Closer to Mom or Dad when you were a kid/ baby?

Philippines
January 13, 2010 8:35am CST
My mother told me that I was closer to my father compared to her when I was still a baby and a kid. She said that I would cry whenever my father leaves him to go to work. What they would do is they would cover my pillow with my father's shirt so that his smell will stay. According to them sometimes they tease me that mom and dad would get a divorce and they would ask me to whom will I want to stay/ live with? That was when I was around 5 - 6 years old. I would always answer that I will go wherever dad will go. :) How about you? Were you closer to mom or dad when you were still a kid or baby? Or maybe to grandma or grandpa? Or to anyone else?
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@Thunderll (103)
• United States
15 Jan 10
I was and still am closer to my mom. She didn't work when I was a kid, because she had to take care of me and my grandfather, who was very sick. She was around more often. I got to see her every day, almost all day, and therefor did more with her. Then, when I got a little older, my dad became disabled. He couldn't get around and do things with me. So, even though he ended up being around more often after that, I was still closer to my mom. It kind of makes me sad that he wasn't really able to spend that time with me. I'm trying to make up for it now that I'm older, but I think I will always be closer to my mom.
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
It's great that you are still close to your mom until now. It means you still get to see her often right? In my case, I don't get to see both my mom and dad that often. I am now living in another town far from them. I get to communicate with them though via email or phone.
• United States
15 Jan 10
It's unfortunate when you don't get to see your loved ones as much as you used to. That's life though, I suppose. Right now I am living five hours away from my parents. Of course, I just moved out at the beginning of this year so it hasn't really affected me too much yet. I stay in touch over the internet and phone. I'm leaving to go visit for the weekend and pick up some more of my things later today, actually.
• Philippines
6 Apr 10
You are right. I have not seen my parents for almost two years now. I'm living oceans apart from them. When I got married we stayed in a city far from home. I and got pregnant and gave birth, was back to work and currently pregnant again in just 5 months. My Mom's Doctor does not want to give her a medical clearance to travel especially by Air because of her heart disease. She is also diabetic and hypertensive at the same time. My father can't live her alone. My brother is living also in a far city and is very busy as a Site Engineer. Our youngest sister who is a Nurse stays with my Mom and Dad. I'd really want to see them this year. Hopefully after I gave birth to our second children I'd be able to see my parents.
• India
13 Jan 10
When i was kid i was very much closer to my mom even though she used to hit me for my mistakes and i wasn't so much close to my dad but he used not to hit me at all.. pretty strange of my behavior but rue,... even though i have grown up now i am closer to my mom..
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
Even if i was closer to my dad as a kid, I am now closer to my mother. Maybe because I'm already a mother also of a 3 month old baby and we have more something in common. I can tell her things that seems awkward for me to tell to my father. :)
• India
14 Jan 10
Yes.. girls always loves their dad when they are in childhood.. But growing older and older they have to and there is no other way but to share to their mom.. its a natural qulity in the females part of life.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
3 Apr 10
Well i am very very close and pet of my grandfather. And i can be without my mom or dad, but never without my grandfather. I always be with him and loves the way he tells me stories and play with me!
@laglen (19783)
• United States
13 Jan 10
My parents divorced when I was 2. I lived with my mother and was certainly closer to her. I am now an adult. I actually live with my father, to care for him and I am still closer to my mother.
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
That is so nice of you to take care of your father. For me, it does not really matter whether we are closer to one of our parents compared to the other one. What matters is we love them both enough to care for both of them. Sometimes we are just closer to the other one because we get to see and talk to that person often. :)
@cmhjjh (99)
• United States
13 Jan 10
I was so much closer to my dad than my mom I don't know why but I think it maybe because my dad worked a lot and my mom was stay at home mom and so I just kind of took her for granted because she was always there. Now I have 2 kids a boy and a girl and my daughter is a daddy's girl also. She will do anything to have snuggle time with dad. My son on the other hand is a mommy's boy.
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
I have a 3month old baby boy. I am wondering if he would turn up closer to me or my hubby. :) However, most of the time he is with his Nanny. I'd prefer him growing up closer to my hubby instead to the Nanny of course.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
13 Jan 10
I really wasnt close to either of them.....My brother however was very close to the male parental unit and my sister was and still is very close to mother...
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
Are you the eldest, middle or youngest child? According to some psychologist our closeness with our parents is also affected by this factor. They say the middle cild is oftentimes neutral. Not really that close to mom or dad.
• India
13 Jan 10
i am very closer to my mom,because she withdraws everything whatever i have done in my childhood,but my father is so rude,he never speaks with me patiently,so i don't like him when i was a child.but now i had realized my mistake because he also very sympathetic to me.now i have understand about him.
• Philippines
13 Jan 10
Maybe father's are really like that. It seems that mother's are more gentle and patient with their kids. haha! This is just my point of view though. Not based on facts. :)