How to control you emotions in time? / myLot

China

January 13, 2010 4:22am CST

I got angry just now for a little thing.One of my roommate out and come the room constantly, and it makes me open and close the door again and again.I know she is not on purpose.But I just can't control my emotions.I guess my angry is all in my face now ,I know I shouldn't get angry so easy,but I really don't know how to control.Anybody gives some suggestions to me ,please.

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nocturn98

@nocturn98 (956)

• Venezuela

13 Jan 10

Emotions are like farts, if you try to hold it in, it will come out in ways that you don't expect. Like farts, the best way to deal with them is just to let it out smoothly. Talk it out. Communication is the key.

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langjipingzong

@langjipingzong (981)

• China

13 Jan 10

Thank you,nocturn98.Just like you said ,the bad mood will come out some day surely.Maybe I shuld try to communicate with her,but I am just afraid I would quarrel with her.

thewayis

@thewayis (646)

• Bulgaria

14 Jan 10

I wish I could give you an advice because I have ways of holding my temper. However, what you need is an advice how to not show that you are angry and that is something I can't help you with. My friends always tell me that it is always very clear to everbody when I am angry. I stop myself from doing stupid things with holding y jaw as tight as I could and I guess I make some kind of scary expression and everybody stoart pulling away...

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thewayis

@thewayis (646)

• Bulgaria

15 Jan 10

I don't think it is that hard to achieve, because I am sure if you put it as your goal, you will achieve it. My problem is that I believe that showing our emotions is what makes us human. There are times when it is better to withhold them, but in general I notice many people who are turning into robots just trying to show absolutely no emotions. Which is sad. Your anger makes you human. Your love and hate make you human... why would you want to be something else?

langjipingzong

@langjipingzong (981)

• China

15 Jan 10

Thank you ,thewayis.In fact ,I don't know how to hold my temper,too.I just keep silence when I am angry,but I believe everyone know I get angry at that time.Maybe this trouble it's too difficult to solve.

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Patsie Hatley

@Hatley (163781)

• Garden Grove, California

15 Jan 10

hi langjipingzong wow what a name. aNyway I get angry quick at times so i just count to t en or twenty or even fifty until I have got control of myself again.Speak to your roomie but softly with compassion and explain she is being a bit annoying but you do not want to hurt her feelings. maybe she did not realize what she was doing. ask her to close the door for herself if she must come and go so often,keep your voice soft and low, let her be the one to steam. hope this helps

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langjipingzong

@langjipingzong (981)

• China

15 Jan 10

Hi,Hatley.My name is so long,but it's too late before I realized it.I believe what you said will be helpful.Communication is the best way to solve this problem,and I will try not to get upset so easily.Thank you very much,my friend.Hope you had a happy day today.