what does it take to maintain the bond with your previous colleague

China
January 14, 2010 10:16am CST
There were two things today that brought me to this topic. First, My ex-boss called me by his Chinese number, which meant he came to China. He was a pakistanee with a background of living in Dubai for quite some years. We had a really good time when I was still working under him and 50% he treated me as a brother.Have to say, it's not easy to go this far to have so much trust from a foreign boss.It's been a long time since he was in China last time, when he came to me personally pleaing my return to the company. And this time he called me to catch up! I was just so excited to hear that coz I m standing a position far lower to level with him, and he is still keeping me in mind, and honestly speaking, that's more than what most Chinese can do. The second stroy just changed the counterpart.it was a previous Chinese colleague when I was teaching in a Lingual Training Center.Right before i took off my duty in the center i especially sent a gift to her to extend our bond if possible. I called her on MSN and she just sounded like me being a straiger to her. What can I say, I guess it's just the bond between us before was more or less being on the surface. So what's your story?
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
15 Jan 10
Hello Billzehua Most previous collegues I've had, well when we no longer work together, we pretty much lose touch, as that was all it was...a work relationship, but not a friendship outside work. Perhaps that is what it was with the female collegue you've mentioned. It's really quite common. But with other collegues, I've built a friendship outside of work, too, and those are the ones who keep in touch. Karen
• China
15 Jan 10
Hey, Karen, Bill here, cut that zehua fron now on. it's pinyin of my Chinese name.you are more exprienced than me with working life, and thx for your useful wording, at least it lets me feel better.
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• United States
16 Jan 10
Hello Bill. Yes, you are young, and we all learn as we go :)