Do You Have a Criteria for Anyone to be Your Friend or Just Accept Everybody?

Philippines
January 12, 2010 7:09am CST
"Birds of the same feather flock together." Does this apply to you? Or do you just welcome anyone who befriend with you. Don't you think it is also dangerous? That we should select one that would help us to be a better person and improve in every endeavor? But what about if that person needs your attention to stand up from being fallen? How can we bring him to develop himself to be a good person and prevent himself from destroying his future?
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9 responses
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
it is dangerous specially if you don't really know where that person came from or if you don't have at least any background of that person. i used to accept all friend requests on my facebook account. but then again, i think that it is also dangerous to just add and add friends you don't even know in real life, coz i'm afraid that i might end up adding a hacker and be hacked.
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
Yes, that is very possible. We really have to be careful.
@skyhawk3 (63)
• United States
13 Jan 10
To tell you the truth there is absolutely no criteria needed to be my friend, i mean unless they've caused harm to me before but that never happens, i mean common people just give them a chance and see what happens, of course sometimes it's good and sometimes it's bad. when the bad happens you normally apologize or they apologize but don't ever think of splitting up that one good relationship because common, what's life without friends? that's like you being nothing in life so please just give people a chance, like they always say "Don't judge a book by it's cover" so please take my advice and take a chance.
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
Yes, I think so. Everyone deserves to be given the chance. We should not judge the book by its cover. By being friendly, it doesn't mean that we will not be on guard of any danger or trouble. It's nice to have more friends than enemies. Friends gives us happiness, unlike enemies they give us anxieties and sleepless nights.
@Masmasika (1922)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
Having friends is good, much more if you have lots of friends but making friends is sometimes one of the dangerous things. there are people who pry on friendly people to con and swindle so you have to also choose what friends you should have. Making friends may be good but choosing a friend is better. Befriend people that you really know not just anyone. You will be putting yourself in a situation you would be sorry for in the future if you collect and collect friends without considering who they are and what they are.
• Estonia
12 Jan 10
I don't accept everyone as my friend. First, I investigate, if that person is even capable of staying my friend for long time. There are some people, who just need friends temporarily, to get something done, using help of a friend. Or they just don't value their friends, they are careless and indifferent. If I find, that a person is really interested in being my friend and has no material interests with that friendship, then I'm ready to start a friendship with him/her.
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
12 Jan 10
Friendship is a dangerous fallacy. It can, and will get you into trouble. I am 76 and I never met anyone I didn't like, but I have never made a friend. I like people and most of them like me, but I have no friends and that's the way I like it. Life is too uncertain to rely on friends. To be assured that you get through every day happy and healthy, you must rely on someone you know will be trustworthy and true, always! (Yourself) There is no limit, and no doubt, on the trust that you can depend on, when you have Yourself as your Best Friend.
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
Here in mylot, I accept all friends invitation but with other site like friendster, facebook... I don't. I feel like accepting friends here in mylot is just okay... I don't have any criteria. Sometimes even if I don't recall commenting or responding on them, I just accept them... I don't see any harm in doing so...
• United States
12 Jan 10
I believe everyone deserves 2 chances in life, and if you screw btoh of them up, then you don't get a third chance with me.. The first would be something like, I didn't know better, the second would be I knew better, but messed up, the third would be get out and don't come back, I don't need friends who keep knowingly doing wrong, that's where i draw the line.
• China
12 Jan 10
the problems you asked seems familiar to me, since one of my friends was changed when we both prepared for an exam, he wanted to cheat, so that he could have more time hanging out with his new "friends". i worried about him so much, and i tried to let him know his stupid acts. but i after so many unhappy talking with him i realize that maybe i should focus on my own things first. if i were him, will i be the same? what i want to say is that when you want to persuade a friend to behave better, you should behave in a better way, too. otherwise you may get tangled up. so that's my advice.
@musicque (46)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
I still have a certain critera in choosing and keeping friends.I just don't accept anybody. This happens during personal acquaintances. I keep a very sunny smile and speak graciously to anyone but, my mind races to assess the person already.I stick with anyone like glue if i found out that we do match up in a particular sense/aspect.Figuring out their values system as well is my primary concern.I have sooo many friends but i classify them thru the depth of how they really are.I have a certain range of conversation...i cannot be too trusting on some friends who have different beliefs and ATTITUDE so, the kind of depth in our conversation varies from those that i am similar with.Hope you got this right.One can have many friends. You can have as many close ones and best ones around but then again, they are simply friends who have their own identity. We can help them change for the better by giving them a mirror of who and what we are.WE LEAD BY EXAMPLES and DEFINED VALUES.