The meaning of Love

@stand87 (667)
Bulgaria
January 26, 2010 8:13am CST
Hi, mylotters! There was a moment in my life when I was thinking that true love do not exist. But time passes and now I know that if there's no love there's no humanity. Whatever we say, Love is a guide in our life. But let's talk about marriage. Do you think marriage means love? What's the basic reason of getting married? Is it all about Love or something else is more important?
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16 responses
• United States
26 Jan 10
For me marriage is the opposite of love. Love is free and beautiful and it makes things easier. As for marriage it closes you in and there is no beauty any more. So for me I have a choice, I can love a guy or marry him.
• United States
26 Jan 10
Oops. I didn't answer your other question. Many marry for love . The Only reason I would marry is to have children. To further the line of both families. But I never wanted children so that's another reason for me to never marry.
@IamSamm (75)
• Indonesia
26 Jan 10
Hey stand ! this is the legendary question thats been asked million times over the centuries isn't it? well as one of that million people who trying to figure out what exactly love means i personally thinks that to be able to be involve in such holy bound called marriage love is the number one a must have essence. and its not only the love to the one we getting marry with but also the love for the family member both our own and our spouse's family. Marriage is not only bout two person relationship but it's a family relationship so i personally want to make sure that both families are getting a long pretty well. Love is a must for me but not an innocent, naif love. And the most important essence that i think is very cruciall is that the reason i'll get married is cause i want to have a companion to be closer to God.
@stand87 (667)
• Bulgaria
26 Jan 10
I agree that it's one of the most discussed questions over the centuries. And I also agree that it's hard to define the meaning of love. But I know that we just can't live without it. It's one of the ways leading to happiness. That's why I prefer saying that Love is a guide in our life
@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
hi there stand.. there are a lot of meanings about love. some say........ Love is that first feeling you feel before all the bad stuff gets in the way. Love is like an eternal flame, Once it is lit, it will continue to burn for all time. Love isn't blind, it just only sees what matters. Love is a moment that lasts forever... Love means having strong feelings for someone that can be close friends, family or even someone in a romantic relationship. Love is a strong feeling that represents affection toward someone dear to you heart. love is learning to see the beauty in everything. Love is any of a number of emotions related to a sense of strong affection and attachment. he word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal attraction.. he Meaning of Love What exactly is love? Is there an absolute meaning to the word - love? Or is it purely subjective? The concept of true love is what we search for all our lives. Yet love is one of the most misunderstood concepts of all. What people really want more than anything else is to be loved unconditionally; to be accepted for who we are, and still be loved. Sometimes we will do some crazy things, in the name of love. Love is actually the choice one makes to put someone's wishes, desires and needs above our own. Many people confuse the word love with the meaning of the word want or desire. For example, sometimes when a young man tells the woman of his dreams, I love you, when he means that he wants her because of his own selfish desires. He's the one that may feel all excited over her, but in reality he may want her because of her physical appearance, or because of her mentality or her ability to make him feel good or important. Notice his primary motive for pursuing her is based on himself and his desires; not on pleasing her, although he may choose to please her, but that's only based upon the fulfillment of his wants. The same goes for a young woman, when she says to the man of her dreams, I love you, she in fact means that she wants him because of his physical appearance, status, mentality or his ability to make her feel good or important. This usage of the word love for the meaning of the word want is ever so present in the way we use and abuse it. Since we are selfish creatures, and our understanding of love is to first be pleased..... In conclusion, to love others takes effort, and in some cases this can be very hard work. Ideally, we should also be able to love people who we don't particularly like or find attractive. This is not as unreasonable as it may sound, if we understand that love is not just a feeling, but it is expressed when we do something for another person that benefits their spiritual and emotional growth, which in turn helps them realize their full human potential. thanks! happy mylotting! cheers!
• Brazil
28 Jan 10
I think marriage and love isn't always together. In the past, for example, the marriage was more about financial stability. Well, we can see so many couples with don't love each other. But I think it's very sad, I never would marriage without love, because... is a too much important step in the life, and i really want that when it happen, be for whole life. And on these days, almost everybody thinks like me. So, yes, I think love is the most importante thing in a marriage, while still exist people who thinks money (or something) is more important.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
28 Jan 10
Is this really a question to which there is an adequate answer? I'm not sure. However, I can tell you how it is for me. I got married to the most wonderful man in the world because I loved him. We had a daughter together and we both felt that it was important to raise her in a house that was full of love. My husband and I have been married for about five and a half years and we've been together for eight years now and we seldom fight. My husband is the one person to whom I feel like I can talk to about everything. He is my very best friend.
• India
27 Jan 10
love is divine concept and is immortal.it need pure heart and faith.love always keep everything togather ..it never brteak up things .it is like gravitational or universal forse.it has great power .it is universal glue.
@jho2010 (155)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
Marriage means the legal union of man and woman as husband and wife.The basic reason why a man and woman get married is because they love each other and wants to start a family of their own.But there are also various reasons of getting married, some are marriage for convenience,arranged marriage,forced marriage,and other reasons that still we don't know. So i don't think that marriage means love for everybody, because we all we have different reasons.As for me i marry my husband because we love each other and we want to live together forever....hopefully!
@cloud31 (5811)
27 Jan 10
Hi there Stand, Love does exist,but i don't agree that marriage means love. Some marriage been mutually arranged by people and even the concerned doesn't feel its love, we cannot comprehend that marriage means Love, Love is a feelings that came from the heart and not a responsibility. Once LOVE is involved the possibility of marriage is high but when comes to marriage not all have LOVE.In short marriage is either Love and responsibility.We cannot say that we marry somebody because you love him/her sometimes marrying someone is because you need to.. to be able to show your responsible enough and sometimes just to please someone that you doesn't want to get disappointed,or either sometimes you after something towards him/her.
@bingchen (1126)
• China
27 Jan 10
maybe it is true for me tht marriage means love.i select marriage because he love me deeply and give me the promise to care me the rest of the life.so i would be willing to marry him.because of love,the marriage can keep forever.if we have no love between us.i think that we could not live together.the meaning of love is important in my marriage.because of the love,so he can always care about me and pass the rest of life with me.
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
27 Jan 10
i don't know really.. i've never experienced love myself.. but i've read a lot about it. haha. love doesn't come from one person, it comes from both. you both need to put in effort so that a true loving bond is made. if a couple can't talk to each other about things than that relationship is doomed from the beginning. they made a movie based on a true story, an old woman dying in a hospital. her family around her but her husband holding her hand. there was some real true love going on between them, so the nursed asked the man when she had the chance.. how he and his wife managed to stay together this long and still love each other so much. he said.. i never left the room. never walked away from a conversation or stopped trying to understand. and that i believe is the secret of true love. not walking away. good luck in finding true love, stand87.
• India
27 Jan 10
hi stand, dear friend the definition of love is searching for centuries, no one can define it as accepted by all, we are human being, here on the earth for just 70-80 years, may be 100 years. but love is eternal. as this you can't define the need of marriage, it has different meanings according to the persons, to the situations, to the places, to the religion, and to the countries.
@MimiRemo (420)
• Philippines
27 Jan 10
Hello, stand87. Love has always been defined in so many ways. I think it means differently to each one of us, but pleasant and inspiring to all. For me, marriage is an affirmation of true love and married people are supposed to live by its sanctity.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
27 Jan 10
Hello stand87. For a brief second I was worried about you (LOL). It would be a sad life to get through without believing in love. I am glad you have come to see that love does exist and it truly is what makes life worth living. Marriage should be built with love as the foundation. Of course there are other important ingredients (such as respect,honor, and friendship), but they will be present if there is love. Different people have different reasons for getting married. Some marry to escape loneliness. Some for financial gain. It is my humble opiinion that there is nothing more important than love.
• India
26 Jan 10
Well I agree that love means marriage but only to some extent. Basically marriage should be called an understanding between two. When the two after falling in love with each other feels that they have understood each other well and can't live without each other then in that condition the marriage is done. Love can be for few days but marriage if for lifetime.
• United States
26 Jan 10
I do believe in true love. My true love experiences have not ended in marriage. I have had 2 such experiences. The first experiences ended with my partner dying and this second experience is existing right now and we live together. No marriage. I don't think marriage means love all of the time. There is a legal aspect to marriage that people marry for. I think when people are young they marry for love and in the later years I think it is for legal reasons and perhaps even convenience. People get married for a religious reason also. It's hard for me to say what is important about marriage having never been married myself.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
26 Jan 10
For me, marriage is about love, companioship and of course a lot of fun. You have to have fun. It doesn,t mean that if you are married, you do not have a life anymore. For me, i now have a better life, with my old hub. Love is important, but so is respect and trust.