Do you believe that mothers should work?

@iona84 (18)
Romania
January 14, 2010 12:52pm CST
Nowadays it is very common for mothers to workouside the home. Whether a woman should stay at home or join to work force is debated by many people. Some argree that the family, especially small children, may be neglected. The fact is, however, that many woman need to work because of economic reasons or want to work to maintain a career. Ibeleive that every mother has the right to work, and the decision to work should be one that the a woman makes on her own. But first she should carefully consider the many problems that affect mothers who work. The major problem a working mother faces concern her children. She must either find a reliable person who will be loving toward the children or a good day-care centre where the children can go. Even though a mother is frequently forced into working for economic reasons, she soon discovers that there are added expenses. Her biggest expense is child care. Another expense is transportation. This may include purchasing and maintaining a car. Last but not least, she has to buy work-clothes, food at work, etc. I personally believe that even though she faces major obstacles, these obstacles are not insurmountable. Many mothers do work and manage a family very successfully. What do you believe? Can a mother have a full-time job and also share her left time and love with her family? Is it firstly her right to make this choice?
16 responses
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
15 Jan 10
i think it is good if a mom can afford or is willing to stay home with her kids. it is a good bonding time for them and their parent. i was lucky that i got to stay home when my kids are little and only work part time now that they are older.
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
I agree with you, its better to stay home, If the husband can provide the needs of the family,.It would be great for the mom to stay home all day.watching the kids growing up,have a good bonding with the kids. I am just at home all day, taking care of my hyper son., and I am enjoying it.
• India
15 Jan 10
hmmm right.. if mother would stay in home only then it would help in maintaining a great bonding.. mother should not work leaving their kids behind at home.. working is okay till any woman is not married or dont have kids.. but after that i dont agree..
@maximax8 (27049)
15 Jan 10
I was lucky that my mother bothered to stay at home to look after me when I was a child. I will always be grateful to her for all she did for me when I was a child. My sister has been a stay at home mom since her first baby was born. She is still at home caring for her youngest child. My sister has to budget carefully to make sure she has enough money to buy food for her family and pay the household bills. Her husband does a full time job and always has done lots of overtime. When I was pregnant with my first child I was working in temporary jobs. I had returned home from my trip around the world. When my son was a baby I studied for qualifications in order to go on to teacher training. I was able to go to university when my son was a toddler. When my studies ended I become a primary school teacher. My son had to go to a child minder when I was studying or working. I think it is challenging for every mother to have enough money to stay at home looking after her children. I believe part time work is valuable to help such a lady. Then she could work two or three days of the week to make ends meet. She would be able to spend lots of time with her children. Child minders cost quite a lot these days. I know it is excellent for a lady to be able to be a stay at home mom.
@amitavroy (4826)
• India
15 Jan 10
Well I think everyone should work but then it depends that is the work type that you are giving. I strongly believe that everyone should work no matter what. If you are not working then your body is not active and that makes you prone to all kind of health related problems. So, if done as per normal way then I think is working will not affect much. But yes, if you are getting too much stressed then it is something that should be avoided.
@sedel1027 (17868)
• United States
15 Jan 10
Personally, it is up to the family to make a decision. A lot of people are not lucky enough to be able to live off of one income. In my opinion, if you can't afford to stay home with your kids for at least the 1st year - you shouldn't be having them to begin with. I believe it is important for a parent to be home at all time with a child, especially when they are really young. Now as children get older they require interaction with their peers and should be placed in an environment (at least a few hours a week) where they can learn and interact with children their own age.
@Jae2619 (1485)
• United States
15 Jan 10
I think that's a choice that needs to be made between spouses. She may have wishes to stay home and be a full time mother but the family can't afford her to be home, so she needs to work. That all needs to be worked out between her and her husband. I don't think she should just up and say I am staying home full time, with out first talking it over and weighing out the pros and cons with her husband. When my husband and I had our first child, it was discussed daily for a long time on what we could and couldn't do. We both wanted me to be able to stay home, so we had to learn alot about being frugal and going with out the extras that all of our friends and other family members were going out and doing. Though when times get tough, I do go and find some part time job to make ends meet better, though I feel I am missing out on so much with my children, but I know that though i am working outside the home for a few months or what ever it takes to make ends meet, that it is helping my kids out. When I do have to work outside the home, I am little more worn out but I still make sure my kids get the time they need from me. I think which ever the women decides she will have to make things work for her and her family.
@mistlady (114)
• India
15 Jan 10
I am a mother of a four year old and it is recently that I took up a job. My husband shares the responsibility of looking after my son and so do my inlaws. My husband is in the defence services. Here in our country, work timings in the services are very flexible. As such he gets to come home early and he is there to drop him to school, feed him his breakfast and lunch and then go back to work. I work very far in the city and my work timings are not flexible. So when I come home I feel happy that my husband is already at home and with my son. I spend the rest of the evening with them and in the various chores of the house. Now that was about my own life. I am lucky that I have my husband to be there with my son, however being a working mother I realize how important it is to work and make a world of your own where you are working, earning and socializing. I know lots of moms who are at home to look after their children for names sake but are frustrated and unhappy. This eventually shows up in the child's upbringing and quite often mothers try to push the child to succeed to derive satisfaction from their success. This can be bad for the child as well as for the mother. On the other hand if the child goes to day care, he learns to socialize and be independent. He also prides in his mother who along with father contributes to the house. Eventually it is not the quantity, but the quality time that you spend with your child that matters in the child's upbringing. I firmly believe that mothers must have the right to make the choice to work and earn for themselves and their family and that mothers must work whenever they feel they are ready to do so.
• India
15 Jan 10
i am agree upto some extent, but wholly depends upon situation, and situations may vary from person to and time to time. i must say the world outside the home not always make you feel rejoiceful, sometimes it gives you unbearable wounds that takes a long time to heal. there are various hurdles are come across when a women go outside home, this is interpersonal matter where a women is finacially needs any types of support or not .............
• Canada
15 Jan 10
I dont have children but if I did, Id want to be home with them. My nephew was in a daycare and he was kept in bed or sat in front of the tv for most of the day. One day, the daycare worker told my sister in law that he broke the blind in the bedroom. Turns out he nearly strangled himself. Needless to say, my SIL took him out of there fast. My mom didnt work (outside the home) Im glad she didnt. I remember coming home from school and she had a snack waiting for me and then I could tell her all about my day. Those are great memories. So many things happen today that Id be afraid to leave my children with total strangers. BUT, I do NOT judge mothers who work. Im all for freedom of choice and if they enjoy having a career and have children, more power to them. Its an individual choice. I dont know how they do it though but kudos to them.
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
My mother managed to have a fulltime and take care of us. When we were young, we were just two, me and my sister. My father and mother compromised their schedule so that each of them can take care of us. When we were a babies, we have our grandmother with us. When my sister turned 10, she can be a responsible one to take care of me. Each member of the family accepted the situation so we do each others contribution just for the sake of the family. We done it successfully. My mohter don't have to give up her job just to be with us. When she arrived home, she take care of us. She never get tired of taking care of us. For me a mother must take of care of her children, but if she really want a career, having a business is a good way, because being an employee, it requires a lot of time being in the office. They can neglect their children because of the number of responsibility at the office.
• India
15 Jan 10
I don't think mothers should work just for their hobbies or interest. If there is any serious neccessory they should work and if there is no finencial needs the shouldn't work.
• United States
15 Jan 10
Well if she is a single Mom and trying to support a child/children then I completely respect her for sustaining a job for her kids. In those situations what choice would she have? But in general? I think at least for the children's younger years a mother should be present. I don't feel that a daycare can even come close to making up the absent times a mother is away. If the father can support the family then I think the mother should stay home. A career can come after the children are in school and not home all day. But that is just my opinion.
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
15 Jan 10
It is definitely her rights. Everyone should make their own decisions so as not blame others for any unhappiness or consequences. I think the mothers would have to calculate if it is worth the working. It really boils down to how much the mother can earn, then deducting how much expense would have incurred from her working. And there is the calculation of the invisible factor, how much quality(morality,affections,education,safety,etc) would be lost for the children when she's unable to be around when she works. There's also the mutual agreement between spouse before she should work. No point working if the marriage is going into destruction because there's no agreement from husband.
• Indonesia
15 Jan 10
I believe that a mother can have a full-time job and also share her time with her family.I have one good example: My mom :) I'm not saying that a mother should work, because it depends on her choice. But I think, working can keep you young. I found many people, especially women who still work in their old days, look younger than their age.
@angela018 (143)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
hi! well,, i do believe that mother can work.. its ok to help also in the family to increase the income. but it is not right and will never be right if the mother is one who is working for the family.. the hell!!... that she is only the one who gives the needs of the family without any help of the father.. and of course the father should give a give role about giving the needs of the family..
@ramos7881 (345)
• United States
14 Jan 10
I have to agree with RAVENBLADE. It definitely depends on the situation at home (how old the kids are, each individual child's needs, and the availability of good daycare providers). For me personally, I am NOT successful at balancing home and family life, but my husband and I are both working for the time being and doing the best we can. It is very difficult and all of my children are in public school for at least half a day and we did find a good daycare provider. I am hoping that either (1) my husband will gain steady employment to allow me to stay at home or (2) we finally figure out how to make it work for our family. On the other hand, I do work with many women who are successful at balancing home and work life and love to work outside of the home. I do believe that it is the woman's choice to decide whether working outside of the home is feasible (or if staying at home is)and if she can be successful at it.
• United States
14 Jan 10
Personally I think its just a matter of choice these days. Many people need two incomes to make it, and others only have single income families and have to work to pay the bills. But for those that have a choice its just a matter of balance in your work and family life. Many obstacles can be overcome by looking for work in fields that enable mothers to primarily work around their childs school activities. By doing that a parent can still work 4-8 hours a day and limit the amount of money they have to shell out for child care. This only works though if the child is old enough to be in school. As for chidren who are too young to be in school I really think its better to have at least one parent home the vast majority of the time. The one that works, whether that be the mother or father should be the one that can bring home the most money from their career.