Are You Closer To Your Mum Or Your Dad? Who Do You Look Like The Most?

@Janey1966 (24170)
Carlisle, England
January 23, 2010 4:30pm CST
I have more in common with my Mum. Whenever I share time with her we go shopping and we spend time in the extension rather than going in the front room where Dad is. This may sound a tad strange but it works really well as Dad watches his own telly and Mum watches hers (they don't share the same taste in programmes) and he does come in to chat, then she pauses live tv so as not to be rude lol. Sometimes I will watch a football (soccer) game on telly with Dad and he likes that, I can tell. My Dad has his set routine every day that can (sometimes) drive Mum mad but she still works during the week...and she is dreading the time she will be too old to work. Having said all that they've been married over 40 years so they must be doing something right!If you look directly at my face, then Mum's you can see the similarities BUT I share Dad's eyebrows, chin and eyes but have Mum's thinner lips and nose. Strange that isn't it? I am short like Mum but my hands are like my Dad's with square-ish nails. My Dad worked outside for most of his working life but you would never know it looking at his beautiful hands. Gnarled they are not! I would say I share my love of the English Language with Mum and she is more open to what's on the news and retains more information than my Dad...although he understands a lot about the situation in the Gaza Strip...not that any of us are religious or anything. He just knows an awful lot about it and I can ask him anything about the Palestinians and the Israelis and he knows the answer. Maybe he has watched many documentaries about them, who knows?Mum once caught him crying a couple of times. The first was over a little boy that got killed by two other 10 year olds a few years ago. He kept thinking about Tom, his grandson, who was a similar age to the boy that died. It broke his heart. Another time there was a programme on about gorillas. Again, Mum caught him crying because so many of them were being shot in the wild for trophies such as their hands, leaving behind little orphan gorillas. Both my parents are compassionate in that way and I share that trait. I once saw a starving polar bear on "Planet Earth" and I shall never forget it!So, who do you look like? Mum or Dad? Who do you take after the most?
14 responses
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
24 Jan 10
I am closer to my mom than my dad .My mom is the one who has taken care of me for so long even when my father left .Incidentally too I look more like her than my dad and I enjoy sharing those feautures we have in common .I have her lips ,forehead and complexion adn most persons always comment on the similarity
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Jan 10
It's good that you get along well with your mother as she looked after you when your father left, it makes sense to me. Thanks for posting.
@vinabee (85)
• China
24 Jan 10
definitely i am closer to my mother,since i came from a singe parent family. i hate my father for what he have done, for the lack of his responsibility to this family. i do not want to see him again. i only hope my mother have the better life.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Jan 10
I am glad you get along so well with your mother...being a single Mum, it must've been difficult for her bringing you up on her own so I am full of admiration for her. Thanks for posting.
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
I'm closer to my mom too. Partly because I'm a girl and we have the same interest in shopping and movies. My dad would rather watch action flicks with gory and violent content than love stories that will sweep you off your feet. Apart from this, my mom proves to be more open minded in the changes between my generation from theirs. She's more lenient and allows me to commit my own mistakes. My dad follows a rigid structure in parenthood. There are a lot of rules that I cannot cross... Some reasonable, others I find unreasonable. But regardless of whom I'm closer to, I love them both dearly. They have characteristics that irks me and touches me but as a whole, my love for them is unconditional as theirs is for me.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Jan 10
Yes, it does tend to be the case that fathers are more strict than mothers. It was certainly like that for me and my brother growing up...but thinking back now I'm glad we were brought up in that way as we couldn't walk all over them, getting our own way all the time. Thanks for posting!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
24 Jan 10
I look like my mom. I even have her "body language". It's strange to because I never spent anytime with her growing up. Just a weekend every now and again. My personality is very different though. I think that is because of her to in a sense. I have based my whole life on not being like her.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Jan 10
Wow, that is unusual isn't it? Having the same body language and not spending much time with her growing up. I guess it must be the "genes." Thanks for posting my friend.
@alfroi635 (297)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
I still remember my young age when my dad and mom was still alive. I like my father most because he is a very good example to us. He have no vices at all and he spent his all time for the better of our family. On the other hand, my mom is so good to us and never scold us. But i really appreciate my dad's attitude in life and i am following that attitude right now. I hope this post of mine will benefit people.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Jan 10
I am sure it will my friend! It seems you have had a really good upbringing and good for you. Welcome to MyLot!
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
24 Jan 10
I say that I am closer to my mommy.I am also close to my daddy,but just more with my mommy because I feel like shes one of my best friends in the world and that I can count on her when I'm in trouble or need advice.Still I like both my parents the most because they raised me since birth and I am truly grateful to them for that.I love them so much and wouldn't trade them for anybody else.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Jan 10
Thanks so much for your response. That is a good description as my Mum is definitely my best female friend I have in the whole wide world.
@WATARIKENJI (1534)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
Hi friend That was a touching discussion. Having compassionate parents are treasures of children. I got the eyes of my mom, my dad's eyebrows and lips. I also got my dad's skin tone, we are brown skinned, being Malay in origin. My mom has finer skin tone, coming from her chinese ancestors. I am closer to my mom because my sister and I spent most of our childhood years with her. Our dad worked abroad for many years to prepare for our education and for our house. It was a sacrifice he had to take for us. We are proud for what he did and here in our county, people like my dad are called the "New Heroes" In terms of disposition, I am more like my mom but in terms of outlook in life, I share my dad's more. The whole of me is now a combination of mom and dad. As an adult, I now realized that what our parents led us to will have a huge impact in our present lives. Im proud having parents like them. Regards
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Jan 10
That is such an emotional and heartfelt response, my friend! Awesome description of your parents, it really is beautiful, thanks very much for sharing!
@Takashy (496)
• Latvia
24 Jan 10
Thats rather hard question. Mainly because my dad left us before I was even born. So naturally I'm closer to my mother... how couldn't I be? As for the look.. I'm not sure. I haven't even seen a picture of my father so I have no idea if I look even close to him or not.. which I would actually want to know. Mainly because.. well, I would like to know if I remind my mother of my father when she looks at me.. Its just.. the damn man hurt her and me (kinda) and I would like to know if she thinks of him when she looks at me.. :s
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Jan 10
I take it you have asked your mother this rather sensitive question? I don't know how old you are, my friend but it seems you are at an age when you want answers? Only you can decide what to do, I cannot influence that (nor would I want to) but, maybe, just maybe, your mother is expecting you to ask her what you've just said to me? Hope it works out, whatever you decide to do my friend and thanks for sharing, I know it must've been hard for you.
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
I like the most in my dad. I see my old face in my future in my dad's face.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Jan 10
That's a very thoughtful response, thank you!
• United States
24 Jan 10
Of course i gotta say I'm closer to my mom but I'm a daddy's little girl. I talk to my mom most of the stuff but not all :P
@felliana (114)
• Philippines
24 Jan 10
Me? am much close to my mom...oh the feeling is just way too different with my father, i'm much comfortable with my mom. i don't remember i was this close to my father, i'm scared of him. my father is quiet strict. unlike my mom, she was so adorable, so tender loving, caring and most of all i know she love me most, to the distraction heheheh nahh i love her too, very much, i'm so confident, i'm at ease, i'm so secured with her, oh i miss her so much. God bless her soul. and one day, when i become a mother too, i will do treat my children like what my mother did. she's my heroine. I MISS YOU MAMA. I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Jan 10
Oh my friend, I am so sorry you mother is no longer with you anymore I strive to be more like my own mother every day and I'm sure that you will succeed in treating your own children (when you have them) the same way your mother did. Good luck to you.
@dikonoha (122)
• Indonesia
24 Jan 10
i'm closer with my mom cause I often ask her hoe can I cuse a girl for my wife and have some advice from her, and is nice to do and I become more knew about a women stuf.
24 Jan 10
This is Really Very Difficult Question... Very Hard To Say Which One is Better... I Think Mom and Dad is The Same... Its Like In The Bible Wrote. Sometimes You Need More Mums Attention, Sometimes - Dads...
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Jan 10
Well, that's very true my friend. We all share characteristics of both our parents don't we? As I get older I'm becoming more and more like my Mum...but like my Dad i other ways too! It's kinda weird but I don't mind because I'd rather be like them than my in-laws haha!
• United States
24 Jan 10
I'm closer to my mom more than my dad since I was a little kid. Didn't get to see my dad much because he was always working late at night. As a kid I would see my mother more often. At one point I wanted to live with my father, when he got kicked out for some reason. Living over there made me realize that I didn't want to be there at all, we would argue most of the time. Loved being over grandma's house because that was the spot at the time with a whole crowd over there. Had arguments with my mother too but not as much. My father was always the one taking us fun places like the movies, bowlings, arcade, basketball or up to his job where we can see air plane shows because he was in the air force. I tell you the air plane shows we're the best being inside the plane as a kid getting spun around about thirty feet in the air and I was screaming being so high up in the air. Went on the base about every summer to participate in this show. Now that I'm older I still get along with my mother more do to the fact I live with her and still see my father on the weekends sometimes. It's like he did all the fun activities, while my mother played the role as a house wife. Family members say I look like my father, but I know it's because I'm light-skinned. our eyes look nothing alike as far as shape and color. To me a kid look more like the parent having the parents eyes.