Why do People Fall in Love and End up Crying?

Philippines
January 12, 2010 9:37am CST
Love can be describe into a myriad of words and can be shown into a million of different ways. As a lady reaching her marrying age, I have experience a lot about love. Don't think that I'm a wild, bad girl who experience a lot of naughty things because I'm not. I came from a religious family and my parents are disciplinarian so I grew up as a late bloomer. I also have 3 older brothers who are so overprotective so relationships have just begun after my graduation in College. I was 20 years old then. I just entered into relationships without physical intimacy. I'm more of emotional. Yes, I'm emo.. I have been always trusting my lovers but they always made me cry. Maybe, crying is a part of everybody's life but if it's happening every night, every day, then it is abnormal. I'm thankful that I've already met the "man of my dreams." Just a couple of years and we'll be getting married. I love him so much though our age gap is very big. Imagine, he's younger than me of 6 years. But it doesn't matter as long as we love each other. I hope you enjoyed reading this "confession". =)
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19 responses
@Chiniona (327)
• China
17 Jan 10
Hi!I think you must be make a choice optionally! I think the love is a important thing to make a decision! By the way, I think the love just like a flower, it will flower more beautiful after through wind and rain! Good luck with you!
• United States
13 Jan 10
Congrads! I am happy for you. And 6 years isn't that bad of an age gap. When I read there was an age gap I thought it was bigger like 20 years! I think the crying comes from loving the wrong person. It shouldn't hurt to be with the one you love.I know that being with my love is so easy. we can talk about anything.
@nrn2003 (670)
• United States
13 Jan 10
You are right about that, age doesn't matter when it comes to love. You cant help who you love. I have been with my significant other for almost nine years now and we are planning an august wedding. Relationships are hard and people respond differently in different situations. sometimes its better to cry than yell. which i have come to think. It makes me feel better to cry than yell because yelling only hurts us botha ll over again.
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
well i reckon we can't appreciate happiness we don't gone through with tears. everyone has its own right time to be loved and feel loved. finding someome ifkinda sucks at times so let just let time gives you the right one and fills your empty heart.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
13 Jan 10
Crying is our most viable emotional outlet. It would only be natural that we would cry at love loss. We have to have some way of letting out the frustration and pain we feel. Crying is not what we want to do but it is a recourse we must face.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
Your topic has reminded me of the song of Rascal Flatt entitled "Bless The Broken Road". Perhaps you've heard the song. It is especially true because we all go through a lot of painful relationships of love until we eventually find our match. I think these 'broken roads' are the way to mold us into being the right match too for that someone. Hmmm.. I'm posting the lyrics so as you'd know better what I mean. "Bless The Broken Road" I set out on a narrow way many years ago Hoping I would find true love along the broken road But I got lost a time or two Wiped my brow and kept pushing through I couldn't see how every sign pointed straight to you [Chorus:] Every long lost dream led me to where you are Others who broke my heart they were like Northern stars Pointing me on my way into your loving arms This much I know is true That God blessed the broken road That led me straight to you I think about the years I spent just passing through I'd like to have the time I lost and give it back to you But you just smile and take my hand You've been there you understand It's all part of a grander plan that is coming true [Chorus] Now I'm just rolling home Into my lover's arms This much I know is true That God blessed the broken road That led me straight to you That God blessed the broken road That led me straight to you.
@sweetie1026 (1723)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
You are lucky to have met the man of your dreams, i wish you a happy life. I think that love always comes with crying and happiness. I have experienced that too. My relationship before did not end up good. Crying only makes us realize that we are still human after all. We get hurt when we fall in love and by being hurt we learn a loot of things and we tend to be stronger. It is normal to cry but we should also learn to cope up and move on with our lives after a bad relationship. I wish you all the best in your relationship, may it be a successful one.
• United States
13 Jan 10
Love hurts. Love is unexpected, and love is just insane. When you fall in love, it is unbelievable, and you try to fight off the feeling, but you can't. Love makes you very emotional.
@junrapmian (2170)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
Hi! I guess that's part of any relationship, I mean, crying. It's not always happy as you expected it to be. You will go through so many misunderstanding, petty quarrels over little things, miscommunications during your relationship. Just a friendly advice, whatever is the reason behind why you cry, please talk it over immediately with your fiance, anyway, you'll be living with him for the rest of your life. Just don't let the sun sets on your lovers' quarrels. Best wishes on your coming wedding.
@vince06 (98)
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
hi there.. thats a good news wherein you have find the "man of my dreams"..actually we should not find love, let love find a way to us we should wait for the right time and i know it is also in God's time..like in my situation i have a girlfriend and we're together for almost 5 years but even though we have this long relationship i dont expect that she will be my wife someday because we're still young by the way we are both 22 yrs old and we dont know what will happen in the coming yrs another factor is that we are not yet financially stable and she has 2 siblings and she is responsible for the financial support of her 2 siblings..but i will try my very best to have her until the end of time and i always pray that God will give my girlfriend to me as my wife someday and i will do everything, anything just to keep her no matter what happen..
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
12 Jan 10
Hello, Married life is different from what you are now. If he always, I mean ALWAYS make you cry then you have to think twice before you step to the wedding day. Don't get me wrong, I just want to let you know and try to wake you up from what you are looking at. sometimes, you never had experience with man before and when you met one then you think he is the one. Let me tell you my experience with my husband. I used to date a few guys before him but no one made me fall in love with them like he did. I love him so much... no matter what happened, I still wanted to stay with him. He made me cried before we married, he made my parents felt uncomfortable with him, he made my family felt hopeless about my life with him. But like I said, no matter what happened or anyone say anything ... I still wanted to marry with him. And it was my choice. After we married, thing worked pretty well but then he started to change, made me cry and felt down most of the time... the different age between us is 5 years apart. And I never think it is a big different though... However, we are still together and we love each other and try to understand more about each other... but it took me 3 years to figure out and how to handle it. Sometimes, I feel I am regret what I did but I have to keep what I have and move on even he doesn't love me like he used to. I have to do this for my children. Well, for you... you have to think and find out more about this man, even you are already dating for the past 2 years. People can change in second and you can't think how and what he is thinking. If he loves you then he has to feel the same way you feel. And when you cry, he suppost to come and sorry to you and make you feel trusting him back. just like old saying "If you hurt, I hurt too. You cry and make my tear drop as well." wish you all the best
• Thailand
12 Jan 10
Falling In Love and Crying are both normal ingredients of our lives. Pain give spices to love or relationship but it does not have to hurt so bad. If it makes you feel bad all the time then it is NOT LOVE. You cannot love anyone effectively if you do not know how to love yourself first. You must know when to stop. You must know if someone is worth crying for or not. Women are more emotional than men. Sometimes women cry because they just get addicted to their own emotions. Insecurity & jealousy are some reasons for the pain and sometimes THERE IS NO REASON at all. Every women wishes to be a mind reader. LOL :) How we wish we could always read what is in the mind of our partners. Men are born to be more quiet and women are always CURIOUS about that quietness. It is the differences that always make a Love or a relationship end up with TEARS. It is just a matter of acceptance of individual differences. Learn to understand each other and most important is RESPECT, then hopefully it will not end up with tears.
• India
12 Jan 10
the main reason is they are not aware of that ,they fallen first site and they get suffered. when anyone warn about this, he don't care ,he still attract of that and finally he got problem he crying, that is for love failure. so this is the main reason for crying.
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
why do people fall in love and end up crying? because the person who loves you the most is also the person who will hurt you the most. if that person doesn't mean anything to you, then whatever that person does to you will not affect you and you won't cry and get hurt.
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
waahh !! that title is a lyrics of someone's always saying goodbye one of my favorite song.. hmm.. every lover has their heart broken.. but keep on loving!! because hurt is just part of it, the next day is a learning after a week is new beginning .. !
• China
12 Jan 10
Hi,meiliyeppuda,congratulations,I'm happy for u that u found ur Mr right.Why crying? bcz ending a relationship our heart hurts so we cry.Pretty simple,uh.Good luck ,happy mylotting:)
• Vietnam
12 Jan 10
the person that you love the most can be the person that can hurt you the most. You finally found your man, that's great! May I ask how could you know that he was you Mr. Right among those frogs that you had kissed before? I don't want to be rude but.. I'm just curious, I don't know if my current boyfriend is the man for me, he make my cry sometime too.
@naimenim (45)
• Bangladesh
12 Jan 10
Every love doesn't result crying. It can be caused for two reasons: one can be that you love a boy/girl, but he/she doesn't love you and another one can be misunderstanding between them. Though i have 40+ girlfriends, but i love just one girl who loves me more than anything. I always suggest my friends that never love a girl before being sure that she loves you. Love from one side is the main cause for crying. Somebody can think that his/her partner loves him really, but it's not actually right for all cases. Test and judge your partner by sharing and living and passing time with him. And misunderstanding- just share, compromise and sacrifice with one another. For you, i would like to suggest that be sure that the guy loves you really before love him or make him fallen in your love.
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
And this man of your dreams didn't make you cry? You are very lucky, congratulations! and Best wishes. ^_^_^