It's not YOU, it's ME

@mommyboo (13198)
United States
January 19, 2010 9:52am CST
Have you said this to anybody in your life - and what did you mean by it? LOL! I have heard this phrase so many different times, in many different situations. I've even SAID it before, but when I have, I have tried to mean what it says. I get the feeling many people say it because they want to try and keep feelings from being hurt - more or less blaming the breakdown or failure of the relationship on themselves instead of the other person. How have you used it? Be honest with yourself, even if you don't feel like being honest with me There won't be any disclosing of information, it's safe here!
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
19 Jan 10
i have never used this phrase before. but i can see how in some situations it can apply. i mean sometimes it is you and not the other person. i just have never used it. only cause it's never me!! LOL LOL...
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
21 Jan 10
It's never you... lol! That is the first time I have ever heard someone say that!
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@34momma (13896)
• United States
21 Jan 10
that's cause i'm honest!!
• United States
21 Jan 10
i dont think i have used it but if i did i would use it for the real meaning but would prob feel they are thinking im bs'ing them lol
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
21 Jan 10
People always think you are bs'ing them.... especially when they are EXACTLY the people who need to hear it or have the boundaries put on them lol!
@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
19 Jan 10
I have heard this before too and have used the saying myself and have meant it and was not said to try and avoid hurt feelings. Sometimes something may go down and I amy not be feeling compliant and is when I will use this. Or if plans were made and then i decline at the last minute is another time I may use this but not as often. I do agree that sometimes people may say this to another and especially in a breakdown of a love relationship and in which case I believe it is used so to try and avoid hurt feelings or feelings of guilt for the breakdown.
@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
2 Feb 10
Lol, thanks for your comment. Guys have a tenancy to use that line as well when their relationship isn't what they expected either. Funny. How tiring is being insincere. It is so much easier to just say it like it is. Would you agree?
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
4 Feb 10
I'd rather say what I mean and mean what I say, but I have found that some people cannot deal with that and they get angry with me for not apologizing for what I say. If I say something, I pretty much meant to say it. I also have a certain threshold, beyond which I don't care how it comes out... lol! Most of the time things can stay civil, but if someone begins taking advantage of me after I warned them a couple times, it's on. For instance one time someone was offended by a status on facebook on a friend's wall. I was half joking with the person and I posted back 'sorry that you're offended but I'm not sorry for agreeing with my friend' because I WASNT sorry. I thought what she said was hilarious. I was simply sorry that the person didn't find the original comment funny lol. Sometimes people won't find things funny.
@dawnald (84142)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Jan 10
I don't think I've used it, but it sure is a cliched phrase for ending a romance. I think the intention is to make the other people feel better, but I seriously doubt that it does...
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
4 Feb 10
I have found that the few times I have said it, it hasn't had anything to do with that type of relationship lol.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
19 Jan 10
hi there, i have used this phrase so many times, i try to keep from hurting my gf, sometimes even if it was her mistake i just say it's okay that wasn't your fault even i do such mistakes and umm like you mentioned here, i have used it when there have been some misunderstandings, well even she has used it for me. . i only hope such situations don't come..