Do you experience sudden loneliness?

@kafueenu (1073)
Philippines
January 17, 2010 12:40pm CST
I often experhience that I just feel sad all of a sudden, with no reasons at all. I feel like crying and all that, I don't know if its a medical condition, or I am just a weird person. But when the loneliness attacks me, I just want to feel numb, sometimes I sleep to ease it, but crying is the best way to release it, or somebody hugging me. The weird thing is, I don't know the reason behind it.
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25 responses
• India
17 Jan 10
Develop any habit like reading books, surfing or chatting on net. Replace your loneliness with this habit. Whenever you feel lonely start doing that new habitual activity. I don't know it will help or not.
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• Philippines
18 Jan 10
I agree your suggestion might be an alternative to get out of depression. I hope others try this
• China
18 Jan 10
Yeah.sometimes, we just need to do some thing to make us busy and we will get the feeling of happiness,relaxation,fullness...from it.And we will also find the world becomes so beautiful and meaningful..I have also had this kind of feeling of loneliness but now I become a happy girl..
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
I am most of the time pre-occupied at stuffs, but that doesn't stop my emotions to bring it all out. The previous responder suggested that I should see a therapist, maybe I should.
@danitykane (3183)
• Philippines
17 Jan 10
yup..just like now... I don't know why I got mood swings..(lately) I haven't been like this before..Is that because I'm getting older? grrr! haha! Oh no..but I think it's just normal, cheer up! You are not alone, I think every person at one point experienced this kind of loneliness.. Whenever I feel lonely I think of the beautiful things that happened in my life.
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@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
Maybe I have the same reason, I am getting older, wahhh!! Peter Pan save me from this doom hehe.
• Philippines
23 Jan 10
lolz.. no you're not crazy love! haha! that's funny. Ohhh really since high school? uhmmm... have you like consulted any physicians or psychologist in that regard?
• Philippines
22 Jan 10
You think so? does this really has something to do with us getting older? But I am having this emotional swing since high school... Am I crazy and abnormal?!?
@maezee (41997)
• United States
17 Jan 10
That's too bad. My lonliness/depression is a little more long-term than what it sounds like you're having; bouts of sadness & depression. Possibly you could talk to your doctor about it? Or a therapist?
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@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
I have thought of that, but at the back of my mind I expect the doctor to laugh at me hehe. I think my mood and emotion shift is funny to others. Even my boyfriend thinks its one of my weirdest characteristics.
• United States
17 Jan 10
I don't think you are weird at all, probably just lonely!maybe you should try to hang out with people more often and that might help. Perhaps with more interaction it wouldn't be so frequent. I have frequent feelings of loneliness but my circumstances do that. I am caring for my son who was injured in a wreck. Mostly people don't come to visit us anymore so I feel lonely. I'm kinda getting used to it even though I am generally a very outgoing person.
@dikonoha (122)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 10
i still haping that until now!
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@rhino5 (32)
• United States
17 Jan 10
I also feel lonly at points of everyday life. Sometimes when im at church i feel like i should be there with somebody. We all feel lonly sometimes. Don't worry sooner or later u'll find somebody that fixes your problem.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
17 Jan 10
Thankfully i never feel like that as there are always things that keep me busy as well as there are ways to get to chat to people other than seeing them.The way you discribe you being lonely it sounds like you are getting depressed and are on an all time low.I tend to keep busy no matter what as then i do not worry about anything any more,life is easier as well that way.
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@andy77e (5156)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Do you believe in God?
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Sometimes I think that unexplained loneliness is because we are not as close relationally to God as we need to be. What do you think?
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
I do, but what is the connection? hehehe
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
you are not alone kafueenu! I am experiencing that too... one moment I am okay then all of a sudden sadness hits me... Are we crazy or something??? Well I guess there is something on us that is making us feel depressed, like we have frustration or something... or we want something which seems to be impossible to attain... no matter how much we tried... Or we simply don't want where we are right now like we want more and expecting too much about ourselves or from other people... It is a feeling that is within us, which we are sometimes in denial... So it just hits us... for there is an empty space...
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
Maybe we are the same person? haha Is that possible hehe. You really understand what I am going through.
• Philippines
22 Jan 10
the same person??? It depends... are you pretty and smart? If yes, then I think you are right... HAy... it is really frustrating when this thing hits us suddenly without notice...
@satya4186 (279)
• India
18 Jan 10
according to my view if you live alone so often u have to this problem but if u live few people so i think you will be ok.
• India
17 Jan 10
i ver feel the lonliness because i have lot of freinds and i like to get new freinds at all times.. in journey at new place i catch the peopee very easily and make them my freinds.. and in rest of time i like to work on my hobbies.. so keep keepmyself always busy wich get result in happi and cheerful life
@sofear (42)
17 Jan 10
Everybody experiences loneliness in life.We cannot be like an island,alone n sometimes deserted.We all need someone to chat to,have a laugh with and all.Sometimes people need time alone,just to chill and that is normal too.I experience that kind of feeling alone and wanting to cry or drink myself to oblivion.And I think that is because I lack someone to be intimate with,someone to share my thoughts with.I then feel like I want everything to go dark.I close the curtains and make sure that my flat is comletely dark,then I lie in bed for hours,depressing and crying,not wanting to talk to anyone.So don't worry,everyone gets like this,even those who don't wnt to admit it.
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@Trojin (187)
• United States
17 Jan 10
I'm experiencing it right now.. I'm alone at home and my girlfriend is.. I think in church, so.. no one to talk to. Worst feeling in the world.. I get restless and bored.. I pace around a lot and sometimes I even just start to worry about people for no reason. It's just how we are, I guess.
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@ltruong (128)
• Australia
18 Jan 10
i think you need someone in your life.. you have a space there. your body is longing for another person you just dont know it yet
@kafueenu (1073)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
I have a boyfriend at the moment. But now that you've mentioned it, I remember going through this loneliness when I was still single. hmm...
@lbbaby (489)
• China
18 Jan 10
Well, I feel the same sometimes with you. I think it's normal that people fell sudden loneliness. Generally, there are several days in a month we will have that feeling. I don't think we should pay much attention to it but just try to keep positive thinking I think it's ok.
@shavvy (86)
• India
18 Jan 10
yeah i experience the emotion of loneliness past 2 and 1/2 years back....when my parents are not accepting my love for a guy who is younger then me and i was so helpless i am very close to my parents and my bf..at that time i dont want leave both of them..i used to cried silent inside and nobody was seeing...its was very sensitive time for me...and now my relation is more stronger with my bf and my parents accept him...i think they need more time accept and comfortable...now i still feel some fear if i lose him then but happen i love him and trust him..so i have to very patient with every situation..
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
I feel that too but I have my reasons why I'm sad. I missed my life back then my friends are around unlike now I don't have a friends around. I'm feel that I'm left behind and I don't know where my life is heading right now. I'm clueless if what gonna happened to me without my parents. I'm still depressed with my health condition and it is hard for me to get over it and to move forward.
@nijolechu (1842)
• Canada
18 Jan 10
Maybe its a deep down subconscious thing. There are times where I am lying in bed just crying or feeling sad all of a sudden with no particular reason. I guess it helps to let those kind of emotions out once in a while so it doesn't consume you or build up later on when you explode at someone. Sometimes I think it helps to talk to someone you know like a family member or a friend or consult a psychiatrist.
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
Hi I viewed you profile, So you are also a Filipina like me..Its nice to meet my fellowmen here... anyway, I also feel that whenever a loved one or a friend leaves..or I remember a lonely situation from the past..
@azedicus (43)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
yes, everytime. I live alone and to feel lone, lonely and/or lonesome is part of my daily life. We'll I think it's normal to feel that way especially going home with no one waiting for you after a tiring a day of work but the only reward i get from it is, no sacrifice no victory...