What do you think of Marriage with Expiry Date?

@maria1081 (1252)
Philippines
January 11, 2010 11:23am CST
Yes, you read my discussion right. Marriage with expiry date: would you agree with it if you have a chance or stick with the traditional vows til death do we part? Having expiry date in marriage is very convenient to all couples but you have to consider the bad side of it. What could it be? I think if marriage has expiry date, one or both couple would just wait for the time for official separation rather than finding ways to save the marriage and to make the marriage work. Do you agree with me? Looking at the brighter side marriage with expiry date will save couple for spending too much money in divorce and annulment. They can just spend the money they save from divorce for their children. How many years do you think would be enough before marriage expires? Two years the least and ten years the most? Can love be more less complicated and same with marriage? All I can say is marry someone you can see yourself growing old with.
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@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
Yeah I saw that being discussed over a morning talk show a while ago. Well if you would ask me as a man that would be very advantageous on men that on women. If you would put an expiry date on marriages then men can have the opportunity to be more promiscuous because they would be liberated from the bonds of marriage every decade or so. I even think that even the gentleman who adores his wife would also be tempted to end the marriage if he wants to explore and get as many ladies out there as possible. Women on the other hand would bear the cudgel of rearing for her children. I can see many will be single parents and getting more half sisters and brothers would be a common thing since men are given a free will to marry again and have children legally with women they can marry. On reason why the women's group is lobbying for this kind of marriage arrangement is because of the high fees that is being charge for annulling a marriage. One suggestion, given by one of the speaker is just to lower the fees for applying one. I think it is better that way than putting an expiry to marriage which will just complicate things and even those stable marriages might just be rocked by these provision since they can be tempted to end their marriage for convenience purposes.
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
Hi. Is there a free legal counsel for annulment? Having marriage with expiry date has more disadvantages than advantages. This kind of set-up is only for convenience.
@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
I think there is but is very rare since I think most ask for a much higher fees when annulment is being talked about.
@atebuds (187)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
I really think it's a good idea. Especially for couples whose marriage is on the rocks. Personally, I think 10 years is too long. Maybe 2 years is good. If you really think that your relationship is going smoothly and you still love your partner in 2 years, then, no problem. You can always renew your marriage. But for wives like me who are having difficulties, and want out, it is quite a relief. It is not that I don't want to save the marriage but, if there's no use saving it, what shall I do? What if I have tried everything, and nothing happened? Should I continue sacrificing, and give myself a hard time? And I definitely don't have the money for an annulment. So the idea of marriage with expiry date is very much welcome to me.
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
Very well said. So far you're the only person I see who's having two thumbs up abou this matter. I cant blame you since I havent been in your shoes. Just do what you think will be best for all of you. Goodluck.
@gesang (2)
• Indonesia
11 Jan 10
I prefer to become old with my wife, if I have one, take care my family, and accompany her the rest of my life. but that's what you offer not new in my country called " kawin kontrak" marriage with expire date.
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
Really gesang??? So you mean this thing really exist? I didn't really know about this thing before... I encountered that expiration thing just here in mylot... Well, I honestly don't like the idea... Why get married if it will expire soon... why not just live in together... there is no difference in sense at all...
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
This is the second time I encountered a discussion about this marriage expiration date thing... Well, to begin with... I am totally agaist it. What is marriage some kind a food with expiration or best before tag??? So what about the little kids? After that specific date or period, does it means, your marriage is already void??? And what if you both love each other and decided to contineously live together? Would you need to get married again because your marriage expired already??? Well, why get married if you are looking ahead for that expiration? The true meaning and sense of the word "marriage" is defeated...
• Canada
18 Jan 10
Honestly, I don't think this is a good idea. So many people nowadays take marriage for granted, like it's just "something to do". Or they get drunk in Vegas and wake up the next morning, married. It used to be so much more than that, and I know that there are still some people out there who believe in the sanctity of marriage. If there are problems in existing marriages, especially abuse, then the fees should be lowered. But maybe society should look at itself. "Quickie" weddings (and divorces) just seem so common. I've heard of people getting married because it "seemed like fun". This is the problem. Maybe there should be a better process for getting an actual marriage licence, although I suppose this may not be very realistic. I guess people need to really consider the pros and cons of getting married before actually doing so.
• India
12 Jan 10
I am not in favor of such kind of marriage. You have thought of expiry of marriage but did you think about their kid...Marriage is not just a relations of two bodies... It is meeting of two souls as one and marriage is meant for whole life till they are alive. I am one woman man and i can't imagine with another woman my life other than my wife... I would like to live for that one and die for one... I think if there will be expiry date for marriage then it will be just contract not any kind of marriage between two person not in two souls. I think this may be possible in western culture like in USA or UK but I am from India and proud on our culture where there are still people who believe for living for one woman and here are woman who believe for living one man their whole life...
@iona84 (18)
• Romania
12 Jan 10
Does this really exist? Marriage with expiry date? I believe that this institute was made to last...if two people are not sure of their love than they shouldn't get married at all. Nobody obliges us to do it...you can easily just live with that person and have children but without the papers and especcially not in front of God. If this really exists, I personally believe it's irrational and I wouldn't do it or advise anyone to!
@naimenim (45)
• Bangladesh
12 Jan 10
It is very nasty thing. But the fake lovers can choose it who just think marriage as a physical relationship. I don't like it because i wanna love really.
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
marriage with expiry date? well, there are advantages and disadvantages... but i think,in my opinion, women are in the losing end here....so, i think they'd better study that bill before thay passed it...
@lealuvy2j (1989)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
I think it is pretty sad that our culture have that thinking about marriage because for me Marriage is a blessed covenant not only to your partner but also to God. God is the one binding you together and making the couple be one and marriage with an expiry date disrespects that covenant, not only with your partner but with God as well. With this idea also, I don't understand why one should marry anyone now because isn't the whole idea of marriage is being with that person for better or for worse? I just don't understand why people would want to push through with this.
@Fulltank (2896)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
Haven't encounter a friend or someone involved in this kind of marriage. All I know is a friend who had sign a contract to the girls parents that he will not inherit any dime or nickel from the girls parents. The girls parents don't like the guy but the guy loves the girl so much that he swallowed his pride and sign the contract just to be with her.