard to accept. You will feel so much pain in your heart and you will also feel that everything is change because your love one is not in your side. But always remember that you still have family and friend who love you and always think that everything that happened to our life has a good purpose. Maybe someday there are someone waiting much better than your ex.
12 Jan 10
Hi Kaorulen, Why you are digging your own grave? It is not fair at all, because world is very big and our life is very short, so that try to close it your old memories whatever it may be let it be as it is, and start new life whichever you like.
12 Jan 10
broke up with some one you loved is really hard, some times as what you have said you just want to die, remembering all the happy memories the more painful,.but life must go on friend... it will surely pass, but it will take time.. If you're meant to be..God will make a way. Good luck.
12 Jan 10
You know that everyday people can change, people promises are can be broken, so, don't your trust and love to anyone except to the Lord Jesus because He is always true to us, we have to trust God, seek Him diligently with your heart and He will come to your heart, God bless you.
12 Jan 10
Confusing title for a discussion. I guess I have to cheer you up by saying that you're LUCKY, because you're not dying of illness but of a feeling that will go away in due time. I don't know when, but that hatred of love will die away just be patient. Think more and feel less. By this I mean, consider his feelings as well: does he wants you back? I'm sure you can tell or make a wise guess if he does. Otherwise, move along, look forward, and cheer up. You'll find your one true love in time.
12 Jan 10
I am very sorry to hear that. But your life goes on. You have to gather your strength and move on. You are still grieving so it's normal that you always think of him and the memories you and him had shared. But believe me, time will heal the wound. you just have to keep on living. Think about other people who loves you. If you are sad because you lose someone, you're loved ones feel worst by just seeing you break down. We really don't own anything in this world even ourselves. Think about the moments when you were happy. would you trade those moments with just a single heartbreak? No, right? Go out and meet some friends. Enjoy while you live.