After breaking up with your BF /GF,whether you were still contact them?

@samire (55)
China
January 14, 2010 10:12pm CST
Some time ago,with my former boyfriend broke up,but the phone is still left his phone number,each time I open my phone,there is always the urge to call him,but I know this is no longer possible and good,but I could not bear to delete his message,how can i do?Whether to delete his number?Please tell me!thanks!
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24 responses
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
You know i was like you we have in common in this situation. It's hard for me to delete everything connected in him coz i feel and i like to connect to him still. I am tempted too. I always read his messages and i'm happy to do that. But we need to move on. we are longing for them but they are not longing for us. It makes our heartache too much. So in the first place it really hurt to delete all things from him. But once we do all memories of him be deleted also and try live a new life without him. Time will come there is another man that will makes us happy too. Don't stop with him is his memories. Let's move. Try to do this things friend. Have a nice day!
@samire (55)
• China
15 Jan 10
Thanks!I will soon forget him,he does not deserve my thoughts,fighting!
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
Good! And you're right. Fight and start a new life... Be happy!
• India
15 Jan 10
I think that its best delete the number as i think that since you have broken with your guy its best not to call him until he calls you..guys should only take the initiative andif a girl takes a intiative it is said that the girl is really in need of a guy rather than in need of a true love..thats what people in my country tell about love..i dont know what people in your country tell about love and breaking up... Happy Mylotting
@samire (55)
• China
15 Jan 10
I have decided ,because I think a lot of feeling for him is not worth paying, he is so hypocritical,I have to throw any of his things,rebuilding my live.
• United States
15 Jan 10
Honey, don't call him... Not now. But you don't have to delete his number. My best advice to you would be to just be patient. It sounds to me that you still have strong feelings for this person.... Sounds to me like you just have to wait and find out how strongly this person feels about you. Good Luck.
@samire (55)
• China
15 Jan 10
I will not wait for him,he is not worth.He is a feeling crook.I have to wait for the future of him.
• United States
15 Jan 10
This is a new year start it off without baggage. Toss out the number and move on.
@samire (55)
• China
15 Jan 10
Thanks,I believe that my new year will be even better.
• United States
15 Jan 10
That kind of depends on the breakup and how it happened and why. Most of the time when I am done...I am done. I am the kind of person that gives until they have nothing left to give and then walks away, so that is usually not an issue. As for deleting the number and messages, you will when you are ready! Best wishes to you!
@samire (55)
• China
15 Jan 10
Thanks,I believe that i would soon be out of the shadows.
• India
16 Jan 10
Well this all depend upon the circumstances that how you broke up and how you see them after break up. I think there is nothing wrong in contacting being a human being but if they don't want that you contact them then it will by foolish act to bother them.
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
16 Jan 10
i just got back in touch with my ex g/f. to me that was the pass and we didnt break up on good terms. but now we will talk once in awhile. but me and my wife used to hang out with her ex
15 Jan 10
I dont think there is any problem with having his number in your phone. If you really feel like calling him maybe you should. You cant really say you could end up as good freinds. I have some friends who had similar stories but they are now freinds with the former partners. This might not happen all the time, it depends on the kind of person your boyfriend was. Anyway all the best.
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
It definitely depends on what happened between the two of you. If it ended well wherein you two have decided to part ways for good reasons and still remain friends then keep his number. But if it did not end well it still depends on you if you just want to keep his number just in case he says hi the next time with good reasons. Just because you are not together does not mean you cannot be friends. If deleting the number will help you go on then go ahead. But if it will help to just keep it first just in case something happens or something then your choice.
• United States
15 Jan 10
Okay.. i order to find your prince...you must know when you are not missing out...what i mean by that is, you deserve someone who care about you as much as you care about yourself.. and people break up for a reason.. if everything was fine and okay you probably wouldn be having this issue right now... so when you get th urge to call him, think more of yourself and move on becasue im sure you deserve it.. the first step to moving on, is erasing the number so you never feel like you may need it in the future for some odd reason.. the longer its in your phone, the longer you will be tempted to call someone who would not call you! It will get better with time.. i promise!
@clcllo (1)
• Hong Kong
15 Jan 10
i am in the same situation with u, i just broke up with my bf,but i really wanna call him!my last time broke up with my bf which is my first love,i spent 3 years to forget him and fix my broken!!this time is also hurt me alot!i don't know what to do,but cry!
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
15 Jan 10
Hello, are you still in love with him? if yes, why you two are breaking up? well, if something you can resolve then you should be back together, and everything will be alright... no worry and no hassle. But if thing can't work out then, you did the right thing. Let him goes is the best and dont call him. Just delete his number and be strong yourself. I broke up with my ex boyfriend about 3 years ago. recently, I saw him online and he talked to me as normal. we just chit chat every time he sees me online. I dont think it is a big deal cuz he knows that I am married and he also has another girl.
@anqial (58)
• United States
15 Jan 10
i will delete his phone number. once you delete, you will never see the number, then you will never think about the number.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
It depends, if your ex-boyfriend is still single then why don't you try tell him your real feelings? who knows? he feel the same way for you. but If he's committed with someone new, then I think you should learn to forget him or it would be better to delete his number and all of the messages. Good luck.
@maria1081 (1252)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
I think after a year of no communication my ex-boyfriend had the courage to contact me. Its because he knew he was wrong thats why it took him a year before he communicate with me. I let go of the past since I knew it wasnt meant to be. If you see a chance that you can still get back together or just be friends why not call him. Its better to try than regretting something because you didnt try.
@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
15 Jan 10
If you are over him and think you can just be friends, I'd just leave the number there. Personally, I don't feel the need to keep in touch with my ex's, but I know some people do.
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
I believe there's nothing wrong in contacting ex-partners AS LONG as it is ok with your current and his. If it will create conflict between you and your current, then I guess you have to forget all about it. Now if you're both single, that's different story =)
• Indonesia
15 Jan 10
Ah yes, that kind of dignity problem right? Hehe. Well yes, its hard, at first. But dont worry, it'll solve through the time. My suggestion, you don't have to contact him now, but you also don't need to delete his phone number. You might need it later. Well, someday you'll contact him as a friend. Its not that hard, you just have to wait. ;)
@dhysanne (451)
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
If you really want to move on, I think you should delete his number. In this way you won't feel guilty or sad because you did not end up together. But if you are still hoping that he would call again to come back and start all over again, it is okay to keep his number.
• Philippines
15 Jan 10
It depends on how you broke up. If he said you can still be his friend then do not delete his number just show him that you are a good friend after all what happened. Don't show him that you are still in love that you still wanted him. Just plain friends.