Is it better to be physically attractive or intelligent?

@Java09 (3085)
United States
January 18, 2010 7:39am CST
I'm not into my looks so much these days as appearance don't get anywhere's in life.This makes me believe that intelligence is important to me and I do wish I had some of it.With intelligence,I'd be able to get a good career.I used to be wrapped up in my appearance and I didn't get anywhere's.Appearance is only good of course if you're gonna be a model or something.I was a dancer,but that don't last forever.I had fun doing it but it's hard to get a job dancing when they all want the young ones,which makes me out of a job.I gave it up a couple years back,but I have memories of it.What do you think intellence or appearance is better in life?
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@sunnycool (12736)
• India
18 Jan 10
coming to me i would prefer being intelligent coz there is nothing more valuable than being innovative and the whole would be at your finger tips coz they go crazy if your innovative stuff goes off well with them and i always look for that.And the beauty comes to rescue sometimes but not very often though.Beauty would be an added asset though when it comes to attending interviews its obvious that someone who is really good looking would get a glance first and a little bit of impression on the interviewer in terms of knowledge would fetch you a nice job.great day.
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@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
19 Jan 10
Put it this way; someone admitted to my Mum that they employed someone else (not in a job that Mum was going for, it was just mentioned in conversation) that a woman was employed because one of the panel liked her SUIT! These days, nice suits actually go against you because the (usually female) panellists are jealous. That's what I reckon, anyway. The times I've looked better than the interviewers you wouldn't believe! If I don't get the job (more nay than yay) I think to myself, "Their loss!" It is this thought that keeps me going, my friend!
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
I think it would be best to have both of these characteristics. Missing one of these can have some disadvantages. If a person is intelligent but is not physically attractive, he/she can still have difficulty in looking for a better job since one of the qualifications for job employment includes "with pleasing personality". Well, this is true. I have a friend who wasn't able to make it to the final interview simply because the manager didn't like her because she is not beautiful. She cried in front of me and told me that she felt very self-pity and unfortunate because she was not born with an attractive appearance. On the other hand, being beautiful without any contents in the brain is also useless because some jobs also requires intelligence. So it would be better to have a balance of beauty and intelligence.
@mlhuff12 (799)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I wouldn't say that a "pleasing personality" would fit in the category of physical beauty. I don't know where you are from. I don't know much about law, but I do believe in the US that if you are refused an interview due to your beauty that is illegal. That would be violating the equal opportunity of employment. If this was the real reason it could be grounds for a law suite. Unless that is that the job was for something like being a model where they were soley looking for just beauty and that's it. I think that more often than not the not so beautiful people have way better personalities than beautiful people.
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@andy77e (5165)
• United States
18 Jan 10
I would take either one at this point. I'm stupid and unattractive. So either would be a step up for me. But generally intelligence would be a plus... but rather than that, just a skill. I've met smart people who couldn't hold a job, because their 'intelligence' didn't translate into sellable skills. If I just had a skill of some sort, that would be enough. Something I was good at. Wood working, managing, accounting, engineering, heck anything. Even if it was pipe fitting, anything that paid more than $10/hour through a temp agency for the last 10 years. But alas, I have no skills at all. At least you were good at something you loved for awhile.
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@raj_ka (431)
• India
18 Jan 10
hi, I agree with you intelligence is needed for surviving in this world.Similary beauty is also needed.It doesnt mean he/she should be physically attractive, but should atleast consist of inner beauty as you are a human being. Beauty is also a gift and is equal to intelligence. In some jobs even physical beauty is considered and if we are not happy with such field it is better to improve inner beauty. They are people around the world who just struggle through out there life to look beautiful but they never think about intelligence. What i want to say is they never want to do something different using their intelligence but concentrate more on beauty. Do you think every person in this world justify their jobs using the intelligence.
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@kiran8 (15399)
• Mangalore, India
18 Jan 10
Hi Java, both traits have their uses...One cannot actually do anything about them - you are born beautiful,average or below average in looks. It is the same with Intelligent, it is partly inherited and then it depends on how it is nurtured and fine tuned .So if one has both, there is nothing like it. For those who lack one or the other it is a challenge to come up to a certain level in life. Honestly i wouldnt give too much importance to both. It is the total personality that really matters. My grandma had traditional looks, not what you call beautiful ,but dignified , she had lots of common sense and wisdom and she was a fabulous person, loved and missed by all to this day...So what matters is what you make of yourself - all the best and happy mylotting
@wizteen (505)
• India
18 Jan 10
Intelligence is the real stuff. appearance is just the icing on the cake ;) that would be my opinion.
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• United States
18 Jan 10
I can't choose between the two of them. I find you need both to hold down some jobs. I have never seen an unattractive receptionist.. I also have never seen an unattractive court room worker. Lawyer or even a judge on tv. maybe it's just me but,in my book you need a little of both.
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@megamatt (14327)
• United States
18 Jan 10
Intelligence is the more important of the two for sure. I mean, when you break it down, getting though some of the tougher parts of life, are done with intelligence. Looks can only get you to a certain point and after that, you sink or swim depending on your intelligence. And they do fade with age. If you are a person who is not very intelligent and just got by mostly on looks, well those people are in trouble when they get older.
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@joyadalia (1409)
• Philippines
18 Jan 10
Having lived with intelligence but no beauty most of my life, I wish I was more physically attractive than intelligent. There once was a time when I would gladly trade my IQ for good looks. Now that I have grown up, I realize that it is best to accept what you are - you can't have it all. Well, with intelligence I got through school, became a licensed chemist, got a job, then quit to become a freelancer - my own boss. I wouldn't know what I would have become if I did not have a good IQ but had beauty - I might have become a model but that is not guaranteed, right? Plus, beauty fades as you grow older (so they say). I say, to each his/her own. You can choose beauty, you can choose intelligence. As for me, I'd stick with what I have - intelligence over beauty
@jho2010 (155)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
We are all created in the image of God, but i know that all all are not created equally.Some are born beautiful, some just have common looks, some are ugly, some with physical defects, some are born talented, intelligent and some has standard level of intelligence, some with no intelligence at all.There are also some created beautiful and intelligent but has some attitude problems. My point here is no one is created perfect, maybe almost perfect, but still not PERFECT at all. Beauty and intelligence has many advantages if we're talking about career advancement, but for me that are some factors, i mean it does not make the whole you. Let us not forget the character and ability of each individual.Each one of us has different characters and ability to do some thing, even a little thing. I think what matters most is the one with a golden heart, a person who knows how to give love,care,trust and being considerate of others, without expecting anything in return.True beauty comes from with in, the one with a beautiful heart!
• South Africa
19 Jan 10
Intellegence is certainly more supreme than looks, but looks are also important. You really don't have to loook like a supermodel to be attractive. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think I have seen women sexier than the woman posted in magazine as the sexiest woman in the world. I have seen women more beautiful than Halle Berry. Don't get me wrong, I think she is very beautiful but not the most beautiful in the world. These people have not even seen me! What I mean is every one is beautiful and sexy in their own way. If we keep defining beauty according to the standards set by these superficial people then eating disorders and other forms of self mutilation will never stop. Have a good day!
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
physical beauty fades.intelligence is forever.it can grow as time goes by.with beauty,it will fade once you get older.you will instead be replaced by pretty,younger ones.while beauty can get you what you want - a handsome boyfriend,a modeling career - it doesn't last forever.
• United States
19 Jan 10
I believe that it is important to be intelligent, but to some degree you still need to be attractive. A brain will only get you so far and so will looks for that matter. I have worked very hard to attain the highest possible degree in college that my finances would allow me to attain, but I still feel that you need to take pride in your appearance. I don't believe that either one should stand alone. I person should work hard at attain knowledge, but they should also work hard to be visually pleasing.
@atleya (947)
• Indonesia
19 Jan 10
I think ideally if we could combine attractive appearance and intelligent together, because both of them are support one each other. Happy mylotting. Best wishes,
• China
19 Jan 10
intelligent is a safer bet although if you are attractive you will probably find a rich spouse or become a celebrity in which case you will end up having a successful life.
@LaurenR (54)
• United States
19 Jan 10
Off the bat, physically attractive. People can't know that you're intelligent from across a room. However, looks can only get you so far. If you're not intelligent after the initial attraction, you're not going to get very far.
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
19 Jan 10
In my opinion, intelligence is far more important than appearance. I don't care how muscular you are, how toned your body is or how beautiful your face. Those things fade over time and all you are left with is your intelligence, or lack thereof. Think about it, would you rather spend your life with someone who is intelligent or someone who just "looks good"? Personally, I would rather spend my life with someone who has a mind and can, at the very least, hold a decent conversation. Growing up, I remember two things very well. One, I was teased a lot about my weight and the fact that I was not the prettiest girl in school. The other thing I remember very well, is how those boys and girls who were the good-looking ones and the popular ones came to me for help with their school work because of my high ranking in the class. I was both teased and respected at the same time. I have seen pictures of some of those people, as they are today. Let me tell you, their looks have faded, their muscles turned to flab. They relied so much on their looks to get them through life, and now, they don't even have that.
@dong88 (796)
• China
19 Jan 10
Oh,Hello! I think it may not .of course ,with is also not a bad idea but it is not essential .I think that a person ,the most important thing is self-cultivation,internal quality,which is to have a good working and succussful most needed. I wish you luck !
• India
18 Jan 10
I would prefer being physically attractive cause nowadays everything is look wise related no body has time to go deep and look for your brains.But i don't say physically attractive dumb personality but physically attractive with some decent common sense.
• United Kingdom
18 Jan 10
It would be nice to have both but if this is not the case then I would say that intelligence far outweighs physical attractiveness! The sad state of the world though is, a book is judged by its cover! A person is judged by the way they look and this is a real shame. After all the years that have passed this still goes on, nothing has been learnt! Andrew