It's not YOU, it's ME
January 19, 2010 9:52am CST
Have you said this to anybody in your life - and what did you mean by it? LOL! I have heard this phrase so many different times, in many different situations. I've even SAID it before, but when I have, I have tried to mean what it says. I get the feeling many people say it because they want to try and keep feelings from being hurt - more or less blaming the breakdown or failure of the relationship on themselves instead of the other person. How have you used it? Be honest with yourself, even if you don't feel like being honest with me There won't be any disclosing of information, it's safe here!
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19 Jan 10
I have heard this before too and have used the saying myself and have meant it and was not said to try and avoid hurt feelings. Sometimes something may go down and I amy not be feeling compliant and is when I will use this. Or if plans were made and then i decline at the last minute is another time I may use this but not as often. I do agree that sometimes people may say this to another and especially in a breakdown of a love relationship and in which case I believe it is used so to try and avoid hurt feelings or feelings of guilt for the breakdown.
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4 Feb 10
I'd rather say what I mean and mean what I say, but I have found that some people cannot deal with that and they get angry with me for not apologizing for what I say. If I say something, I pretty much meant to say it. I also have a certain threshold, beyond which I don't care how it comes out... lol! Most of the time things can stay civil, but if someone begins taking advantage of me after I warned them a couple times, it's on. For instance one time someone was offended by a status on facebook on a friend's wall. I was half joking with the person and I posted back 'sorry that you're offended but I'm not sorry for agreeing with my friend' because I WASNT sorry. I thought what she said was hilarious. I was simply sorry that the person didn't find the original comment funny lol. Sometimes people won't find things funny.
19 Jan 10
hi there, i have used this phrase so many times, i try to keep from hurting my gf, sometimes even if it was her mistake i just say it's okay that wasn't your fault even i do such mistakes and umm like you mentioned here, i have used it when there have been some misunderstandings, well even she has used it for me. . i only hope such situations don't come..