i know a woman ,,, she is brave n she is strong

Malaysia
January 16, 2010 5:22am CST
she went against abusive husband to raise her four children , she raised them in the abusive environment without them even knowing it happens .. yes he did abuse her physically at first, then he abused her emotionally ~ she was trapped in that hose, she still is there but she has too she says she does no want to leave that life because her life is history, she does not want the future of the children to be affected in any ways .. yes ! she is my mother, she loves us ..my father, he loves us too but they are so confused couple ~ they hv been together for 48 years now cheers
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• India
19 Jan 10
A typical Tamil family. Most of the Tamil woman have suffered at the hands of their husbands, including my mother and my wife. I have to admit that I am a bad husband who has abused my wife frequently. It is because of my short temper, that all the anger is shown on her. If it was any other woman, she would have left me a very long time back.At the same time, I cannot think of a life without her, and I always pray that I have to die before she goes.Yes, we are also a confused couple.It is because of woman like your mother and my mother and my wife, that we are having a good life, and we are able to chat. Long live the Tamil woman, and Tamil culture.
• Malaysia
20 Jan 10
hai ramesh u better change and be good to your wife dear ... come to Malaysia for a holiday, i make the arrangements for u cheers
• India
20 Jan 10
I will certainly come to Malaysia, and Singapore. This is one thing I have promised my wife, and I will certainly meet you there on one of these days.Yes I am trying to change myself and this is also one of the promises which I have never kept. So let me see.
• India
23 Jan 10
I was just reading the discussions with no thoughts of responding and then I saw your posts. All I really wanna tell you is that " Love your wife, She must be a really wonderful wife who ought to have left you but instead put up a strong front for the kids". This life that we have is really short, We don't know when we will be gone and it is up to us as human beings to love and care for those around us and let them miss us when we are not around. You know yourself very well, how much you are abusing your wife( your word). All I am saying is you don't need to buy expensive stuffs to make her happy. But we woman, we like soft words and wants to be counted and needed too occasionally and likes to be reminded that we are loved. You can get something for her this valentine or maybe on her birthday. Love her. will you? Ramesh. May God bless both of You.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
19 Jan 10
She feel the pain, she find no happiness in her marriage and yet she put up a brave face for the sake of her children. I salute your mom for her patience for going through the 48 hellish years with an abusive husband. She is really a wonderful woman.
• Malaysia
20 Jan 10
hi zandi long time did not see u in my discussions ... missed your wise comments. Yes she is a wonderful woman but so sad that she lost herself in the journey of 48 years .. now she is so stubborn and do not even want to move in with the children, she want to stay home and fight him and show him who she is .... Oh mommy ~ cheers
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
20 Jan 10
I haven't seen your posts lately not until when I took a journey to check on others discussion that I bump into yours. The point is once committed, husband and wife stay together and grow, not separate and sulk. Sure there may come to a moment when both, calmly and respectfully, decide to move down different paths, but jumping out of a moving car isn't wise or healthy. Should stay in the seat and enjoy the ride. Every human should practice forgiveness, tolerance, and compassion. This won't always be easy, but it will always be for our growth.
@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
18 Jan 10
I think every woman is brave and strong.Woman is special creation of God.woman could doing many things.Can you imagine how many task at home.It have no finish since wake up until sleep night.woman do pregnance and give birth too.So,it be proper to respect and love her surely.
• Malaysia
20 Jan 10
yes here is a song for you dear ~ Early in the morning I put breakfast at your table And make sure that your coffee has its sugar and cream Your eggs are over easy, your toast done lightly All that's missing is your morning kiss That use to greet me. Now you say the juice is sour It used to be so sweet And I can't help but to wonder If you're talking 'bout me. We don't talk the way we used to talk It's hurting so deep I've got my pride I will not cry But it's making me weak. CHORUS: I'm not your Superwoman I'm not the kind of girl that you can let down And think that everything's okay Boy, I am only human This girl needs more than occasional hugs As a token of love from you to me. Ooh, baby... I fought my way through the rush hour Trying to make it home just for you I want to make sure that your dinner will be waiting for you But when you get there you just tell me You're not hungry at all You said you'd rather read the paper And you don't want to talk You'd like to think I'm just crazy When I say that you've changed I'm convinced I know the problem You don't love me the same You're just going through the motions And you're not being fair I've got my pride I will not cry Still I can't help but care. REPEAT CHORUS (twice) Ooh baby, look into the corners of your mind I'll always be there for you Through good and bad times But I can't be that Superwoman that you want me to be I'll give my love, oh lasting love If you'll return love to me REPEAT CHORUS Ah ha, If you feel it in your heart And you understand me Stop right where you are Everybody sing along with me! Ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh, ooh! Ooh, ooh, ooh, oooooooooooooh! I'm the kind of girl that can treat you so sweet But you've got to realize that you've got to be sweeter to me, yeah I need love I need just your love by Karyn white
• United States
17 Jan 10
How sad! And how strong all of you are! My heart goes out to all of you for having to deal with that. And in a small way, my heart goes out to your father who has this weakness and apparently doesn't know how to change or has the will to. Perhaps he was abused when he was a child.
• Malaysia
18 Jan 10
hi sweet my dad was not abused when he was a child ...he was manipulated by my grandmother into thinking my mother is enemy, she even told him that we the children are around only for his money and will leave him stranded one day .. actually out of her 9 children only my dad does not realise her wickedness, all my aunts n uncles have no contact with her, they dont even talk to her , my last aunt who took responsibility of taking care left her at nursing home .. my mom took her in for some time , within two weeks my dad was not eating at home .. we told her to give up being nice ..after almost half year - my brothers had a talk with dad n he returned home started eating again .. cheers
@shibham (17025)
• India
16 Jan 10
Some claps for that mother india. Salute her. SHIBHAM
• Malaysia
17 Jan 10
yes the indian blood goes across the border n across the sea too cheers
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
She's not only brave and strong...She's a great mom. She must be served and she must be loved...
• Malaysia
16 Jan 10
yes bing ... she is a great mom n i am lucky to have her as mine
• India
1 Feb 10
Hello my friend sanjana_aslam Ji, Am I dare enough to prefix your mother like 'JHANSI KI RANI', who never surrender to Britishand kept on blowing freedom siren till end. Your mother is great . One shouild learn lesson from her. She sacrificed everything for you all. Now it is yor turn. May God bless You and have a great time.
22 Jan 10
what a great mother! two thumbs up for that;) That is selfish love you call.. It's not easy upbringing her children with so much pain in her heart but all she did was an amazing one. You better award your mother for that.. Make her day a special one to compensate her pains inside. just protect her.