My ex-suitor says "I'm too good to be true".. that's why he left me =( HUHUHU

Philippines
January 25, 2010 3:03am CST
I don't know what does he mean by this.. Sometimes I hate people saying to me these words because ALL OF US do stupid things most of the time.. =( but I just don't get it especially coming from him, telling me that "i'm too good to be true".. he blames me for being too straight, too proper and the worst part is that HE LEFT ME BECAUSE HE THINKS I DON'T DESERVE HIM.. What should I do? do I have to make a lot of stupid things just to please him? I don't think that's fair on my part.. i believe i'm just doing what's right and i guess all the more he should love me for that :( what do you think???
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19 responses
@mjcookie (2274)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
Most guys are either intimidated or BORED by that. I'd say, just keep on doing what is right. Only a few people are proper and ideal nowadays, because a lot of people feel a sense of pride when they do what is wrong, which is totally ridiculous. Maybe it's true that he didn't deserve you. What if the two of you got married, is he gonna mock you for being "too right"? You'll find the man that you deserve at the perfect time.
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
Intimidated? I don't get it.. why should he?? I mean.. I can be with anyone.. of course I know how to mingle with people.. aarrggghhh!! I don't know.. his reasons are just too lame.. thanks anyways :D God bless!
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@mjcookie (2274)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
Well, he already said it. "You're too good to be true." Maybe he felt kinda pressured that he couldn't measure up to your expectations, like what if he did the wrong things?
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• Philippines
25 Jan 10
woe, great avatar again! yeah, very true indeed... when their is love their should be no condition his reasons is just an excuses so that your feeling is only hurt slightly.
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@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
he's just your suitor and not your boyfriend, so what the heck, cecillecarmela... maybe, you're better off without him. being straight is not stupid, too proper, neither... if you think human relationships should hinge on pleasing others, it's not, cecillecarmela... before we can live for others, we have to live our own lives... like in the many discussions here, you express your own mind, not ride on the idea of a person who posted a topic for discussion.
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
Thanks bystander :) I'll heed that thanks again and God bless
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
there will be more, cecillecarmela. keep on posting, you can even send me a message...
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• China
25 Jan 10
Hi, cecille, I think it's an excuse! People always make up many excuses to break the relationship. And anyway, don't do anything stupid to rejoice him. It's worthless. Just remember there is someone who knows your value and love you! Good luck! And hope you will meet your true love soon!
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Thanks OrangJuice and God bless.. =)
@bulastika (5967)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
If he didn't left you. You will not post a thread like this and know me..lols. I think that is his reason to break up with you and same time not hurting you. The ugly truth is he realize that you have no appeal to him. The only reason he become your boyfriend because he want to be closer to your brother John..lols. Now that he has new papa he left you. That simple..lols Or he found this model in Ermita that is totally opposite with you. .. But bottom line is he wants break up.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Hahahaha =) that's funny.. but just wondering, why do man won't tell it straight to the point?? and is trying to compliment me for lame reason huh.. thanks for the response bulastika take care and God bless =)
@junmae (1592)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
He doesnt love you and I guess you should start moving on. People who cant appreciate you because you cant do stupid things are the most stupid. if that gu loves you he will accept what you are and what you only can do.
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• Philippines
25 Jan 10
thanks junmae.. i agree you're right.. but i just can't understand his lame reason.. is he stupid or what?? hhmmmm.. thanks anyways :) and God bless you!!
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@myzire72 (1157)
• Singapore
25 Jan 10
When your ex-suitor mentioned that you are too good for him, it could mean 2 things - he may really feel this way because of low self-esteem, or it could just be an excuse to part with you. Whatever the reason may be, you got to learn to live with it. In a healthy relationship, both parties should learn to accept each other, especially where shortcomings are concerned. It wouldn't be right to make yourself appear stupid or do stupid things just to please your partner. Even if you can persuade him to stay, it would not be for long and could even create more unhappiness. So, get yourself a new suitor and get on with life.
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
thanks myzire.. maybe some guys are just like that.. they use other excuses and hide the real score..thanks and God bless :D
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@Thiala (102)
• United States
25 Jan 10
You should just be you and if he doesn't love you because of that it's his loss and chances are if he is like that that he really didn't love you to begin with .
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• Philippines
25 Jan 10
Thanks Thiala.. I don't love him either.. hahahaha :D i'm just wondering all this time why he left me for that plain reason.. :) you're right.. i should just be me and someone out there will accept all of me.. thanks and God bless
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Almost all of my best friends and I are single. We've never had a boyfriend ever. There were guys who liked us but weren't that patient to stay, (since we believe in long time courtship). one of my best friends' mother said that "when a guy really likes you nothing you do will turn him off, because even the flaws would turn out to be the good stuff." which was very encouraging. i think what's wrong with your suitor is that he must've loved you, but that love wasn't enough to encourage him to become a better person for you, if he really things you're too good. love can do great things. when it's real, all its act can just be so great it'll be sufficient for two people. :)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Thanks hannanable :D I'll keep in mind what your best friend's mother said.. Just a question, have you already found the guy? Just curious :D Sorry.. if you find it too personal just don't answer.. i'll understand :)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
i'm still single. :) i casually like guys but i don't date anyone as much as possible while i'm still in school because i have the tendency of getting easily distracted, and i'm least enthusiastic to put my academics completely on the rocks. i also want to grow as an individual first before i commit on a relationship, so i could give my partner the appropriate time and attention that he deserves. ;) i hope your heart is okay, and that you'll find your someone soon. :D
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Thanks hanna :) I love your perspective about love :D I hope the right guy comes to us at the right moment :) God bless you :D
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
yeah, being in love many are capable of making self to commit many blunder many times, being blinded by love. it is the price one need to pay for being true to her feelings while being ignore on the other hand is a greatest pain when you realize in the end all goes in goes out with nothing seriously happen just fool of trickery and foolishness. Their are many reasons a man left and it just an excuses for him to tell those words just not to hurt your ego tremendously. Those words he utter is just an equivalent of "I don't love you anymore, so their is no need to hope for something to change". All you have to do is to learn the art of letting go, though it may hurt but you just do justice in your self do not ever rely on false hope i may say.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Thanks neelianoscet.. =) that happened a few months ago.. and i already moved on.. i just don't get his point.. why does he have to say those things when it's not really the real score?? i don't get guys like him.. they can't stand by their words.. anyway, thanks again and God bless, love the avatar by the way.
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
I am glad for you and I just wish you find someone who honestly loved you and whom you could trust to settled with the rest of your life.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Thanks neelianoscet :) you too.. may you find that someone.. and God bless!! :D
@sanuanu (11238)
• India
26 Jan 10
You know something these days I am in a great confusion. People say that I am very good but when it comes to have relationship, I am not able to maintain it. Most of the time girls say that you are very good and I want some badness in you to be my bf. See, your case and my case aren't much different, isn't it?
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• Philippines
27 Jan 10
Hahaha.. I agree.. love is indeed complicated.. :(
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@sanuanu (11238)
• India
28 Jan 10
It depends on us also that how we make a little easier for us, isn't it?
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@jhoanee (598)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
what matters is ur just being who u are. it was an advantage of his part if he founds someone like u. now if he doesnt contented or what ever his reason maybe i guess u better accepted it. who knows maybe he just telling u this coz he had his own reason it might be he had another girl and he just telling u this so that u wont feel bad on ur self or its better u didnt know his real reason at all or it might be true that ur too good for him. but whatever it is just dont lose hope and maybe theres still someone out there who is more deserving of ur love.goodluck and happy mylotting.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Thanks jhoanee for your opinions and advices.. deeply appreciated :) you're right, i should not lose hopeee.. :) take care too and God bless
@jhoanee (598)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
your very much welcome. all things just come and go. godbless you too!!!!
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@larish (2195)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
This is a very old cliche. Both gender give this excuse whenever they are falling out of love. Many believe that this is the best words to say when breaking up. Its the usual " its not you, its me" thing. lol. Just be happy that you're not the guilty party. At least you are now free to date other guys. Enjoy your being single. Date more and choose the best among these guys. Goodluck!
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Thanks larish.. God bless you :D
@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
that's just his way of saying that he's having second thoughts about you. i guess that's the mildest way of putting it. the fact is he's willing to let you go. i mean one can think things over and adjust and let you know of this you being too good for him while still staying in the relationship, right?. leaving is leaving is leaving is leaving. some people say it politely albeit stupidly but that's it. sorry.
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
It's okay.. you don't have to be sorry.. in my heart I knew it :) Take care Ritchelle and God bless
• India
26 Jan 10
Well cecillecarmela, if you love your partner and do not want to loose him/her you have to change yourself. I know this might sound a little hard. When we are young we feel, what we do is right and proper.Things might look stupid today, but after some years we might regret the fact, that things would have been different if we had acted differently. Life is short make much use of it. Young age is much more shorter, and in a blink of an eye we might reach middle age or horrors old age, where we would regret the things which we have done earlier.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Thanks remeshkumaar :) Will try to weigh both sides first.. it's hard to act on situations when you're not sure about it.. plus it's hard to get hurt that's why i'm cautious with my actions. thanks again and God bless
• Philippines
26 Jan 10
What, girl you have to have pride! This suitor of yours don't really know what he was saying. You have to forgive him and forget about him. It is like a slap in the face, but I don't see it like that. Don't worry there are men out there that deserves you, you don't have to think about him. Anyhow, do you like him?
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Of course I don't like him :) It happened few months ago.. was just asking why do guys have to give that lame reason.. in my own opinion, all the more he should love me for that.. :) i don't know.. maybe it's just his excuse of saying he didn't like me in the first place.. Now when I think about it, he's just right in his words :) i really don't deserve him! :D hahaha.. *so mean* anyway, thanks grecychunny for actively participating in my discussions and take care :D
@coolcoder (2020)
• United States
26 Jan 10
I've heard that if a guy says this to his SO, it's his subtle way of telling her that he's not ready to commit to her yet. It's not always the case, but I'm just throwing out a heads-up to you in case it really is what he's failing to come out and say outright. Good luck with this situation.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Thanks coolcoder and God bless =) probably that is..
@rmuxagirl (7568)
• United States
26 Jan 10
I had an ex leave me and he told me I was too good for him and that was why he ended things. To me it sounds too much as a cop out, i mean if a guy thinks a girl is too good for him why break up with her, hang on to her especially if she says she loves him. Is your ex saying he's too good for you? or that you are too good for him?
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
He says I'm too good for him.. really I don't get his point.. maybe he was just making excuses but the real score is he just don't like me..
@artistry (4154)
• United States
26 Jan 10
...Hi cecillecarmela, This is an interesting set of circumstances. He says "you are too good to be true" and he doesn't deserve you. Well if he stayed, was he then saying in essence he was going to do something stupid like cheat and so he felt that you would not understand him doing that because you would not cheat on him, and therefore the two of you would not be equally unfaithful. Sometimes men like to do things and they want you to be as fallible as they are, if you aren't then they have to go. If you can understand what I am saying. He wanted an excuse in the end to get out of the relationship, bottom line. But used that as a lanching pad. Find someone else who you will be happy with. Don't cry too much over him. Really not worth it in my humble opinion. He was right! Take care.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
Thanks artistry.. and you're right.. I agree with your opinions.. =) besides if the guy really loves me he should prove to me that he's worth it and won't go away for his lame and funny excuses. thanks again and God bless. =D
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jan 10
cecillecarmela What do I think? he laid out a smokescreen to cover his inability to tell you he does not love you. He is another one of the gutless wonders who cover up their inability to be honest by saying something like you are too good to be true blah blah, what he is really thinking is I dont love her so how do I get out of this relationship? Of course he should love you and should be honest with you instead of being too gutless to just say I do not love you anymore.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 10
I agree hatley.. I just don't get why some men would not just tell it straight to the point.. they can't stand by their words.. thanks and God bless