How different are the ways of raising children now from before?

I find that children nowadays are more inclined to be psychologically inclined to talks. Slowly coaxing them, letting them seeing reasons and in some special cases, allowing them to make the minor mistakes so they realize how wrong they have been so that they will not make them again in future. Superb topic here, Neelia.

I only got a spanking when I scared me dad about something. My kids got a spanking on the but Now with grandkids they get time out or something like that and I really dont think it works better than s good old fashion spanking!

THere's alot of difference between disciplining children now and in the past.. haha =D Whatever u mentioned up there, applies to me, when i'm a kid.. BUt for the children i see nowadays, they are rarelt punished by 'force'.. haha =D What they get are just naggings and occasional scoldings.. After which, they are free to do what they want, and end up doing it again.. While some kids will be so spolit that, they will even talk back to parents??!! I guess times had changed, and parents only cared more about money, as well as children's social future, but forgetting about teaching moral values.. haha =D

I don't think children on the majority are disiplined here like they should be. Too many are just let run wild as i call it. I was disiplined when i was growing up. In fact i stayed grounded 90% of my life, lol. When my children were smalled they were made to mind, taught manners as was i & of course they knew just how far to push me. . I wanted people to be glad to see my children not say omgosh here she comes w/those mean kids. lol.

We usually told them about what is right, if they answer back we have a lot of punishment to do besides spanking their butt, commonly lot's of people slapping, pushing the heads or hiting the hands or telling them too make their heads down in the floor with the hands behind the body, and legs are spread out for couple minutes .... it's more than enough to make them discipline, but it's better teach them before they doing the bd things, so the punishment will not be fall to them

i don't think the ways are too much different. it's just that, the purposes are the same, like punishing them if your children being rude. but what differs from now and then is the tools. maybe last time parents used to can them, but nowadays, parents would think by restricting their time to use computer and play games, that's some kind of punishment for their misbehavior.

In my environment, children are all rude. Their parents don't care about them. They parents just brought them out in the world , and when they already can walk and run, they will be out of their houses and playing. Their parents, don't care if they will meet an accident in the road. They eat for themselves, their parents don't care. I saw 3 years old killing cats on the street, for him that is what playing is for. Parents never disciplined their child. When the children have bruise, their parents will get angry and spank them in the face and the children will cry and cycle and cyle. If you show your concern on their child, the parents will leave a comment , like who the hell are you teach me how to grow a child? like a smart one huh! I can say now, the parents are brave to bring out a child in this world,but they are not serious in the responsibility. That is why there are many bad people now a days!

Discipline is far different today as it was years back. I know that even back when my husband and I were growing up we knew that you didn't talk back to your parents because it was disrespectful and we knew that if we did we got our butts spanked. There was the fear factor back when i was growing up and not so much to where I was afraid of my parents but because I knew that if I didn't listen and respect my parents that I would be punished. Kids now a days don't seem to have that fear of their parents and it has caused kids to talk to back and disrespect their parent and the biggest thing is is all of these kids know that if they talk back no big deal because parents are no longer allowed to spank their kids or they can get in trouble for it. I guess it is a good thing because you had some parents that took it way to far but I also think it has caused the kids to be more out of control. The way i discipline my kids are to first make them stand in for a time out and if it gets worse than I will start to take things away from them..things like video games, television, phone calls, snacks, friends coming over, that sort of thing which in the long run I think works more effectively than the spankings because they get over the spanking within a few minutes but taking away there items that keep them busy seems to bother them more.

children are very smart and some are rude they are not easily motivated unlike the children in the past they could still follow their parents command without threatening.

children before are more obedient though they are rule by fear they still grown as a good adults. while at present times their is less discipline and children acts more smarter than their parents.

Love can achieve anything in life but it doesn't mean that beating up your child shows no love for your child. It's just an act to make them realize that they are repeating a bad behaviour.

Today children could easily get away from their parents and think more smarter, when parents spank them they could just call the phone number of the authority and would be the one to manage their children complaints. so even the parents like to discipline their child they could not do so being fear of being imprison. in terms of discipline the children in the past are kind most of the times and no rude.

I prefer pinching because it is not so obvious. Yes, kids need to be reminded when they go out of control. A lot of times misbehavior is due to the fact that parents or adults fail to remind these kids when they are bad. They need this very much since they are still growing up. That is the difference between good kids and bad ones, the former being disciplined at home, and the latter aren't.

Parents in the United States are powerless over their children. At any point their children can call Child Protective Services, or simply tell the school guidance counselor that their parents disciplined them physically. They WILL and HAVE put parents in jail for spanking their kids for behaving badly. This is why the youth of the United States are for the most part mannerless and rude. They know the power they have over their Parents and they exploit it to the full extent.

When I was a child, many, many years ago most children were spanked when they misbehaved. My mother would talk to us and explain why our behavior was unacceptable. She only had to spank me once. That was for sassing her. My father did not understand children. He would just grab the strap. I frequently didn't know why I was being punished. Now parents are afraid to use corporal punishment on their children for fear of being reported as a child abuser. There should be a middle ground.

Hi! The ways of raising children now are much more different from the ways when I was a child. I think today is more difficult to raise a child, if you want to give it a good, I mean really good education. With the computers and the other things, the kids don't go so often out to play with their friends, they learn more uncensored thing from the internet. I am a teacher and see the behavior of my students- they are so vulgar and so nasty! I even wonder if they are the kids or I am! SO I am for the old ways!!!

Quite often now a days most parents take a hands-off approach to child raising. Here in our country juvinial crime is climbing and children younger and younger are finding themselves in detenion centers because busy parents don't take the time to properlly displine their kids. They leave it up to daycare centers and schools to do the job for them. However, the persentage of parents that are actually being parents are finding new methods of displine. Spanking is considered a form of abuse mainly because agression is often taken out on the child. In turn instead of learning, that you do something wrong, you get spanked, children take it as, Okay I did something my parents disapprove of so if I'm angry-- then I can be viloant hit slap bite attack etc-- to feel better. They aren't learning a right or wrong from the behavior. Now a days, at least here in the US, parents are encouraged to use a punishment system with conquances. At the same time the conquances are explained to the child so they come to understand that it was their actions that created the reactions of the parent. This, in my opinion, is the right way for children to understand the value of right and wrong.