Would you marry someone you love, or someone that loves you?

@Hanan_x3 (294)
United States
January 15, 2010 11:11pm CST
You can't have both. Which would you pick? Would you pick to marry someone you love, but doesnt love you.... or... Marry someone who loves you, but you dont love them? Which would it be?
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14 responses
@cloud31 (5809)
22 Feb 10
I prefer to marry the one who loves me..In particular reason,if the person love me then i would probably make a way giving him care and who knows by loving me i can learn to love him in return at least i know he love and i will not fear of anything he is just taking me for granted. Happy Lotting!
@verptc (246)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
I pick someone that she loves me for what I am because we live to love.You will learn to love her at some time.
@jhenn22 (1242)
• Philippines
17 Jan 10
for me i would rather choose marrying someone that loves me than marrying someone that i love yet doesn't love me in return. Marrying someone that i love yet doesn't love will ruin my life. i guesss it would be nice if you marry someone who loves you constantly and i believe that time will come when you will realize that you can love him / her in return for the love and care he/she gave you.
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
18 Jan 10
Marriage is a thing that is totally a personal issue. So it is best left to those who want to marry or who are of marriageable age. If you see the Indian marriage institution, you will find that there is no place for love in marriage. Of course, I am talking of the era gone by where the marriages would take place without even the two concerned persons having any gravity of the situation. There would also be marriages that took place by giving in to some sort of situations. But now the scenario has changed completely. Love has found place in marriages. Some people jokingly say that in love marriage there is love first and then marriage. So, taking all this into consideration, I think that should be a mutual understanding only then can a marriage proceed.
• India
16 Jan 10
I would definitely marry the one who loves me, as sometimes, when we love someone whole-heartedly, and on expressing our feelings to her, they won't accept us would just make our heart. So, that would shatter us or make feel sad for sometime or the entire life, so to be happy and content, it is nice that I marry someone who will care really for me, and will find happiness in my happiness!!
• United States
17 Jan 10
I think before you marry somebody you should know that you love each other. Marriage is the same thing as eternal bonding and you don't want to spend forever with somebody that you do not love, or somebody that does not love you.
@farazkh1 (1153)
• Pakistan
16 Jan 10
I think its better to marry a women who love's and i will consider it to be the best.for me now it is my nature that i care for everyone whoever needs me but i don't love everyone because in order to love specially a women to marry i must respect her as a person because of her Righteousness,values & dignity then it will be possible for true love. However i consider it unacceptable to marry a women who is not interested in you,and this kind of Marriage does not bear any fruits...!
• Canada
16 Jan 10
I would marry someone who loves me. If I loved them and they did not love me, I would get hurt and be constantly hurting. I may not be in love with the person, but he would love me, so he would not hurt me. I think I could still manage to be happy, assuming I like the person atleast a little.
@abhaijith (2963)
• India
16 Jan 10
Friend, I believe that in this short life time we should give more importance to those who loves us than those whom we are loving.So i think,for a happy life marry someone who loves me and going behind someone whom am loving is a wastage of time unless they have the same mentality as mine. What about you friend?
• India
16 Jan 10
I think the most important it who loves me than I love someone. In my case I will pick up the second option for sure..............
@Fulltank (2882)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
Even though none of it won't work (but for the sake of discussion), I better pick the second option. It would be better knowing that someone you didn't love will love you. At least you know that the person will not hurt you the way you are hurting him/her.
@dhysanne (449)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
If I can't have both, I would choose to marry someone who loves me because I know that he can give me all the care and support from me. I know it's hard, but I think he will give me some time to learn to love him back.
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
I would marry the one who loves me. Even though I might not love her during the perfection of such marriage It has been said that people often learn to love someone in the course of time. Although the same can also be an argument for marrying the one you love but doesn't love you.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
This question seems easy but is not actually. LOL. anyways, i will marry someone i love. this is difficult, insisting yourself to someone who doesn't feel the same way you do. however, the fact the he/she agrees to marry you is like giving you hope that somehow he/she likes you too. i don't think someone will make him/herself tied with someone if he/she does not feel the hope of loving that someone. you must show him/her how much you love him/her and you can do everything in the name of love. but in the end, if all your efforts does not work, don't be sad or sorry.. because you know you do the best you can and atleast have chosen the one you really love.