The silent treatment ;mute mode!!!!

@icesmile (7172)
Romania
January 16, 2010 12:10pm CST
In your relation, love, marriage, friendship, if somebody want argue with you, you will answer in same way, or just keep silence, just because you know that you are right, but you think that don t deserve to argue with somebody who really don t deserve? "The silent treatment can be a technique of torture, producing a certain degree of pain, forming part of a ritual, creating a spectacle , seen by all almost as its triumph.”(Michel Foucault) In an argument, when you KNOW you're right,you will argue, or just keep silence? Sometimes, to argue is really funny, you can watch this, is really funny!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kQFKtI6gn9Y
4 responses
• United States
16 Jan 10
Hi, Ice! I'm not much for arguing, but level-headed discussions are better for me. The silent treatment is definitely torture, in my eyes!
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
16 Jan 10
I really want you opinion, because i know how much smart and educated you are; if somebody try to argue, and you know that you are right, but really don t want to argue, what you will do? argue, or just keep silence, because you are sure that don t deserve to argue, with somebody who really don t deserve?
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• United States
16 Jan 10
Thanks! Just this morning, I told someone, "Why don't we just agree to disagree? Obviously, we don't see eye-to-eye." She thought it over for a few seconds, and told me everyone doesn't have to agree. That led to a very pleasant conversation!
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
16 Jan 10
Good solution...but only if you have with who can find this solution..
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
17 Jan 10
Hey icesmile! I couldn't watch the video because something was wrong with it, but I sure can respond anyway! My boyfriend is one of those that refuses to argue and it drives me crazy! I am the "vocal" one in the relationship and will fight all night if you give me the chance! He will just ignore me and not respond which is more maddening! He will totally ignore me and give me the silent treatment until I go totally insane! I hate it so much! I shake him, poke him and do anything I can to make him talk, but he won't! He usually wins because I give up and leave the room! Damn him!
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17 Jan 10
oo the silent treatment.. i gotten that many times. it's unbearable. but i found a way to counter it. That is to do the same but you have to be determined. You ignore them and don't talk to them for like 3 days. Usually it works, they come back next day talking to you and stuff but if it doesn't then you gotta go apologize even if it means to throw away your pride.
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• Canada
19 Jan 10
i would not want to give someone the silent treatment, because I would rather be able to say what is on my mind. I have never been the kind of person to excercise a right to remain silent. Hey, if the other person is going to open their mouth on the issue, I might as well take the same opportunity. I'll remain silent when they remain silent.