How we define ourselves

United States
January 22, 2010 6:28pm CST
Or maybe more to the point: why do we define ourselves? I read so many discussions about how someone defines themselves or someone else and I hear many discussions about the same thing. Now I ask: why should we feel the need to define ourselves at all? Why can't we be just who we are? Do we feel the need to be this way or that way? I don't define myself as just a mother or daughter or grandmother. If you take out all those factors than how do you define yourself? Do you feel the need to say I am a writer, a computer geek, a dreamer or whatever?
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@vandana7 (63594)
• India
23 Jan 10
I am the ordinary person, who likes things simple and and sweet, wont crave for much, but enough to survive, not envious unless looked down upon, a learner forever, a lover of music from whichever world, occassionally dabbling in areas where I dont belong, and have enough to cry enough to flood the world with my woes (he he), but yet brave enough to spell it and tell it. I often doubt myself, my intentions. I am guided by conscience - now. I use logics to condemn lol. What else, oh! yeah, I get angry when people behave rudely and selfishly. I can stand up to defend baby cubs, and baby lambs. LOL. Other than this, there is nothing to me.
@vandana7 (63594)
• India
23 Jan 10
Babies here mean - any friend. he he
@vandana7 (63594)
• India
23 Jan 10
do you remember ABBA - "I am nothing special in fact I am a bit of a bore...", well I cant sing either. :)
• United States
23 Jan 10
The Lamb lies! He can sing and sing very well! I am the same way Vandana..simple. I don't need much and as long as I have what I need to get by I am happy.
@fwidman (11517)
• United States
23 Jan 10
As a youngster I was the "bad boy" then I became a respected member of society by working for a living. Now I am retired and I am a bum. How's that? When we are kids in school it seems important to be in some sort of group, geeks, bad boys,goodie two-shoes, whatever. But once you are out of school then you should simply be a human being
• United States
23 Jan 10
When did we start trying to define ourselves? You are right; most of this does start in school. Either we are in one group or another and everyone feels the need to be part of something. By indulging that need, we start defining ourselves to ourselves and to others. Why do we feel the need to be part of a group? Why don't we have our own group; party of one? I realize, of course, we want companionship and need others to talk to and interact with. Why can't we interacted with everyone and not define ourselves by the "group" we are hanging with?
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@fwidman (11517)
• United States
24 Jan 10
Good question. Now if I had a good answer, I'd be pretty darn smart
• United States
24 Jan 10
If I had that answer I would be smart too cause I would be able to answer my own question!
@blackbriar (9080)
• United States
23 Jan 10
I don't feel a need to define myself to anyone. I do it if the occasion calls for it. If asked, I'll answer..cut and dried! Whadda wanna know?
• United States
23 Jan 10
I don't feel the need either and I think you have kinda gotten to the heart of my question. Number one: why do we try and define ourselves and two why do we try and define ourselves to anyone else?
• United States
23 Jan 10
I'm not sure but think some people do to try and fit in. They believe their lives are boring and want spice in it so will even, at times, stretch the truth out or downright lie about certain things....to themselves as well as others.
@singuri (571)
• India
23 Jan 10
I am a guy who is not so sensitive.Totally stubborn if I think I want something. Most of the times I am a positive guy.I love to browse net and watch movies in my laptop. I love to solve puzzles and want to be more energetic.I play games a lot and want to be a good athletic person.Take life sportively and move on positively what ever happens.I love this quote.
• United States
24 Jan 10
Ok...and that has to do with my question how?
@bird123 (10484)
• United States
23 Jan 10
Don't our choices and actions define us?? We all have control over that, so what choices and actions will you take, so that we all can know just who you are??
• United States
23 Jan 10
This is just my point. Why should anything define us? Why do we need to be defined? I don't think any one thing I do or say defines me.